How can one be so sure that these signs are for real? My ex boyfriend keeps on telling me he loves me when he hangs up the phone, and when I do seem him he likes to hold me but it does not get any better than that. Does he want me back? How do I know? How do I really know!

Sometimes they keep on telling you that they love you just to string you along and to have sex with you before he discards you for someone else. Make sure you don’t read too much into what he is saying if he does not back it up with actions, girl!

my ex is seeing another dude, and even had unprotected sex with him, and every time she talks to me it’s always about the other guy. I really think she wants to make me jealous or something, I don’t know what to think.

How can I get my ex husband back after a Divorce…We have to kids and definetly i still inlove with him, but how do I get him back, when I was theone who destroy the relationship and ask for divorce, how can I get a second chance when he says that he doesnt hate me but he doesnt love me anymore….How cani get him back?

sometimes a person will think of you as a safety net. saying they love you to keep them in the spot of your sex partner but when things happen and they meet another- watch out- you won’t know what hit you- it will feel like someone slammed a door shut in your face as you were running through it at 100 mph one day, just out of the blue. and there are those who you can read the signs if you allow yourself to be observant to them. if he acts one way and suddenly then stops doing those things he has always done or slows down in doing them, he spends less time with you. often has to go meet up with so in so about school stuff at 5pm. yeah know-he makes up reason’s to jam. he gets new friends. and you never get to met them. chances are they are really chicks named darrel and ryan. he get’s moody where he wasn’t moody before with you, he picks a stupid fight to get you mad so you will want to have space from him-(then he goes out while you are home trying to figure out what you did wrong) you catch him in lies, you find out he has been talking to his ex ( very seldom do they talk to the ex just cuz they are friends who don’t sleep together…don’t buy that line ever! ) when a guy lies on the phone to his boss, mother, brother, friend-know that he is lying then to you too. if you get together by way of an affair-don’t think he won’t then do it to you too. you aren’t really any better, or different from all the other’s like he tells you you are. you reap what you sow remember that always and you’ll be okay. many times because people are so selfish they will be quick to say I love you to keep them from moving forward until they are sure to have their hooks in someone else first-guys do this a lot! many just hang on just to keep from being alone and to be getting laid. THAT’S JUST THE WAY IT IS!

Well, I’m married. I honestly don’t want this guy Ive been seeing and loved for two years back. it is a long time in coming and it’s finally over! and it ended like a scene from a jerry springer episode. This guy is such a manipulative piece of work it’s not funny. It’s actually very sad that he had to go this route with his life. he’d gotten sober last year and I think his actions has pushed him back into it. maybe I shouldn’t give him that much credit! I told him all along I was too old for him, to please go out and mingle with people his own age. There’s 20 years difference between us. My oldest son is same age as he is. But he kept insisting he wanted to grow old with me. I hate to tell you this “wally” but I am old already and I would like to enjoy my life now that I have gotten over all the humps you haven’t even started to hit yet. good luck there too while I’m at it. I almost felt sorry for him at times. To love someone that much and them be so tangled up in other relationships has to be hard I would tell myself and finally pick up his call. He was devoted! My husband even said it was obvious the guy really loved me. boy did that cause me much confusion as my husband and I weren’t having sex with each other so I’m thinking my husbands saying hey go for it. But I guess I had a hunch maybe. or maybe I didn’t want to be with someone 20 years my junior. A kid for a boyfriend? no, not my idea of fun. I told him so many times to get a life and leave mine alone. he was persistent and attentive. where my marriage was lacking he was right there supplying what I needed. JUST LIKE A DRUG DEALER HE WAS! He still said on a regular basis that he wanted me all to himself. he said he didn’t want kids ever. I told him he would change his mind one day. the other day holding my grandchild in his arms he tells me, is when he realized I was right about the kid thing. Of course I’m right. I’m 20 yrs more experienced than you are. I guess I even forgot that myself. I’d been seriously thinking of walking out of my marriage and be with him just weeks before all this. perhaps he felt that too ( that I would walk out and go to him and then what?) and he didn’t really want what he said he wanted all along. I was just there is all I was to him. I can’t believe I was so dumb. but when you are already down is when the creeps do move in for the kill. if you weren’t already down they know you would never fall for their crap. God, looking back I made things easy for him and he was okay with me in constant upset, he was okay with me hurting my husband, breaking up a family ( we have one son living in the house and 3 dogs) and okay as long as he was getting some- helping put my marriage down the toilet, because he is a loser with no respect for anyone not even himself. I am ashamed for my behavior and seeking help to deal with my marriage. Me and this guy have parted now on an ugly note. I suspect he found someone new as I had always suggested he do. But he was cowardly and kept it from me, and then without reason just got all weird on me and even blamed me for his actions. he has been hanging out with a group of people I haven’t ever met. that was my biggest clue to date. I wouldn’t have made any stink at all about him finding someone new. I knew that was all it would take anyway to get his attentions off me onto someone else. we were friends there for awhile and did everything together. I will miss that very much but not the rest of it. A chapter closed in my long book of life is all I can say.

You people need to grow up. Relationships fail all the time. This doesn’t mean there are secret things you can do to ‘win’ him back. It simply means you weren’t compatible. Grow up and find someone else. Move on with your life and get some self-esteem.

My ex hurt me really bad,
After nine months he broke up with me over facebook. Every time he hurts me he later regrets it, except this time I stopped calling trying to work things out. His friends have changed him allot one dumping me but after I stopped calling for a bout a week, I found out he was depressed a home. On his facebook he said “its hella lonely when you take it to the next level and you werent prepared, and you didnt do what you should have back then”. The other day he texted me to drop of some of my things, does he want to talk and get me back?

I DUMPED MY BOYFRIEND BY NOT THINKING STRAIGHT I WAS REALY ANGRY BUT NOW I REALY MUC HIM AND STILL INLOVE WITH HIM WHAT SHOULD I DO

hey ladies and gents here is a story for you.
my boyfriends ex calls him back for random things like for instance call 1: in July she called and asked my boyfriend if he could get her a job at the rock shop where he used to work. she knew for a fact that he hasn’t worked there in two years prior and i think it is strange to call when you should have a summer job lined up already at that point. call 2: she calls him again and talks about her father being sick and current boyfriend got drunk at a holiday party and i am like she is not happy in her current relationship so she subtly telling him that she is not happy in her current relationship. so she in-turn said she misses the friendship they had and i was like red flag. i was stupid to agree to a possible friendship with her and that backed me into a corner later on which i will get with call 3. call 3: she calls and it is a missed call and so he calls her back assuming that her father has died or something and i am not happy, because it is around valentines day she call by the way can we say bitch. so to get back to call 3 he calls her up in front me and i hear from her exact words that your girlfriend feels like i want you back uh duh i am not stupid here and she proceeds to tell him that she misses their friendship yeah friendship and i am thinking that she may be single and regrets breaking up with him at this point and wants him back duh people would think that. she basically tells it like it is and try’s to cover her tracks. so my boyfriend and i fought for about 5hrs and he asked me to meet her and i was like hell no i don’t have to meet someone i don’t want to and from the argument i felt that he was fighting for her and not for me the woman he so call loves. so he eventually that night calls her back to talk with her with me not present for the call and so supposedly tells her to get lost and i am like ok now there is some doubt that he may or may not have secret agendas with her and i feel that way now. i am not insecure about my trust for him i just don’t trust her and her motives. i am not going to feed my boyfriend to the wolves essentially to put our relationship at harms way. so any way he tells her to get lost and now i feel nervous with everything that i do. i don’t want to give him more reasons to maybe leave me and i can’t tell him that and it bothers me. so that is my current plight so if you have any advice post.

These are the most ghetto comments I’ve ever seen on a blog. While I’m on the point, this website has a very backward, “ghetto” perspective on relationships. If someone wants you back after they broke up with you, you should run for the hills. Unless there’s been a fundamental life-changing event for either of you that was the sole cause of the break up that has now been fixed. Otherwise, they neither respect you or themselves and are stringing both of you along, into mediocraty. If he want’s you back, think of your good qualities and then move on. You can have someone that loves you, respects your limits and doesn’t break up with you to gain control.

Please also seek emotional help if you think staying in an off-and-on relationship or turbulant relationship is the best choice for you. A therapist will help you gain some better coping strategies and help you work on your self-esteem so that you’re happy with yourself (and don’t need a man to make you happy).

Best of Luck and All My Love,
Monika

sandra now also i hear comments he came by with one of his freinds and he really has never tried any thing in trying to get me back but he would ask one of my freinds at work how im doing what should i think now after not seeing him close to 8 months

there is a couple signs tht he does to me but the has a girlfriend and he says he loves her rite in front of me he flants her around me and tht hurts but he pays mor attention 2 me than he