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How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back In 5 Easy Steps

By admin | Wednesday, October 15th, 2008 | Getting Back with an Ex, Relationship Tips

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How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back

Guys are a strange set of creatures, they always want what they can’t have. If you plan to make your ex boyfriend want you back then you have got to make yourself tantalizingly unavailable to him.

1. The first thing you have to do is send a very clear message that you have accepted the break up and you are now moving on with your life. If you have any of his belongings in your possession or any gifts he gave you then send them back to him.

Do not deliver them in person.

The best way is to parcel them up and have them mailed to his address. Do not enclose any letters, he’ll recognise the stuff and get the ‘I’ve finished with you’ message loud and clear.

2. Never call this guy. Never send lovesick messages through your friends. No emails, no text messages, nothing…EVER…

3. …Until he calls you. Keep all communications from him as brief as you can. Be friendly and polite but answer his questions as shortly as you can.

“How are you?”

“Fine thanks. You?”

Never elaborate on what is happening in your life and don’t act as if your overly interested in what is happening with him either.

If he is talking too much, politely cut him short. You can say your mum or your boss is calling you or that you have another call waiting. Tell him that you’ll get back to him but of course never ring him back.

4. If you are going to be tantalizing to your ex boyfriend then you do have to remain visible to him. Maintain the same social circles and hang out at the usual places. When you go out, plan to have a good time and genuinely have as much fun as you can.

Let your ex see that you do not need him to enjoy yourself. Show him that your social life is on track.

You are strongly advised not to drink too much while you are out. Drunkenness will just say ‘out of control’ to your ex.

Your ex boyfriend should see that you are in charge of yourself and your happiness.

5. The key to getting your ex boyfriend back is to feel good about yourself. One of the best ways women feel good is to look good.

Invest in some new clothes and hairdo. Take extra care with your makeup and watch your weight.

Make sure that anytime your ex sees you, you always look fantastic. You’ll have extra confidence when you know you look great and he’ll definitely notice.

An added bonus of looking good and exuding self confidence is that you’ll attract attention from other people too.

Your girlfriends will be full of compliments and the guys will be swarming like bees to honey. Your ex is bound to feel a twinge of jealousy and possibly regret too.

When your ex boyfriend sees you in this new and positive light he won’t be able to help but try and reclaim what he instinctively feels is his territory. He won’t be able to stand that the new and improved you could get snapped up by someone else if he doesn’t act quickly.

The only question then will be, is if you really want your ex boyfriend back after all?

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225 Responses to “How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back In 5 Easy Steps”

Carla Jean Says:
October 19th, 2008 at 7:40 am

I already made some of these mistakes. Are they irreversiable? I’ve sent my ex some nasty text messages after I got drunk with my girlfriends one night and he won’t take my calls so I just wanted to lash out at him. Now I’m afraid I might have done exactly what you said I shouldn’t do!

Do you think I still have a chance? My heart is breaking and I just want him to hold me to make me feel better but he won’t even come near me.

I am feeling so sad and alone and I’m tired of hurting and crying :)

Joce Says:
October 29th, 2008 at 7:57 am

I don’t think so, Have you ever heard the saying it’s never too late!

I think you should try to work on your mistakes and show him that you have changed (actions do speak louder then words) fix yourself up too don’t fall off now!

Honestly is the best policy and after the change is done within yourself I think you should just be honest with him and tell him/her that you are still in love and you want other shot to make things right! If he/she refuses then why waste your time with someone who doesn’t want to invest in you?

rose Says:
December 4th, 2008 at 7:52 pm

hi i break up with my boyfriend and he said that we can be friends so when i met him i just want him to hold me close as he used to
but it’s just no way. i want him back really i do so please can you tell me how?? i’m suffering it just hard to deal with the pain of losing him and force the smile when i see our friends stil harder i read what you write and they are perfect tools to get him back but i want to ask you can i show up with an other guy as my boyfirend just to make him jalous??? please i need an answer

admin Says:
December 8th, 2008 at 1:14 pm

Hi Rose

I don’t know why you guys broke up but I know that it can really hurt. However whatever your heart tells you to do right now, don’t do it. You need to approach this with logic and not your heart. So, if you feel that you want to phone him or text him or go and see him – don’t. For a while at least. Give him some space to miss you.

Give yourself a makeover – get a new wardrobe or a just a sexy little dress that will make you feel wonderful. When you do go out in public, look your best. He must be able to see how gorgeous you are and how well you look. Try and hang around the same places he does looking your best – he will soon notice the difference in you and wonder what happened!

Hanging out with another guy might not be the best way to get him back – depending on what your relationship was like. Is he the jealous kind? Then being seen with another guy might just be the kick in the butt he needs. If he wasn’t jealous, its quite a different situation. If he is not the jealous type and he sees you with another guy he might assume that you have moved on and use that as permission to start dating other girls. You know him better than me so its your call.

But do yourself a favor and do things for yourself too – spoil yourself with a new hairdo or a facial etc. It will give you that extra little edge that you need that will hopefully lure him back.

kiki Says:
December 17th, 2008 at 12:33 am

Hey there.
i just broke up with my boy , we have been dating for like almost 4 months now , he told me he didnt haev time for a long relationship and we both were just so good , things were just amazing between us , but after he said that to me i have been upset , im heart broken. i know he really likes me , he is in his senior year so its kinda hard fo rhim i understand, but i want him back.
and i want him to ask me back out again.
what can i do ? i tried calling him as friends cuz he said he wanted to be friends.. but he didn’t really bother talking, and his bestfriend told me that he was just suprised i called, and so he didnt really talk.
BUT NOW IM SICK OF IT. I THINK ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME. THIS NEEDS TO STOP.
is there anything i can do , that would make him want me back ?
please help!!
thanks a lot :)

Crystal Says:
December 24th, 2008 at 12:05 am

Hi. Well my boyfriend had BROKE UP with me for another gurl. And I want to know how can i make him want me back. Because i really loved him and cared for him.But he told me we can be friends, but i don’t want to be friends i want to be like we use to be.Can you please help me?

Channa Says:
February 17th, 2009 at 7:10 pm

Hi,
My boyfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago, we’ve been going out for almost 3 months.
sometime I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! he said he wants to be friends but its hard!!! he still calls me babe and it confuses me :(
then he told me that we just need space from eachother, and he keeps telling me that we’re going to get married because he knows im the right girl for him, just not now because it is too soon and he’s scared of “love” he’s 20 years old and i understand that he is afraid, but im desperatley trying to win him back!

admin Says:
February 18th, 2009 at 8:57 am

Hi Channa

I know it hurts and all you want to do right now is to be with him to feel better. But the worst thing you can do now is to hound him trying to get an answer for what is happening.

This is the best advice I can give you – keep your distance, don’t phone him, don’t text him, don’t visit him – at all. Give him time to miss you and I can guarantee he will be around some time or the other. You just need to be strong and wait it out.

I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is the only thing that will work right now otherwise you are going to come across as needy and that will scare him off for ever.

Cassie

Jennifer Says:
February 19th, 2009 at 6:32 pm

Hey! me and my boyfriend started datin in january of 2008. so we have been together for a year and and almost two months. and just broke up! we have broken up twice before but this time its so much more real. we broke up in agust because we just started arguing to much. and wernt even broken up three days. we seen each other everyday while broken up. then one day before our one year. he broke up with me again. claiming he just doesnt feel the same anymore. which i cant blame him for. i got where i had really bad jealousy issues. then a couple days later i texted him sayin i was sorry for everything. and i could change. we stayed broken up for three weeks. but talked every day. he told me his feelings never went away he just was tryin to tell himself that to get over me. because he didnt want to deal with the jealousy problem anymore. and he asked me back out. i really have changed and he has seen it. we were back together almost a month and had the perfect relationship i mean no arguments.. more freedom. we both were extremly happy. then this girl came over with his cousin. and him and her decided to be friends. and talk a lot. him knowing i already dont like this girl. and i asked him not to be friends with her. but they constantly talked. and he lied about it for a full week. and i knew he was lyin but i just had to tell myself to get over it. then he told me he was gion to his brothers house. and my freind called and said she seen his truck at his cousins house so i road by. and they were in the hot tub together!! i flipped out. and we broke up. now he wants nothin to do with me. i have begged and cried. and i am miserable. we really love each other a lot. and he told me his feelins never really came back. but i know thats a lie. he showed me he loved me more this last month than he ever has. and we were perfect till she came around. i know he wouldnt do anything with her. but she has feelins for him. i guess i overreacted, because i know her and she likes the satisfication of bein pretty enough to take peoples boyfriends. i honestly dont know what to do now to get him back. he said we could be friends but its too soon for that. i cant go without talkin to him after i have talked to him everyday for over a year. how can i make him miss me?

–thanks jennifer.

Zita Says:
February 22nd, 2009 at 7:19 pm

Hey, me and my boyfriend were together for 10 months, then 3 weeks ago something terrible happened; my boyf broke up with me because ‘he didn’t love me and wanted more freedom’. But ever since we split up, he’s been really confusing me! Everytime I see him he’s always looking at me, and when i’m with a guy friend he’ll constantly question me about them! However, my ex boyf has recently turned into a bit of a ‘manwhore’ and has got with various, different girls. This isn’t like him, he’s changed into a new person, but in a negative way! Alot of people have said they think he’s just going through a phase at the moment. There has been other confusing incidents such as yesterday for example; he was with me and my friends for a while, but then got angry with me for no reason at all and went home. Later on that night, he text me. And then this morning, he was being all nice and text me first. I love him so much, he was my everything and still is, I want him back, yet i’m so confused :( please help!

Francis Says:
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:57 pm

My long time boyfriend of 6 years l brokeup after our daughter was born…in between that time he had a fling and the bi*%ch
had another daughter for him…i don’t know what to think, my inlaws love me and have a good relationship with them and we still talk and see one other. but he is living with the other girl …i know he is remorseful abt the whole situation…i don’t know what to think…help?

ashley Says:
March 5th, 2009 at 7:57 am

I broke up wit my boyfriend an I kno it was a mistake…we’ve been 2 getha 8 months an he jus recently moved to ga he’s n the army.I tried tlkin 2 him cuz I want to wrk it out but now he says he jus doesn’t want to b wit me I’ve tried leavin it alone but I can’t I call him an txt him but he doesn’t reply or answer is there away to get him back

stephanie xiong Says:
March 6th, 2009 at 7:33 pm

omg i hate myself for brokin up with my boyfriend now i want him back so much when i ask him back out he told me he want to be friend only i cry so much but he doesn’t even knoe cuz he told me tat if i cry he goin to feel bad cuz he make me cry…what should i do to make him come back to me plz tell me….cuz i love him alot….if i see him with a new gurl i’m goin to be sad foever….

lisa Says:
March 19th, 2009 at 11:49 am

I had been with my boyfriend for nearly a year.

Please, please help me. Me and my boyfriend have split up 6 days ago. He said hes not going to take me back. Basically he was chatting to this girl on email 6 months ago since then i have been questioning everything. I am quite an insecure person and lack self esteem and self confidence as i was in a violent relationship.

PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME IM LOST IM NOT EATING, I LOVE HIM SO MUCH

He said he cant go through it again as its too hard. we are living 200 miles apart. I had to leave our flat. when i ask if he still loves me he says stop it but last week he said he loved me and i was the one.

please help!!!

Michelle Says:
March 29th, 2009 at 4:34 am

I’ve Been dating a boy on and off for 5 months and we just stopped talking recently.

I’ve tried making him jealous by Starting to look better, seem really happy with myself, and friends.

We never talk to eachother, if we do its because we need help with something. otherwise I’ve been keeping my distance from him.I want to talk to him so badly, But I’m not sure what the next step to take is.

He has a new girlfriend now, but I know for a fact it wont last.

So now what should I do to get him back?

thanks cassie,

-Michelle

jaime Says:
March 30th, 2009 at 1:16 pm

My boyfriend and I had been to 2gether for 3 years. and recently he just broke up with me but calls it taking a break. hes under alot of stress right now with his job and his money issue and I hope that its really not me but he is taking his frustration out on me. We also live an our away from each other so i would only see him on the weekends and i would want to go do stuff and he was always exhausted from his week of work. We would fight and disagree alot but were still young, but we also had alot of good times too. He says has not been happy the past couple months and neirther have i. he said he still loves me but he thinks if we get back together right now that its going to be the same old crap that we were dealing with be for. I still love him very much and i miss him terribly. I hope he feels the same way about me to. How do i get him to really want me back. I want nothing more than to be in his arms again..

rebecca.harrison22@ntlworld.com Says:
April 7th, 2009 at 11:48 am

Hi,
Well my boyfriend finnished with me just over a week ago and I am taking things really bad. We have been together nerli 2 and a half years…we have a holiday booked, and have been planning marriage and kids etc.
We both admitted that recently we werent the same with eachother..we didn’t see eachother as much because he had found new mates and was enjoyin goin out and the same with me. However when we werent together we didn’t do anythin special it was pretty much that he would come round at alf 10 at night and we’d go to bed! Looking back although we both like sleeping together and cuddling in bed i feel maybe this was not enough for us and this is why we became unhappy.
I have looked at our relationship and how things may have gone wrong, I have spoke to him about this but everytime i begin to cry and beg for him to take me back…I know this is one of the things i have been told NOT TO DO! but i cant help it!
I feel i have now ruined my chances from behaving in this way…i have decided not to text or call him from now on like ur advice says, and let him come back to me, its not to late is it? My only worry is that I dont understand how not communicating can work! I am worried he will jus move on and enjoy his new life being single and never want me back!
What should i do?

Also I think for him the main reason he doesn’t want to be with me anymore is because he is enjoying going out with his friends. I said to him that I accept we are both young and should be going out having a good time but we can have friends and be together! He says it wont work because we will never see eachother because he just wants to go out every night! Is it worth even bothering trying because in a way not being with me he is able to go out all the time…so he is doing what he wants! Or do you think that he will eventually begin to miss me? He said he has missed me this week but on the other hand is enjoying going out!
Please help im so confused
Many Thanks
Rebecca

Taryn Says:
April 10th, 2009 at 10:14 pm

Hello,
I am desperate for any advice that anyone can give me. My ex boyfriend and i had dated for a little over a year and I broke up with him about two weeks ago. To explain my story a little bit more, my boyfriend had decided to do a career change that would have him traveling to different states and countries most of the time. We decided to do long distance which I knew was hard but what made it harder was that he really didn’t do much to sustain our relationship. i felt like i was doing it all single-handedly. He would hardly call me at all. He sent text messages sometimes but i tried to tell him that texts were so informal and that I needed him to call more. He would go a week or two without calling.

I tried numerous time to talk to him and let him know how I felt, and I feel that i was being as amicable as i possibly could but he still wasn’t meeting me half way. he would just tell me, “oh, wait until I come back home. Things will be better.” I think that sucks though because he is only home a few months and then goes and travels. So you’re going to be good to me for a few months and then when you’re gone forget about me most of the time.

I sent him a text a couple of weeks ago after waiting a week to hear from him and got fed up and texted him with he had one week to get his shit out of my place and after that i would discard all of it. He never replied. I eventually sent him an email apologizing for how I had ended it and told him i didn’t want to be on bad terms but I still haven’t heard anything. I know he’s pissed that I sent that text to him and basically gave up on us, but how much more can I take? I felt like it was a big fuck you to me whenever I would tell him how i felt and then he would just disregard my feelings or make up a ton of excuses as to why he “couldn’t” call.

He comes back from the Phillipines next month and I am unsure of how to get him to start talking to me again. I don’t know if he’s waiting until he gets back so that he can really talk to me or if he’s done with our relationship after i told him to get his shit. I want to try to reconcile things and get him to be interested in me again and want to hang out with me and stuff. How would i go about doing this?

raima Says:
April 16th, 2009 at 8:29 pm

Hi,

I had a broke up with my boyfriend 5months back, we are in different country, and the reason for breakup was that he already had a girl friend (since childhood, as he told me), and he broke up with me, but he told me that we can continue as friends , but all the times he keeps on saying about his girlfriend and feel me down, but I love him like anything, we were in contacts, but today after 10days gap, I sent one text to him he did not reply, is there any chance of getting him back, if so please help me, I really love him very very much!

Waiting for your reply!

Morgan Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 3:53 am

hey! um well i have been reading alot of these sites tryin to get help! he broke up with me 5 days ago
i always wud pick fights get mad about everything , he was an amazinggg boyfrien , always there for me called me it was only a month but i lost my virginity to him and i miss sex :(
i have beggggeddd bak for him, got my frens to call him …msg him , my sister , i have stooped to get him back when all i needed to do was givee him spacee ! i becamee spoilt and a bitch but it ws cuz i was so scared to loose him , he shows like he doesnt care and ttold me he never wants me back he is sooo fed up of my jealousy and accusing him , how i never appreciate him etc
its sooooo hard i havent eaten i cry everyday n today i called him bawling n beggin altho i know this is turning him off obv

but he use to do eveything for me
i miss him
helpppp

Jane Goody Says:
April 24th, 2009 at 11:21 am

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Jayma Says:
April 30th, 2009 at 9:13 pm

hi. i don’t even know where to begin. ive been with someone on and off for the last 5 years. we have a love/hate relationship. we started off when we were young, i was barely 20 and he was 21. we have been through absolute hell and back again and still manage to keep coming back to each other. we’ve both cheated on each other.
despite how bad this relationship sounds, we love eachother dearly. we have gotten so close and share so many wonderful memories, and have also been there for each other through thick and thin.
this year has been the worse year ever. we are not together anymore. he says its never going to work. i am truly heart broken. but we still see each other and i know its wrong.
i want to be with him, but he’s just done me wrong so many times, i don’t understand why i feel this way. i cannot let him go, although i know that that’s the right thing to do.
but i still love him, and just want him to change.
am i crazy?

Rebecca Says:
May 6th, 2009 at 11:36 am

Hi me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago and i occasionally get moody and take it out on him, and he had to go somewhere but because i didnt see him all day i just wanted to speak 2 him for a minute but he was rushing to go and i sed to him that he is a prick for walking away and that and because i was moody i didnt mean it but when we were together he kept telling me he will always love me no matter wot and that he always wants to be with me and stuff like this but surely that can’t change just like that and now he is saying that it will never happen and that he doesnt love me but he is giving me mixed signals. Please help. what can i do to win his heart again please x

Melanie Says:
May 10th, 2009 at 1:56 am

Hello, Me and my boyfriend broke up last saturday , so its been a week . I miss him so much. I broke up with him because it was a couple a weeks before i broke up with him and he started to change and quite.. he was living with me because his parents were mean to him so i said live with me until he leaves, he’s in the navy and will be gone for two years and leaving this aug. But i broke up with him because first everytime i asked him what was wrong he always said nothing or im tired.. and i got the feeling he didnt want me anymore. come to find out he kinda didnt cuz he said i was acting immature but i know he loved me i just know it. also i found out he was smoking after he told me he stopped doing that. But now since we havent talked i feel like i can change now and stop bein immature and start getting him back . but i dont know how.. I text him today saying hey are we still friends? and i told him i missed talking to him in like a friendly way… and he said yes were still friends but im kinda busy right now can we talk tonight? and i said yes what time ? he said idk im out of town and i said okay well i guess ttyl then. and that was it.. so im hoping he will text me tonight.. but i just dont know what to say to him .. can someone help me asap! The 12 would have been are 4th month going out.. :(

Lameze Says:
May 29th, 2009 at 5:15 pm

Hi. My ex wanted me for 3 yrs. I finally said yes. A week into the relationship we had sex. He was my 1st. In week 3 he said he is not inlove with me but he wants to be with me. He needs to know someone before he can love them. In the 4th week we had a fight and he said that we should be over. He cannnot invest his feelings in me as he doesnt know if I will wake the next morning still loving him. I told him that is not a good reason. He should just admit that he got what he wanted and had lost interest. I also said that though I wanted him back, I accept that its over. Throughout the 5 weeks we were together he never called unless I never spent time with me unless it was on his way to somewhere else. We dont move in the same circles at all. I want him back. Is there hope?

Chanel Says:
May 29th, 2009 at 5:33 pm

hi,
i broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and i don’t know what to do. it was really weird. his friend told me that he doesn’t wanna talk to me anymore. i don’t know why. We’ve been goin out for 7 months. and i saw my boyfriend leaving these pervertish comments on this half naked girls pix in her blog. my life is miserable. this is the worst break up ever. somehow i feel like it’s not an official break up. i tried calling him but he would just hang up on me or turn his phone off. i wanted to know what’s wrong. he even had me top on his friends and now i’m 2nd last and has the naked girl’s blog first. it’s killing me. we weren’t having problems except that he keeps on flirting with so many girls and that pisses me off. what should i do? please helppp

Dani Says:
June 10th, 2009 at 3:49 pm

Please help, I was angry with my bf beccause he was on a stag night and didnt come home till the next day. I told him i wanted a break for awhile. Just to make him relaise. He didnt want that and said he loves me. I love him so much too. We had been together for a year and ahalf. But now he has broken up with me saying that he needs time to sort his ‘head’out. He is still texting and ringing from time to time, ‘just to see how i am’. Am so confused. of course i told him i didnt want to split up and i wanted us to remain the way we were, because we were so happy before and talked all the time. He even told me that he could see himself marrying me having children together and moving in. What has changed in less than three weeks for him now saying he just wants to be friends. Am heart broken. Hes 31 with 2 children from a previous relationship which he sees at weekends and am 24 with 1 child from a pass relationship. We even introduced our children to one an other. He never done that before. WHat should i do?

anomous Says:
July 7th, 2009 at 5:34 am

Um. Hay well I broke up with my EX boyfriend awhile ago becuase I liked someone eles and he was kind of prude. But I txted him today him and he said he doesn’t want to be friends or anything he wants me out of his life and to never talk to him ever again and I said sorry aalot and stuff but I want him to like me or jjust to be friends becuase I was his first love and I loved him I say all kinds of sweet love stuff to get him to like me it works sometimes but I didn’t this time SOS help me I need help I want him to like me again or friends or something!!???? I try to flirt with him but nothing back =(((((( can you help me pwety pwease we a RED cherry on top =O

holly Says:
July 25th, 2009 at 3:52 am

so me and my boyfriend were dating for 9 months. we were very happy together, and i thought he was the most perfect guy out there and for me. well, unexpectedly about a week ago, he breaks up with me for some pretty bull reasons. i do miss him, but i don’t exactly want to be back with him..

my plan:
i only want him to realize he made a huge mistake. i want him to miss me and want me back. but he is very stubborn and when he thinks he is right on something, he is hard to budge. so i’m hoping i can get him to feel regret, guilt, jealousy, all the works. i want him to feel like he was stupid for ending things. if i could get any extra suggestions that would be great :)

nalu Says:
August 4th, 2009 at 1:43 am

my boyfriend broke up with me last summer, and went out with another gurl who he belives is prettier…i was very depressed during that time..i fb msged him many times…i cudnt call him because he lost his phone in a car accident..from last summer, i never looked at any other guys or thought of any other guys. He sent me a msg on fb saying ” you F***** i dont want you anymore..i have a prettty gurl now..and all that stuff..but he messaged me for my birthday and told me happy birthday and that i should forget him because hes not the right guy for me. Then around february…i added him on facebook after nine months of not talking. HE sent me a message saying that i should wait until i was 17 and that hed think about getting back with me. i asked for his number and i started to call him each and everyday. He told me he lied about having a gurl and he jus wanted to get away from me because i always accused him of things and yelled and fought with him for everything. My ex boyfriend acted like he mad multiple personality, one day he would be all sweet and love me, then he would say he has a girlfriend and that he loves her, then he would say i dont love her you were my true love, then, il come back to u for sure when she leaves me because i cant leave her she’ll rip apart into pieces. She finally left him a month ago, but now suddenly he fell madly and deeply in love with her and doesnt want to talk to me ever since she left him, he dosnt pick up my calls aymore, keeps telling me he hates me and doesnt want to talk to me and tells me not to call him ever agian and he doesnt want me in his life and often swears at me. Before his girl broke up with me..he sometimes told me to move on and when i once told him il move on, he got bit emotionally and talked as if he still wanted me around, but ever since his gurl left him…hes beeen all about her and wont talk to me at all…its been one year now…we broke up last summer..we start talking after 9 months…its summer agian..and he wont talk to me AGIAN. Im feeling the same pain twice..but this time 100 times harder, please help me, im very depressed, please help me

JODI Says:
August 10th, 2009 at 11:16 pm

i split up with my boy friend about 2 months ago ive stil got his number and he hangs around at my next door neibours house hes cheated on me and he told me hes been texting other lasses. weve been off and on all the time. and i realy love him and cant stop thinkin about him but i think hes moved on and hates me now but hes like one min he l b alryt wid me the next he l start havin a go and he says he dont lyk arguin. but i realy do like him and i just want him to stop it with other lasses and just b with me and him to love me some one give me advice plz x

amanda Says:
August 12th, 2009 at 12:11 am

ok so im madly in love with my ex we broke up about a week ago, and i screwed up.i freaked out on him a little bit and i begged for him back..which pushed him away and our friends wouldnt stop calling him which pushed him away even more.he says he doesnt love me right now because the way i acted and were friends but i wont have another chance with him.i dont believe this because how much we loved eachother.we broke up because he got scared and ran.he wants to be single now.i want him back and i dont think its too late espescailly because he called me yesterday it was random and kinda stupid conversation so it makes me think hes missing me.and he called when he found out something happened in my family.so i know he still cares.so what do i do to get him back? and fast. i dont want to wait months.

michelle Says:
August 12th, 2009 at 8:32 am

hey,

i broke up with my boyfriend first and then he came to me and i took him back then i left him again and then i took him back and then he went off with another girl but reckons they didnt do anything and now his jus acting like a prick towards me what should i do to make him come back to me and not act like such a prick and to show him ive changed

Maria Says:
September 7th, 2009 at 5:40 am

hi, my ex and i knew each other in university!
but he went to germany for higher education. we met each other for 6 month! i broke up with him at first becuz of long distance relationship! but he called me after that! after he went he broke up becuz of same reason!!! and told me that i was just a friend to him after that call that i broke up with him! i have been confused, becuz he told me:” i love you!” and he kissed me. and he lives in germany now!

Anonymous Says:
September 11th, 2009 at 1:29 am

hi.

well me and my boyfriend broke up exactly after a year of a long and crazy realtionship. I gave it “all” to him. Get me? Anyways about 2 months after we broke up he got a new girlfriend. She is way older then him which freaked me out and definantley not prettier than me (sorry im not cocky). We didnt talk for a good while and i was getting everything back together and doing perfectly fine. Then one day near my bday he called and texted me, luckily i didnt have my phone on me. We texted for awhile and he would always flirt so i guessed he was single now. Not too long after that his girlfriend messages me telling me to leave her boyfriend alone! Crazy huh? So i told her the truth that he always texted me and asked to come over lalala… now he still texts me and asks to hangout while he has a girlfriend. When i say no everytime, he gets pissed off then stops talking to me. I really want to move on but its hard when hes always bothering me and bringing back memories. What do i do?!! Please help.

Kelly Says:
September 16th, 2009 at 1:53 pm

Hi,
My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years and everything seemed fine. About a month ago he just broke up with me, he said he felt we’d become just friends, that we’d settled and that he wanted to be single. He was very upset & said he needed to think about it some more but after he said it was definatly over. He said he wants to stay friends but thats it. I still had alot of his stuff at home so I took it back & we had a chat about everything. It made me feel better but there are some things that bug me. We spoke over the phone before the meeting & he said he’s always felt we had no chemistry, which I know isn’t true & he sort of admitted when we spoke face to face. He texted me a few times telling me that he felt I was the pea on his fork of life but i didn’t stay on & another night he texted me when he was drunk saying that if I ever had any trouble with another guy to ring him & he’d sort him out… When we met & spoke, it was awkward in places but we had a laugh together, he said he still really likes me but that we were to put all this behind us & get on with our lives. I admitted that i felt like i didn’t know him anymore, that i was afraid to text him etc. He texted me the day after askin how I was & whether I was still afraid to text him. We chatted for a bit & then left it at that. We still have contact over the phone & internet, he usually texts me or rings me… I don’t really understand what he wants… help.

Carrera Says:
September 26th, 2009 at 10:21 pm

Hey there.
So my boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago. Few months ago actually. We were still best friends after the break up but he was starting to get creepy. He would say weird things. Things that shouldn’t be said to close friends. So due to his words, I tried to get some space between us. Stop the weirdness. I blocked him on facebook actually. But when he found out about this, he was furious. Him and I haven’t talked in months and we have to see each EVERY SINGLE day. Its soul crushing. I have apologized but he just doesn’t seem to care. I know that what I did maybe was to dramatic but it was what was best at the time. Now I just miss my best friend and boyfriend. I found just recently that he had a new girlfriend. This literally broke my heart. I need a way to get him back. Just a second chance. Every one makes mistakes… I just hope he will come around and we can be friends again. Maybe even more.
Any suggestion on how I can make him come to me? I feel that if I try going to him I will get denied and rejected…again.

Please Help.
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leah Says:
October 16th, 2009 at 12:26 pm

hi well my exand i boke up a long time ago and he went in another country for studing,and i went out with a guy who loves me from the bottom of his heart.he came to meet my parents and tell him about our plans for the futue.but recently my ex has come back and we are doing a social activity together with some friends and we are still attracted to each other,we have discussed about this matter but we could not find any solutions.he said he feels good with me though he ha his girlfriend and i feel the same way too.but now i dnt know what i feel for my manwho adores me,ive never felt the same as i feel for my ex,,i dont know what to do plz help me out

Monica Says:
October 26th, 2009 at 5:02 am

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years and we have a wonderful daughter as a result. For the past year, he doesnt have the same connection with me. I always try to kiss and hug him, but he acts like im telling him to kiss the bottom of my shoe. He acts like im nothing to him and recently developed a horrible attitude, hes not even spending time with our daughter. I have to beg him to hold me at night. I lost all my baby weight and some and look better now than i did when we got together, everyones telling me i look georgous and how did a baby make me look better than before and after all this i think hes falling out of love with me… what do i do to make him treat me better and make him love me/want me, while we are still together!

admin Says:
October 26th, 2009 at 8:15 am

Hi Monica

OK, you are not going to like what I have to say – but you are going to have to stop acting so needy and start acting as if you don’t give a damn.

You need to act as if you don’t have a care in the world about him not showing you any attention. You need to just about completely ignore him – in bed, turn on your side and sleep the other way, as far away from him as you can.

Go out with your (female)friends if you can arrange a babysitter for your daughter. Dress sexy and don’t tell him about your day or what you have planned. More importantly – don’t ask him what he has planned for the day or what he has done with his day – even if he comes home late.

You need to act aloof – as if you don’t give a sheit about what he does or what he thinks. Ignore him, don’t talk to him. Take your time in the bathroom and come out looking gorgeous. Don’t make small talk with him. Don’t say goodbye when he leaves or hallo when he comes back – unless he says it first.

I can promise you he will be panting to know what is up with you and why you are ignoring him. Once he starts showing some interest again, you can talk to him but stay aloof as though you don’t really care where this relationship is going. He will be eating out of your hand in a week or two!

Cassie

Janne Says:
November 14th, 2009 at 4:30 pm

Hi I have just split up with my ex, well this is the 20th time, it feels like it, if i say goodbye permently then he will text and when he called me today, he said if you want to have no contact ect fine, i said ok, silence i got, and the reason he is like this, cause i am 6 years older than him, and he found out my real age ny’s day, he has resented me since, and he looks way older than me, he said that today, but guess what he does’nt work, said he had worked out what he wanted to do with us, but he does’nt work, so how does he or could he have a relationship or anything like that. I still love him deeply, he always splits up with me even did because i liked a band, he got so mad, no he is not 20 he is 44, and when he found out how old i was he text msg people i knew and some of them will not speak to me anymore…please help he does other stuff that is against the law too….

Rachelle Says:
November 25th, 2009 at 10:41 pm

Hi..my story is too complicated..I need your advise! I met my xbf through a friend of mine in uni..we got along together and we had wonderful unforgetable year together,,until he had to travel to his hometown where his family live to visit and to go take the british passport and he could come back to me find better opportunity of work and that could help us get married and not feeling rejected by my family knowing that he can’t support me a living..I understood his situation and I trusted he will be back till that day came were he rejected to give him the passport he was holding his hope on and he got disappointed and disappointed me with him..he broke up with me feeling uselesss,,depressed, and having to manage what he must do in his life..and that letter I receive from him the reason what made him broke with me: “I adore every bit of ur personality every bit I mean it and I know in my life till I die I will never c any1 can love me like u,but there are reasons I can’t b with u.1, I am a man and need to b the provider I can’t give u the life that u have which is a big problem n will cause many many problems between us n ur family cuz I believe if I want to take u from ur family house the least I can do is give u the same life u had in ur home not less.2 I don’t want to work in ur country for salary all my life no matter were I reach ill still b paid salary but here were i am I have better chances of making it n am working hard I am not thinking about any1 but myself cuz No1 can help me but me…I am being selfish but I have too.my life is hard..everything I told u b4 was real I dint lie in one word but my life got so tough I needed to act this way I don’t want to give u any hope & disappoint u, nothing will come out of me..I don’t want to lie to u so i forced myself I had to end this,I had to say things I don’t really want to say and am still doing this I guess somethings r just not destined to be.I didnt mean for all this to happen cuz it was not part of my plan looks like life had its own plans for me..” and he asked me to be best friends..I believe he is too precious to me more than I ever thinked,,,I can’t have him as a friend..how could I make him a friend if he’s my entire life..I’ve been connected to him now for 3 years not able to get along with other guys and finding difficuilities in accepting any other rather than him..very hard can’t even see any other in my eyes rather than him..I want to be with him..he is in other country now for 2 years and a half and i can’t go to his country were he lives and everything is going out of my control..I wanna be wheere he is now…wish I could be with him that’s the last wish i would as for before I die..he means alot to be..how can I make him love me again with the long distance situation,,,he is forgeting me actualyy acting he does goes I’m sure he won’t ever forget me all his life whatsoever he tried..but still i’m loosing him i want to be his 4ever i reaally want him to be mine…how could i make it work…knowing im in a country and he is in another country which seperate us away from each other…I want a solution can’t stay depressed all my life..if I could 4get him i would have haad forgotten him 2 and a half years before,,but day after day i look inside of me feelling loving his love in day growing day after day..i’m not acting that emotional i just speak out my mind and heart..i reaally can’t be without him he is everything to me…and i can’t 4get him not even i tried to know another cos that’s impossible i can’t i’m tooo attached to him I swear i tried to forget but his still in me I failed to do so…i’m asking you kindly find me solution I want him back and mine 4ever…please email me ur advise i will really appreciate it..

Cindy Says:
November 27th, 2009 at 1:59 pm

Hi there,

My boyfriend were together for about 3 years, shortly after my marriage dissolved. He was going through a separation at the same time when we got together. We fell madly in love and were both believed that we had met our soulmate and we were absolutely best friends. My ex-husband went psycho after our break up and began stalking me and my boyfriend which terrified me to the point where I tried to hide my relationship. I have two boys and he was emotionally hurting them to hurt me.

My boyfriend resented me for not being so open about our relationship and this put strain on our relationship. He wanted to meet my boys, but I refused out of fear about what my ex would do. About a month ago, my boyfriend broke up with me, saying that he couldn’t be invisible anymore. About a week ago I came to my senses and was ready to face my fears and introduce my boys and tell my ex. He rejected me and is now dating someone. I haven’t called him, but I’ve seen him at the gym and I can tell that he still cares. I want him back, but it seems that he’s moved on. What should I do? He is a wonderful man and my best friend.

Ashley Kindle Says:
November 28th, 2009 at 5:00 pm

Hi, my ex broke up with me but it wasnt the first time. Each time he would leave me was for some dumb reason, and he knew each time i would be the one coming back to him trying to fix things. I’m tired of him taking me for granted. He broke up with me again and I’m trying so hard not to text him or call him, but every part of me is dying to hear from him. How can I stay away from wanting to talk to him when he is all i think about? I want him to get the message that I’m worth fighting for and that if he keeps on with the same he’s going to loose me for ever.

Melissa Jones Says:
November 30th, 2009 at 3:52 pm

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me just a week before our 7th month together. we’ve been going strong and we (or atleast me… i can’t speak on his behalf) were so happy! but one day, i was upset at him for not calling and suddenly, he told me he wants space. 4 days later, i called to see if he was ok, and he dumped me. i got drunk later on at night (i drank to help me sleep instead of crying all night), and i ended up calling him and begging for him back. he got really mad that i was making the breakup really ahrd for him so he hung up on me… then he told me it’s really over. i asked a question to see if he really thought it was over, so i said ‘what if i dated another guy? are u ok with that?’ and he said yes.. but im not sure if he meant it.. recently, he told me that there’s a new girl he likes and he won’t tell me who or whether or not i know her and he said he only RECENTLY started liking her.. i don’t know if he means it or if he’s just saying it to get me to leave for good… i miss him so much and i know he’s not thinking about the GOOD stuff that went on in the relationship, he’s only thinking about the BAD. PLEASE help me!

Christie Says:
December 3rd, 2009 at 2:27 am

Hi .. im 15. i got pregnant when i was 14 and my boyfriend jesses parents kept me away from him whn i was 4 months along. i cryed everyday everynight. thn he turned 18 he came and we were together agian, but whn we couldnt see each other their was other girls. =[ ,, and i had the baby and she was big heathy girl named Alaina, and a month later everything started going bad, i didnt want him to hang out with any of his friends i wanted him to help with the baby. all he wanted to do was go hang out with his buddys all day everyday. i got feed up with it, and got a little controlling. thn i stoped that cause it oviously didnt wrk. he ended up moving out but we were still together, he thn cheated on me, i stayed with him (was that bad?) .. and he broke up with me 1week ago, i cant stop thinking about him!! & i just found out today tht he cheated on me with a few girls 4weeks ago =[ … i love him
but what do i do?

sadie Says:
December 13th, 2009 at 10:52 pm

Wow, so many broken hearted loving women. Take a step back ladies. What would you tell your daughter if she were going through this ? Really,ladies, this life is amazing and you are alive. The world is your oyster. There are 3 BILLION men out there. Seek and you shall find. Please give yourself a break. Be glad you got rid of one moew frog…because you are getting closer to the prince.

As for me ? Been married, divorced. Dated for last 5 years and have now had a lightbulb moment. I HAVE to Love Myself. I know for a fact the majority of the reason for wanting the man back includes :
1) Using the guy as an emotional plaster. Whatever may be wrong with us or our lives, being with the guy takes us away from our problems….but ladies REALIZE THIS. You,yes YOU !…you have to make a list of things you must fix in your life so you dont need an emotional plaster. Get on with it, we dont live for ever. Do not waste another second of your lives on this man. Say it loud…,’NEVER AGAIN’. You must become stronger….you must Reject Him. You were born into this world to experience life….and now you are experiencing lie…this is part of the cycle. You must not wallow in it. Because you are sad , you give yourself permission to become a loser/sad person….NO NO NO… Reject this mindset. Become the person that you know you should be. Im your big sister and Im telling you..Deal with it and MOVE ON or youre going to miss out on a whole lot of fun.

2) At one point , he couldnt get enough of you, so there will be other guys who will feel the same way. BUT next time MAKE the guy chase you till he is dizzy. Wake up and play the game of life.

Swith off the SAD SHOW and Turn on the REAL STRONG YOU. Get with it, dont give him any power over you. Take back the remote control to your emotions and lift the the curtains to the next stage in your life…or I

sadie Says:
December 13th, 2009 at 11:03 pm

OK , its me again to finish what I started and to apologise for the previous spelling errors due to haste.

So, here goes:

I will personally come and shake you if you dont cut your emotional ties with this loser. You do not want him because he is the loser who lost a beautiful loving woman.

You will from today – cut him off physically, emotionally and in every way possible. When you do that, you automatically send a message to the Universe that you dont want any more crap coming your way. Slam that door real hard and imagine yourself walking away from it looking sexy, confident, smart and with your head held high. This is the Real you and You need to go and chase your own dreams baby….I cant wait to get started on mine.

Im a medical doctor who also happens to have a degree in Psychology from the University of London. I know what Im talking about.

rana Says:
December 15th, 2009 at 2:25 pm

hey my boy left me 4 years ago we went out for a week but we broke up cz his parents found out then i dnt knw wht happend so we had to break up he was my first love nd i was his first too.Im 16 nw nd hes 18 he loved me for 2 years nd i ddnt knw cz he ddnt tell me then he stopped nd started dating but now he found out from my friends that i still love him but he doesnt knw i knw that he knws he tells me bebe nd everything laughs with me and we even hang out everyday but he told my friends im just his friend not more but i dnt beleive that cz the way he acts with me is not a friends act and he tells me whn we grow up he will marry me and everything nd he told every1 in our compoud we live in the same compound i ddnt believe him and he swared and said well c that u will be for me but if im just his friend then y dd he do that i cnt stop thinking of him and i cnt stopp crying whn i see him i act like nothing happend but whn he leaves i start crying i tried everything u gguyz said nd nothing seems to work i feel he likes me but he doesnt want to idmet it plzz help me how can i get him back? for 4 years evryday my feelings to him is getting bigger and im getting hurt a lot each day passes ao plzzzz help me thx im waiting for ur response

Yosmeiry Says:
December 30th, 2009 at 3:17 am

Well, I have made alot of mistakes but doesnt mean really nutthin to me we broke up like three months ago and every time i look and him i get all blushy and get nervous but i dont talk to him and i dont call him at all enymore but the reason we broke up is cause he thought that i was going out with his ccousin that his cousin told him that we were going out but it wasnt true so then the next day he called me in the night and said do you want it to be over and i was like no please and he closed on me and i wanna be his friend now or what ever but im trying to get his atention so i can get a little bit of time with him to talk at lease and im really said,and i need advise for eny advise contact me in msn email,ros3m3ry@hotmail.com ,please help

Nicole Says:
January 1st, 2010 at 5:20 pm

so my boyfriend and i broke up. so my plan was to not txt him .. make him wonder! but then i accidently txted him this morning trying to txt one of my girl friends.. his response was “wrong person” what do i do now?

nova Says:
January 4th, 2010 at 5:20 am

I love my ex boyfriend he is 3 years younger than me he has been from girl to girl and people tell me since I left he’s been going down hill with his looks im in the ninth he’s in da seventh every song dat comes on da radio makes me think of him I’ve been wit many boys since then but I can’t find any one like dat wat should I do I love him

Lakita Says:
January 4th, 2010 at 7:06 pm

I think all yall just need Jesus!!!!!!

Sara White Says:
January 5th, 2010 at 1:54 pm

Hey, okay so me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago. We wern’t dating for verry long but he was my bestfriend before. I used to chill with all of his friends ALL THE TIME (thats how we met, i was dating one of his friends lol) But me and him just got so close so quickly. He was the one boy i used to look forward to talking to at night, the one person i could tell anything to, & if i ever needed anything i knew he was always there. He just really made me happy. So to cut the story short..i don’t wana rite a book, we ended up dating & things were perfect. Time passed and stuff started to change. He started being an asshole, totally disrespecting me and for some reason i never really said anything back to him, and i still dont know why, i think it was because i was kinda in shock like wtf? i never thought he would treat me that way. Well things continued to get worse, and i found out he was planning on cheating on me with some other girl. He called and told my friend (his friend too) that he was having this other girl over on friday and not to tell me because he really likes her and he thinks things between them might work out, but if not then id be his fall back..? That sucked to hear. i ended up seeing him the night that i heard that and i confronted him about it..he didnt deny any of it he just asked who told me. He wouldnt even look at me and talk. I was just like do you even care? He stood up and looked me in the eye and goes “no, i rwally dont care..I honestly dont care what you have to say or how you feel.” so that about did it for me, i told him i was done and we were done and i left. Needless to say the next day he had a new girlfriend..the “other girl”. He put all these pictures on his myspace of them kissing and what not. And then that night he has the nerve to call my fone and tell me he loves me.? I told him he had already made how he felt verry clear and i hung up. then the next day after that, he texted my fone a loong message saying he was sorry and he didnt noe why we didnt work out but he thot we should be friends because he didnt want us to not talk, and he didnt wana fuck things up between us more than he already had..I rote him back and told him i was sorry if he felt like us talking rite then would make him feel better, but until he understood how he made me feel i didnt wana talk to him. Then everyone starts coming to me and telling me how much crap hes talking about me. It was rediculus. I was so mad but at the same time i was so upset because i care about him so much and it sucked. Okay so from that point ive seen him at parties, we brought in the new year together, but we never talk. Its like putting in effort to not talk to him or make eye contact or look at him. New years eve we both got really drunk, and i told him we needed to talk. So we did, but again it was me doing all the talking and he just agreed we wud be friends. Ive seen him since then but still no conversation. =/ I know this is really long i just need to know what i should do. I want him to want me back but i think ive messed it all up. I cant make somebody care. I know hes happy with his new girlfriend, and yea she is pretty..but i want our friendship back. I love that boyy with all my heart (not in love just love..alot) and i miss him.=/ i dont know what to do.

Sara White Says:
January 5th, 2010 at 1:55 pm

& im sorry that is so long ^^^^ but PLEASE READ IT..I NEED ADVICE. lol

Christie Says:
January 11th, 2010 at 3:36 am

My boyfriend and I were dating for 5 months until he broke things off because it was his first serious relationship and things went a little fast and he got overwhelmed. We had also been bickering briefly for a solid week suring a stressful time for us both. More so the fast pace was his doing, in my opinion. At first he always wanted to hang out, and I was very hesitant. Now, it is the total opposite and we broke up two weeks ago. He is going back to school soon and I’m not sure what to do to get him back. I feel like he will never change his mind and give things another chance. Im not sure what to do.

ashlee Says:
January 19th, 2010 at 9:08 pm

hi this is ashlee.i recently got broke up with my boyfriend.we loved around 4 months.everything is going on fine.suddendly one day he said we will be friends and said not to love him.i begged him pleaded him no response.if i say ‘i love him still’ he said he wont speak to me hereafter.he never calls me or message me.i cant live without his messages.always whenever i call he will shout at me not to call him.he says he cant love me anymore.i asked the reason he is always saying that im not suitable for him and his family.pls help me regarding this issue.i cant even study becas of him .i cant even imagine a life without him.please reply for this .

Shania frost Says:
January 31st, 2010 at 2:17 am

Hi I’m shania my boyfriend and I were dating for 5 months and on the 20th he broke up with me and now he likes my friend and now they are chillen all the time and I’ve sent him so many msgs and we tlk alott and I’ve like begged him to get back together with me but he said he doesn’t want me he wants my friend and I rele need him and I’ve done everythifng tht u said not to do like how do I make him want me back again I love him so much just please tell me what I have to do to Get him back!!!!

Shania

troubled Says:
February 1st, 2010 at 7:59 am

hello, my boyfriend and I are online daters, we’ve been off and on for about 3 and a half years, we’re still quite young so, it’s nothing too serious. we fight alot, and I’m very insecure that he could find better and or just lose interest in me alltogether, I do love him alot, yet I find alot of jealousy piled up within myself. there are some past exsperiences involving other girls i’ve heard of, but assured by him that they aren’t true. no matter what happens during us dating we always find a reason or way to be together again. now, we are broken up because he has things to deal with in real life. in this sort of situation, is it best to step back or go at him? ethier way I don’t want to lose him. any advice would be adored, thank you so much for listening, xo.

brokengirl Says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 2:47 am

Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year now & he as so controlling, he wouldnt let me go out, let me accept lads on facebook, he really was too controlling for me, which caused alot of arguments, we’ve split up before for about a week, but i got back with him. I asked him if i could go out & he went mad because it was around by were my ex lived & he said its over & has egnored me ever since, ive rang, texted, emailed & i know they say just dont do anything to make him no you still want him, but its so hard when he was my life, i dont no what to do & he is really pushing me away, how do i make him realise he needs to realise soon or he’s going to loose me? xx

elizabeth Says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:16 am

hi,we met up through frenz n we hit it off great he was so sweet and alwayz ere, on my bdae he flew me to sun city e typa guy who wld get you hot chocolate whn l had period pain nwae we had sex after a week n it was gr8t but he had problems with the fact dat l had been with sme1 b4 him yet l was suposed to accept n not be bothered by the fact that he had been wit 6 girls b4 me, he became controlling wld shout call me all sorts of thangz l noe l deserve beta but god knows l love this guy l dnt noe y but he still is the first thang on my mind n e last every dae l dnt want to let him go it wld kill me to c him with another gal wat shld l du pliz help me

Marika Says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:03 pm

Hi,
My ex and we are living separate (Greece and Czech Republic). We have broken-up at 1.1.10. I agreed to stay be friends :( Now he taxt me on facebook very offten, but as a friends. I want him to want me again. How?
Thanks a lot

Jane Says:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:32 pm

Hi,

My name is jane, id been with my ex boyfriend for over 3 years and last month on new years day he turned round and said he didnt know what he wanted in life and if that question involved me.
We suggested to stay friends and i would meet him once week. which im doing. I really miss him, and i know he misses me and he said today that he still loves me but would like to remain friends untill he knows what he wants. I actually found out that his been out on a few dates with another girl but i dont understand why would he do this if he still loves? I just want him, ive tried to show him that im happy, ive got new clothes and he looks at me like he used to when we first started going out. im so confused, somebody please help!

Lexi Says:
February 10th, 2010 at 4:41 am

My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago & I really like him. My friend hook us up. We are always textin & for some reason he will not tel me why he broke upwithme he says because he would never see me but he live s rite up the street from me & we always hang out. He such a player he was just datin a girl & while he was datin her. Me & him were textin & he said be rite back goin to get a shower unless you want to join me &he’s always sendin mi stuff like that then he’s always telling mi about he’s girlfriend. Then he knows I like him & he’s tellin me to get over him & he doesn’t like me back then he says he misses me & then he says I don’t like you then he’s tellin me. To tell my friend that he’s my boyfriend & he will kick my friend ass if he doesn’t leave me alone and I’m tired of cryin & bein heart broken & all I can do Is think bout him at school my friend grabbed my notebook & it had his name on all the pages all over the pages and Miss him and want himback I’m so confused help me.

SHAWTAIY Says:
February 11th, 2010 at 6:49 pm

ME AND MY DUDE BROKE UP LAST YEAR AND SOME HOW HE IS STILL ON MY MINE MY LOVE FOE HIM GOES ON FOR EVER AND STILL I ASK MY SELF WHY BECAUSE HE HURT ME SO BAD TO THE POINT THAT I WAS CRYING EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY NOT FORGET THE NIGHTS THEY WERE THE WORSE I SOME TIMES FOUND MYSELF BEING IN A STATE OF DEPRESSION BUT THANK YOU FOE LISTEN

Tony Says:
February 18th, 2010 at 12:52 am

Hi
I wonder if you can help me
i broke up with my BF 7 weeks ago and he says its cos he got bored and wanted a life this is doing my head in as he hasnt really given me a good reason for the break up we were good together never fought or argued and i,m just in a mess over all thi si,ve done the usual things of texting and calling and when i do he just ignores me then he called me a day or two ago and said that i shoudl just move on and that he wont be back though he wants to be friends at the beginning of the break up he said lets be freinds and see what happens but now he,s changed his mind and just wants to be friends i want him back in my life and would appriciate some advice as too how to do this ive agrred not to contact him for any reason for the next 2 or 3 weeks but is this long enough or should i leave it longer i just dont want him to forget about me thats all

tania Says:
February 21st, 2010 at 11:59 pm

so my ex boyfriend n i have been together for 5 years. but during these five years we have alot of problems of braking up n making up. its like if were use to this. but im tired of him braking up with me and there is certain things he does i disagree that i told him about n it seems to have bugged him. everytime we argue to him his solution is breaking up because he rathers not deal with the situation. n he always tells me the same thing as always i heard for so long over n over” we cannot get along its better is were not together” but like in 3 days or within the week he starts calling and trying to come back n i always end up taking him back! has he cheated k on me before ? yes not that ive seen but heard off!n this 1 time we broke up i seen him with other girls. n it has just been this way for 5 years im sick of it. the longest brake up weve had has been for 6 months n every single day he would begged me 2 get back w him. my question is why does he do this? if he knows he hurts me everythime we brake up! i mean its point less if either way i know we will be back 2gether ne time soon. adviced please!!!

tania Says:
February 22nd, 2010 at 12:12 am

adding to my above comment so…while the longest brake up we had that i told u about 6 months i was talking to another guy n he was talking 2 another girl 2. i got to like the other guy alot alot but than he stopped talking 2 me :/. n wen my ex n i ended up getting back 2gether he tried talking 2 me again but than i avoid since i was back with my ex. but now we broke up again n now that i try talking to that other guy he doesnt seem intrested. im confused… sometimes i feel that no matter what happens my ex n i will always end up 2gether. but i just really wish i can enjoy my relationship n stop the whole braking up thing!! :(

holly Says:
February 22nd, 2010 at 2:40 am

hey, me and my boyfriend just broke up we’ve been going on and off for the last 3 months and we were dating for 10 months and during the valentines weekend he went out with so girl and then broke up with me and now hes dating her now and we still talk but im going to stop! he said him and his girlfriend are great! so i really miss him help me get him back!

hena Says:
February 25th, 2010 at 4:52 pm

i did try all this n he did come back to me but later he breaks up again n every time he comes its with a new story n always saying he will not do this again but keeps doing it again n again n i just dont wanna make any mistake or regret by goin away from him n later come to knw that he really wanted me back this time what should i do noww????

Megan Says:
February 26th, 2010 at 5:52 pm

It is so funny the way people are complaining about their 3 month, five month relationship breakings. Me and my boyfriend of a YEAR && 6 MONTHS broke up 2.20.10. i want him back so bad. its killing me. i love that boy so much. im trying hard to deal with it and move on but i honestly think its never gonna happen. so ima just let time take its toll and see what happens.

Vanessa Says:
March 1st, 2010 at 5:21 pm

Hi, I really need As Much help as i can get! I have been going out with my boyfriend for a few months . i really do love him but last night he told that he still has feelings for me and always will but he think it would be best if we took some time away from eachother cos he has so much on and is stressed out at the moment. I found it so hear wrenching everything had been going so well! I really do love him . But he still told me how he loved me and how i should think about it. If he did love me then why would he do this? He says he has no time but could h just be making up excuses not to see me? im Soo Worried and extremely upset he emant so much to me! Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. Please im stuck i dont know what to do i want to text him lter on to talk about it or something but i dont know what to say. How can i get him back Its All i Want .. Plesase help!!!

Lovesick.. :( Says:
March 3rd, 2010 at 6:23 pm

My boyfriend and i split up recently.. and i’m so upset.. we broke up 2 days ago and he already likes some other girl.. i’m afraid that if i do all this to him that he’ll just go for the easier option – her.
We’re from different areas so we rarely see eachother. We rarely saw eachother (just at weekends) when we were together, and now we’ll probably not see eachother for months.. but I know I’ll always love him..
So should I still make him want me back? Should I do all this and make myself unavailable to him?
I’m just concerned that he’ll play my game back at me and then.. I’ll be very sad if he does..?

Lyn Says:
March 8th, 2010 at 11:44 pm

Hello. My name is Lyn.
My boyfriend broke up with me :( . He is an awesome man,he’a almost perfect. Suddenly he tells me that he doesnt feel what I feel in the relationship. That he doesnt want to continue if he doesnt feel like anything. He said it sucks cause im perfect for him; great girlfriend, great family, educated, all what he wants in a women. But he cant be with me just because im great.

He said he wants to continue our friendship, we can hang out, and no booty call because somebody will always get hurt ect.

After we broke up, I called him at first, but then I stopped. Well he calls me, I dont pick up. He texts me, really worried saying: Whats wrong with me? Why am I mad? Did he do something to hurt me? I guess I dont really want to hang out with him cause I dont answer his calls or reply his text messages. He always wonders what did I do in the weekend, with who I went out, what did I do.

Ive been trying to be strong here, but its hard.
I told him, why cant u admit it, that u miss me.
He’s like.. (pause). He’s like its not that, its just that your acting weird not like yourself Lyn.

Question: Should I just keep contact with him and go out and maybe he will feel again? or just keep being distant ? (I’m afraid of being distant cause he might go away no)

Lyn Says:
March 8th, 2010 at 11:44 pm

Hello. My name is Lyn.
My boyfriend broke up with me :( . He is an awesome man,he’a almost perfect. Suddenly he tells me that he doesnt feel what I feel in the relationship. That he doesnt want to continue if he doesnt feel like anything. He said it sucks cause im perfect for him; great girlfriend, great family, educated, all what he wants in a women. But he cant be with me just because im great.

He said he wants to continue our friendship, we can hang out, and no booty call because somebody will always get hurt ect.

After we broke up, I called him at first, but then I stopped. Well he calls me, I dont pick up. He texts me, really worried saying: Whats wrong with me? Why am I mad? Did he do something to hurt me? I guess I dont really want to hang out with him cause I dont answer his calls or reply his text messages. He always wonders what did I do in the weekend, with who I went out, what did I do.

Ive been trying to be strong here, but its hard.
I told him, why cant u admit it, that u miss me.
He’s like.. (pause). He’s like its not that, its just that your acting weird not like yourself Lyn.

Question: Should I just keep contact with him and go out and maybe he will feel again? or just keep being distant ? (I’m afraid of being distant cause he might go away no)

Kitty Says:
March 10th, 2010 at 1:55 pm

Hi –
A guy I have been seeing for the past year broke up with me because he said we were getting too serious and he was scared of getting into a relationship that he had no control over. He said he cares a lot about me and wants to be friends (we were good friends before we got together). We tried being friends for a couple of weeks (we have the same group of friends), but it was just too hard for me and a constant reminder that he dumped me. About 2 weeks ago, at his neighbors BBQ (who is also my good friend) I got too drunk to drive home and he said I could stay at his house. Being an idiot, I accpeted, but as soon as we got in bed I felt uncomfortable and left (yes, I drove home drunk). The next day, I told him that being friends was not working for me and he flipped out and sent me a long text message saying that “it doesnt have to be like this”, and explaining why he broke up with me (basically he felt too much pressure). He is now out of the country for the next 3 weeks and I dont know what to do. I do want him in my life, but not if it makes me feel this way. help!

brianda Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 3:36 am

well today at school i’ve been having the baddest week cuz my ex boyfriend just broke up w/ me on monday 8!!!I was so fuckin MAD bcuz now that i dont have a boyfriend i just feel so DESPERATE and the only reason he broke up w/ me is cuz i was talking shet behind his back which was so not true at all but i told him and he said i was a lier!!!Im all like FUCK U!!but now that he broke up w/ me hes been flirting w/ my friendsbut mostly bere cuz she like tall and hes a migit and they dont even make a type at all and he already likes this girl in 6th grade and her freakin name is sandra martinez.i already know her but i fuckin hate her cuz shes making my life so miserable!!!!!!!I mean i dont even think he likes me or loves me!!ahhhh somebody help me although i really miss him the times we used 2 spend time 2gether and when i came up 2 him and started blushing 2 talk 2 him uhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

elise Says:
March 19th, 2010 at 8:43 am

hey, my boyfriend broke up with me tuesday, 16th of march. he told me he didnt feel the same like he was losing feelings but he hadnt lost all of them, i need him back in my life because while being with him for the 3 months we were together i delevoped not just a loving relationship but a bestfriendship we would spend every day on end together, im scared a girl might be in the picture a little as well. Im not paying as much attention to him anymore im just pretending i have moved on so maybe he thinks he is losing me? but im still making sure he knows i miss him a little, we still play fight and stuff but im unsure i just wanna know how to get him back we are going to the same party and im going to dress up so well so when he sees me he will be like :O i have already after the day of breaking up told him i love him and i want to be with him which i think was a bad idea because all it did was make me cry because he told me he didnt feel the same but he still cares about me.. i just wanna know how to get him back :)

Nikki Says:
March 19th, 2010 at 11:20 pm

So my boyfriend and I broke up a while back and I stayed away from him for the most part. We remained friends, but rather distant. I was actually already doing some of the things listed such as dressing differently and taking more time with my looks than I normally did. I often caught him staring at me and giving the other guys (who were just my friends) nasty looks whenever they started flirting with me lol and this was after he got another girlfriend. He broke up with her recently and ever since we have been chatting and talking like we did before we started dating. Today, I wore a slightly more showy outfit just to see what his reaction to it would be (it was a black cotton spaghetti strap shirt with lace trim, covered by a pale blue blouse. Also wore a mini that wasn’t too short but not very long, and a pair of black open-toed high-heels. He wouldn’t stop complimenting me! He said that I always look great, but looked even better today. He also admitted that I’m the only girl he’s nervous around. What does anyone think? Does it sound like he may like me still? Any advise on how to “antagonize” him? lol

carol Says:
March 20th, 2010 at 4:32 am

My ex and I were together for 6 months. Apparently he decided to end our relationship without telling me. We had not talked for over a wk,being hurt,I said somethings I later regretted. Still,not a word and then I find out he has blocked my number. He refuses to have any contacy with me at all. I have apologized.but still nothing. Sadly enough,I still love him dearly. What do I do now????

admin Says:
March 20th, 2010 at 7:28 am

Nikki

You are doing great! Just carry on doing what you are doing and let him be the one to come to you if he wants to – which he eventually will :)

Cassie

lexxi Says:
March 22nd, 2010 at 9:43 pm

hey my name is lexxi i have been dateing this guy jt about 20 times we would brake up then go back out but on march 3,2010 of this year he left me for another girl named meghan and now i cant get him back ive tryed everything but nuthing works i try to be funny and be like meghan but that didnt work so now his best friend has a girlfriend and now jt likes someone im all alone now i dont know what to do???

Kaila Says:
March 23rd, 2010 at 2:37 pm

hi.. i need help! im a teenager and me and my boyfriend broke up in august last year. and i have tryed to talk to him about our brake up but nothing seems to work now he has had a lot of girl friends after me and right after a girl dumps him or he dumps her right after that he gets a new girlfriend!!!!!but they never last as long as we did and they never are as close as we were.we dated for 7 months and had a really good relation ship going we went out on dates and did every thing together. but now i have been alone for a long time and i want him back BADLY and i really need advice please tell me what to do because im LOST!!!!!!!!!! <3

KeepYourHeadUp:) Says:
March 24th, 2010 at 10:36 pm

Girls — I have been the saddest I have ever been in my entire life thinking things will never be the same and thinking he really does want to move on from me. You lose a bestfriend, a lover, and you miss his family. Reading all of these comments girls have posted made me realize something….

We ALL go through this. We all will feel rejection, heartbreak, and find days when we can’t stop thinking about them. Everything in life happens for a reason. We have to go through hardship to appreciate things when they are right. Every relationship allows you to grow and learn more about yourself. I’m not going to talk to my ex boyfriend at all and wait till he first tries to contact me – who knows when that will be. Everything truly happens for a reason and if what you and your ex boyfriend had is really meant to be then he will come back to you..but you HAVE to give it time and be strong and make them really realize how it is without you in their life anymore. Let things happen naturally. You have to be real with yourself and tell yourself that things aren’t going to change RIGHT THIS SECOND or tonight. It will take a period of time before things can change. Everyone goes through this. Respect yourself and don’t talk to a guy that has made you feel this much pain. I know your first instinct tells you to try and rekindle what you had by telling him how much you love him, miss him, etc. But in reality it doesn’t work like that. Fight the urge to talk to him and let things work our on their own. There is a reason why he asked you to be his girlfriend – there was something special about you compared to all the other girls he knew at one point. He will soon come to realize what a mistake he made if you truly do things for yourself and not to make him jealous or want you back. Every day is a new day and everyday will become easier. This is when life challenges us and we become better people because of it. Truly believe in yourself and get the most out of life :)

laynie Says:
March 25th, 2010 at 12:17 am

So, i want my ex back….he still likes me and we were talking to go back out and everything. He pretty much lead me on for a whole week..we hungout every weekend almost and had a lot of fun. Jus me and him. We have been off and on off and on for about a year and have only gone out twice out of it all. The first time it was 2 months long, the 2nd time it was 1 month…but we always still talked. Im sure we’re eachothers first love. We had deep real feelings for eachother…but its so up and down with him. Were good, then were not. We always have “big talks” that usually end bad…its him telling me he doesnt wanna do this anymore. Then we end up talking again!!! I forreal wonder if its meant to be, since its like that but idk. Its confusing and its so difficult, i cant jus walk away and give up for good cuz i know there is something we can make out of this, something so special! We know what went wrong and everything..we both still have feelings. And i always try to convince him about it and i always tell him how i feel. I cant lose him…he even once told me recently, which is our recent problem…that he didnt want me talking to him, and he didnt wanna talk to me anymore. That night he texted me saying oh my gosh, i wanna talk to you but i feel like i cant cuz i feel bad and i dont wanna mess with you or your head..
like the problem is always him..because of something i did? He even tries to make me jealous. This is jus a HARD and confusing situation. All i know is that i dont want him out of my life, and i need to do something big that will make him reconsider at least. We still even have feelings for eachother. I know we can go out and make it last. I wanna officially call him mine!! :) i need SEVERE HELP!! :(

Stephanie Stambler Says:
April 1st, 2010 at 2:11 pm

I’m 50 and he’s a 58 year old widower. It was a first in a long time for both of us. I was trying to introduce him to a friend and he said NO I want to get to know you!

I was hard to get to know – a bit standoffish. He was so nice and kind. We talked and we had casual encounters. But he lacked follow up on keeping dates while at the same time moving too fast with emotional and other commitments like admitting he’s falling deeply for me, slipping with the L word way too soon, wanting me to meet his daughter when she’d be visiting from out of state. Asking if he could call me his girlfriend – all way too soon – within weeks.

We had incredible light intimacy for our ages we rocked but I could never let it go farther b/c he didn’t call these were casual encounters and I addressed the lack up follow up nicely let him off while letting him know this behavior was stalling the intimacy from getting to the best level that we both we wanted. I was cool that he didn’t call re: the daughter and reminded him we’re just getting to know each other – no need for all that.

After 3 months I even avoided him for 3 solid weeks and still he didn’t call. Then we had another casual encounter again wind up at his house again just delightful sofa time. (PS. I can tell it all still works…LOL)

Another promise of a date and again no call – I never call him. I see him again always randomly and he tells me he’s met someone he’s very interested in. (he met her a week aerlier and told me one week ago) I was so cool and confident and smirked that I found it hard to belive there could be ANYONE more interesting than me…LOL That I wasn’t threatened and felt we needed to slow down anyway. Besides that I was glad he’s decided to branch out after all how else could he know how wonderful I am!! He has several pairs of my earrings and wanted to get them back to me – I told him not to worry as I knew they were safe.

He said he respected me and wanted to tell me – I suggested he keep his dates with her as I felt I wasn’t properly being earned and he wouldn’t want her to feel that way he said he already messed that up but is working on it…

He kept touching me while we spoke and I had to cut him off – fortunately my cell wrang and friends were inviting me out. I told him how very much I appricited his honestly and went to kiss him good bye on the cheek and he actually went for my lips. I touched my clevage and lips and said ahh…ahhh…were just friends now. – and added with a smirk – for now anyway… he said i was a lovely lady and he didn’t know if he ever wnated to settle down again…as if that fit into the conversation.

I was seen by out by his BFF having an awesome time and looking ravishing another guy even picked up my entire tab…I’ve thought I should avoid him a few weeks 4-6 but i’ve read your advise.

Make no mistake I am as off the chain as the rest of the gals writing, my skin is hot, my heart races and I’m very broken up. This one could’ve been the one and I’ve not wasted time with asses I’ve not even dated in 10 years at all!! This so wonderful and I want it all what do I do?? Do I go out where he may be???

I know I sound especially cool but I’m an executive in marketing and I know how to close deals and read people. But I’m still shaking inside and it’s hard to even breath or focus. I have to remember NEVER let them see you sweat… and I don’t believe there’s another woman I think he’s painted his own over committed internal drama that he needed to back out of…but what if I’m wrong.

Anonymous Says:
April 4th, 2010 at 9:06 pm

hello,

My boyfriend has just recently ended it with me days ago. We had been together for almost 6 months and I am now devastated. I have not wanted to go out with my friends much, and I have not been eating properly because I am that upset. I first met him in August at a friends party and as soon as I saw him, we both stared at each other and introduced ourselves. I thought ‘wow he’s perfect’. We then became very close friends as in talking EVERYDAY on the internet for hours and hours. We never not had something to talk about as we had so much in common. My birthday was in October and my friend threw me a party which was brilliant and he was there. Later on in the night I had quite a bit to drink (as did he), I was sitting on his lap and he turned me around and kissed me. I had never felt so happy, it was the best night of my life. A few people got together that night and that was the latest gossip. I then said to him on the internet ‘aww the majority of people that got together on my birthday are now official, it’s so sweet’ he then said ‘are you trying to hint something (with a blunt face)’ I then said no but I was quite upset by that. I then went and layed in bed for a while thinking and upsetting myself. Then I thought ‘no pull yourself together’. I then logged back on and said ‘look you know I like you, you kissed me on my birthday. Is anything EVER going to happen? Because I want to know where I stand’ he then said ‘hmm I’ll think about it’ I then waited for 10 minutes and he replied and said ‘I made a decision and I do want us to be together :) ’ I was SO happy I actually cried with happiness. I thought this is it, this is the one’. We started going out mid October 09 and in that month as well as November everything was just PERFECT. So much affection and excitement. I had never felt like this before. Come December, everything was still perfect and brilliant. Later on in the month around the end, we BOTH lost our virginity’s to each other. Everything was still really good and if anything we got closer after that. Suddenly at a party at the end of January, he was very off with me. He didn’t hug me when I saw him/kiss me etc. As soon as he left, I got so emotional that it was all going to end, I had a talk with one of my best friends and she was so comforting and saying that ‘he’s been fine with you, relax everything will be fine’ but she doesn’t know him like I do. In fact no one does. I then asked him in February (on the internet)if we are ‘okay’ he then replied with ‘I don’t know (and a sad face)’ We then spoke about it and he said that ‘we can work it out and we will stay together’. But things were still not the same as in October-Early January. We were still meeting up like we used to. As we are both in school, we had certain days that we meet up. We still did that. But on March 12 2010 he asked if we could go on a break, as he needed to sort his ‘head’ out. This is not what I wanted AT ALL. But I would do it for him as I would anything. I had a plan that I would not see him/contact him for 2-3 weeks unless he contacted me first. The way of me not contacting him made him contact me a lot which was good because I had enough of contacting him and making the effort. He then contacted me on the 3rd week of not seeing each other. It was just general conversation and I thought ‘right I have to bring it up I can’t deal with this now’ I then said ‘Well we have been on a break for 3 weeks and I really miss you. Do you want to see me on Friday and see how things are?’ he replied saying ‘not really, I still don’t feel the same way :/’ I then said ‘Not even ONCE more to see how things are?’ and he said ‘no I’m sorry’ I then didn’t reply as I was starting to get upset. He then said ‘I think it has to end :/ x’ As soon as I read it my heart just sank and I broke down into tears. I said ‘Okay I understand completely’ and he said ‘Thank you but I still hope we can be friends because were really close’ and I said ‘Yeah of course’ We have been talking a bit since and things are okay. But I miss him so much! I want him back and I don’t want anybody else. How can I get him back?
PLEASE HELP!

Anonymous Says:
April 9th, 2010 at 6:58 am

Hi,
My boyfriend and I arent broken up yet but we are on a break. He wants to think about everything like whether or not he wants to be with me. He told me that hes leaning towards being with me again but he told my friend that hes still no sure what he wants to do. I never call or text or talk to him first, I always wait for him to talk to me first. We talk about once or twice a day. The reasons why hes thinking about this, is because hes havin alot of fun with his friends and he feels that i dont let him hang out with his friend but i do, its just i want time with him too. Recently ive realized that Ive been more annoyin and bitchy as him and I kind a saw that, that was pushing him away from me. I didnt mean too. I just didnt know what ot into me. We use to be soo happy nd we always had fun together. This has really broken my heart. And i have no idea what i would do if he does choose to be single. Hes my true love and i really see him and I being together for awhile, even tho he says that he doesnt see anymore but i know he does or if he doesnt than we can fix that, right? When were together he acts like nothing happened and he still says he loves me and he holds my hand nd kisses me. Its like im so cinfused and i jus want him to see what he has with me, i just know how to make him see that. Please help!!

Emily Says:
April 12th, 2010 at 1:09 pm

Me and my partner have been together for over 3 years he told me he want someone else and we are over. keeping away is so difficult any more tips please

Sofy Says:
April 16th, 2010 at 3:26 pm

Ok so my situation is a bit complicated. I had been dating my ex boyfriend for 5 and a half years now and we’ve been through break ups and make ups to last a lifetime. We had a really bad break up last year around halloween. After december 12th, i hadn’t spoken to him for four months. No contact what so ever. The last thing we said to each other was ” I don’t want to love you anymore.” So i decided to make things right and end them on a better note right before my birthday. I called him around the first week of march and he answered and agreed to meet with me. After that we became friends and then we got back into a relationship. We had been trying since but on Monday we had a really bad argument and it reminded him of how badly things got before. So he decided its best we’re not together anymore. But he wants us to remain friends. He said I could call him and text him but physical distance is best for not because when he sees me he wants me all to himself. He said that he loves me and wants to be with me but the relationship has become nothing but problems and he’s tired of dealing with it.

What should I do? I really love him and care for him and I want him back.

Kay Says:
April 18th, 2010 at 9:06 am

Hey I broke up with my boyfriend after almost 4years of relationship.. It was totaly my fault. I’ve never let him be close friends with any girls.. And I got close to this guy at work. We were just very close friends. Nothing more than that. He was a very good friend. N always use to text me saying he loves me as a friend! N I never stopped him from texting that. When My boyfriend read this text he walked out on me. He didn’t like the fact that I was so close to this guy, and I never let him be close friends with any girls. He called me selfish and hypocrit and broke up with me. He doesn’t want me back. He just blanks me. All I’ve been doing is calling/texting him non-stop! I haven’t given him any space since we broke up. And I knw I shouldn’t have done this. I just want him back. I love him to bits and pieces and can’t live without him. He’z an amazing person, and I would do watever it takes me to get him back. I just can’t live with this feeling of not being with him. It’s killing me. I just want to hold him tight! Please help me! Thanks

Mzroz Says:
April 21st, 2010 at 3:06 am

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up going on 4 weeks now.I been taking it really hard because I love him dearly.he means so much to me and just recently I went off on him saying some things that I really shouldnt have all because I thought he was purposely ignoring my calls. now he wont talk to me at all and I really dont know what to do. I know I was wrong but breaking up really hurt me and at the same time it made me kinda mad..but at the end the day though I miss him and i just want things to go back to the way they were.I want to try to meet up with him before my bday and see if we could just talk but he wont answer any of my text or calls.I hope that i didnt mess up any chance we mightve had to get back together. What should i do?

jury Says:
April 25th, 2010 at 11:18 pm

i am 27 years old and have a child of 3 years with a guy that i dont love,he still loves me and tryes to have me back ,we broke up for a half year already,so i met a guy ,and we loved eachother,for the first time i felt butterflyes,and dont want him to go never,my ex keep calling for me and the child,i can not hang up on him,because i felt that he had the write to see his daugther and pass time with her,the guy that i love didnt like it,and i was sort of between of them two,trying to make my guy to understand i have to keep talking with my ex,about my first child.we are mostly arguing about a lot of things,and he always was walking with condoms then ,i felt he was cheating on me,and he felt the same way with me,i got pregnant of him and by my 4 month i find out he was with a girl,i was so mad that i runned away ,becuase of lot of pain,i never cheated on him,after that we breakup,and in just one week of separation ,and giving us the time to think,he again was with a other girl and there was nothing what i could do and say i dont wanted that ,i just want to let him feel how to miss me.he think the worst about me ,that i lyed about everything and the child is not his,i am 5 months now ,and still feeling bad ,becuase i am passing this all true with my pregnantsy ,not having him,sometimes when he talk to me ,he is like afraid that i giving him to much trouble in life,that he had strong feelings for me,but he thinks i am with my ex,i tryed to proof him everything ,even want to escape with him go somewhere else far away ,so he can see the truly me ,and to say him ,i love him ,and nobody else,but he can have my heart ,he promised the girl that he is faitfull,and is afraid that he will brake his promise to the parents now,when he is with me ,he tried to pass his hand over my face ,and want to hug me ,and kiss me with love still,but hes thinking i am lyer and want to move on ,how can i get him back?i am pregnant so its dificult for me to compete,how?

Tez Says:
April 26th, 2010 at 3:06 pm

Hey
I’ve been having this thing with this boy for 6 months now. I met him in November and he was so lovely and all the way through december he was nothing but utterly charming, however then in January he said things were going to quick and that we should slow things down a bit. Then that was basically it he never text or called, nothing! So I went out with this other guy on a date and then at a dance I met my ex and he was jealous that i had gone on a date ones with this other guy and wanted me back and wanted me to be his grlfriend then the next day he wasnt wanting to rush things again but it was all good, however then the next weekend he was horrible and really nasty to me. He only texts when he thinks someone else is interested. He keeps texting saying he likes me loads and that he just doesnt want to get hurt.

However i got sick of waiting around at the end of may and told him to screw himself and got really drunk and slept with his best mate but he went into a room and slept with some other girl first. I did still really love him but he was just taking the piss.

I have text him telling him i love him when ive been drunk. And he still sends me texts saying he really likes me but he just doesnt know.

I miss him so much but now he’s really mad at me!I want him to want me back. what do i do?

Rachael Says:
April 29th, 2010 at 11:42 am

Hi… I have been going out with my boyfriend (well ex boyfriend) for 16 months, and on monday he broke up with me completely out of the blue and by text. He gave me reasons like he was sick of arguing and he didnt feel i was the right person, and he wanted someone who got along with his friends… the thing is we havnt argued in aaagges and i do get along fine with his friends, its just i hardly ever see them because my bf never invited me when they go out. It happened so suddenly just last week he was telling me that we were perfect together and he wanted reassurance that i still wanted to be together. He had barely spoke to me all weekend and i told him that i wasnt stupid, that i know something must have happened over the weekend to change his feelings this quickly, and he told me i was right that it did but he would not tell me what it was. We had planned to meet up on tuesday to talk but he made it very clear that his mind would not be changed, then he cancelled on me and we were supposed to meet tomorrow instead. However i called it off, i felt that i deserved better than a txt and was only meeting him for an explanation, and of corse hoping he would see me and change his mind… but he has no intention of telling me the real reason we broke up and i get the feeling that he just liked being in control telling me when and where we were going to meet and keeping me hanging on wanting to know what it was that happened this weekend. I decided that it might be best if i just act like am moving on, even though i am devastated i feel like by me calling it off it shocked him and showed him that i am in control of myself., coz then he started asking if we could be friends and stuff.

i just want to know if it sounds like i made the right move, all my friends think that he is just playing games and wants to keep me wanting him while he does his own thing. I am hoping that he will change his mind but i didnt wanna come across as desperate… do u think that now that i have shown him i can live without him that he will want me back? and is their anythin else i can do?

jackie Says:
April 30th, 2010 at 9:19 pm

thanks! this stuff is really helpful advice

Luiz Says:
May 2nd, 2010 at 9:59 am

hey, well i cheated on my boyfriend.
i know what i did is wrong and stupid i regret that.
but well we broke up.
now, i really want him back and i truly regret what i’ve done.
i want him back, so damn badly.. what do i do?
please help!

marisa! Says:
May 3rd, 2010 at 1:50 pm

so me and my ex boyfriend have known each other since we were 6. we liked each other on and off, but were never old enough to actually date. after a year of ‘talking’, he asked me out. it was the greatest relationship of my life. we did everything together, we even went to mexico together. yesterday, we had the perfect day.
we sat on my driveway and talked, kissed, an drank pepsi. but right before he left, he broke up with me, saying ‘its complicated’ after the best day ever and he says he still lo es me! if he did, why would he break up with me?. even before everything seemed fine. he says he’s ‘not a long term relationship kind of guy’ but its been a month and 16 days. he doesn have a phone, and i only see him 4 times a week.
i really want him back. he’s told me he never wants to lose me and he’s planned out our life together already.
i love him so much, and i hope he feels the same way for me too.

Bodacious Brittany Says:
May 7th, 2010 at 10:52 pm

It didn’t work for me ….. :(

TGirl Says:
May 10th, 2010 at 3:31 pm

Hi everyone..me and my ex have known each other for about 3 years – been together on an off..the first time we broke up it was because he still had feelings for his ex, then it was cos I was going away for a year… we tried the friend thing but lets face it, it was never a real friendship with an ex. One person always has stronger feelings and in this case it was me, so we ended up in bed together everytime we saw eachother…the best of both worlds for him but I was always left feeling used. I left for a year last year and we always stayed in touch its like he always kept a hook on me. and when I came home we talked and decided to give it another go. Well, it didn’t work!! (surprise surprise!) he hasn’t changed and will never change and its only now I have finally seen the light and am finally letting go of this guy.
Time heals all wounds, please remember that. One day you will all see the light too and realise you deserve so much more than some dude who doesn’t make you happy. Life is short enough so please try not to waste one more minute being uphappy over some losebag who doesn’t see the amazing person you are.

Start TODAY!!! Look your best, take care of yourself, have fun, date other guys, get a hobbie, eat well, sleep well and one day you finally be able to forget this guy and get your mojo back baby!

EC Says:
July 2nd, 2010 at 12:45 pm

Hi there. I’m seriously in need of advice. My ex boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship.He broke up with me one month and 20 days back.We’ve been together for a year and half.We broke up a few times before.Most of the time I tried to call him and get back with him. But this time, I called him just once.Since he didn’t pick up, I didn’t try calling him again.Later we instant messaging each other for like 3 times.Two times he initiated it but he ticked me off by ending the conversation first.So I blocked him 10 days back.Now I’m confused if I should unblock him but I’m scared it would back fire.He’s been trying to get a new girlfriend ASAP and I feel like he’s moving on because he thinks I moved on.Would you please give me some advice?I think I’ve stopped contacting him enough. Should I try contacting him after a week or two? If so what should I say to him? I really hope you respond to me. Thank you

DallasDiva Says:
July 3rd, 2010 at 10:16 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago because I sensed he was growing distant and he was’nt taking me out on dates or returning my phone calls. About a week after we broke up he started calling me everyday and telling me he wanted to talk. I ignored him for a about a week but eventually I gave in and returned his call. We met up and he asked if we could still be friends, and I agreed to it. We hung out casually a few times and eventually we ended up getting drunk and having sex. He didn’t call for a few days after we ended up having sex and I began to worry and get clingy and send him rude text messages saying things like “you never cared about me” and “you treat me like shit.” Eventually he responded saying that he’s a piece of shit, and he’s never going to change, and he’s gonna die alone.We haven’t talked in a week and I miss him terribly. I don’t think that I could just be his friend becuase I have so many emotions atached to him. I’m going to try my hardest not to contact him because I feel like my pursuing him is whats pushing him away. Do you think theres any hope that he’ll ever contact me?… and if he does is there any chance that we would ever get back together?

sabrina orosco Says:
July 14th, 2010 at 4:01 am

Me and my boyfriend sergio armando nava dated for only 1 week and then one day I had to go to juvi bcuz I killed r baby(mine and sergio’s) and then he found out so he broke up with me…I really really miss him a lot and I also feel bad because I stole him from my bestie genesis bravo. I wud lie to him everyday I feel bad!!!! We did so many things together:( I would call his ex genesis bravo everyday to rub it in her face that he loves me a lot hahaha then she would start screaming at me and saying bad words to me. SHE WOULD RVEN TELL ME THAT IM A BACKSTABBER AND SHE WOULD CRY. She really liked him a lot. And then one day when we were friends she told me that she NEVER EVER in her ENTIRE life met a guy like him before.she was willing to do anything for him. She told me that she would give up her life for him. Oh and that wen they brake up that she would do anything to get him back(that’s if he wanted though)that’s what she said. She liked him so very much. She would tell me how much he makes her laugh and that he makes her the happiest girl in the world. This is why I want him back! To let him know that I changed and that I was willing to apologize to genesis bravo and I would get on my knees and tell him that I’m really sorry for everything:)

jordyn Says:
July 19th, 2010 at 2:21 pm

yeah okay so.. i broke up with my boyfriend because we were having trust issues. (i was having trust issues with him)anyways, we were together for a year and broke up 3 days ago. i had him right where i wanted him the other night he was almost begging for me back but then it all turned to custard when he saw me in town dancing.. and i had a few guys around me but i was only dancing by myself and with my girl mates, but he couldnt wait to find something that i had done wrong so that he could turn everything around on me so i would be chasing him.
so now instead of begging me to take him back hes treating me like crap and actually believes that im the one in the wrong even though its his infidelities that got us here to begin with. hes completely dismissed those and focused on my dancing with guys situation-and i wasnt dancing with guys.

how do i turn this around? because i was so set on ignoring him for ages because im usually very good at being strong and im not the chasing type or txting him heaps and calling him heaps type.
BUT, this weekend he has a 21st to go to and unfortunately one of the girls that is going i feel like he has a thing for.. or he will be tempted to do something with her if he thinks i have done something wrong. which he does. so im going to go crazy if im not there. i was invited but its his mates 21st so i cnt go unless im actually with him. um what do i do? and yes i know that i shouldnt like a guy that constantly lied to me and all that and blah blah but i want him to want me. atleast just for this weekend. then il go back to getting over him or whatever. i know its pathetic but i wont be able to handle not being around him when he goes to that 21st. and in general.. i want him to want me back. because hes the one that stuffed up. and he knew tht a couple days ago.. but its all turned around on me now!

Mia Says:
July 21st, 2010 at 1:11 pm

Hello,
My Boyfrnd Broke Up With Me Because I Broke 2 Promises .. the fist one was that i dnt contact my exbf wich i did cz only wanted to know why he got expeled from school anyway i gave him the conversation cz i didn’t want him to know from any one else but me but unfortuately it turned ento a desaster.. bcause my second promise was that i wouldnt brake up with him which i did after hearing that h dsnt love nor trust me like he did before that’s devestating.. i broke up with him cause i got mad i thought it was a joke like everytime but i guess he toke it serousily..and trust me he is the kind of guy that is stubon.. he swore by his mom and dead grand-pa that my beging wouldn’t get me to any sucesse.. and yes i kept eging him for three days i kept talking to my frnds to talk to him OMFG! he is even more stuborn then i thought he would be and now i need serouise help i can’t eat and i cnt sleep i keep beging him he says h hates me and dsnt need to be with me .. </3 that is heart breaking but i just don't believe him :( i kno he is liying ! i hurt him alot and i'm sry but i dnt know what to do plz help ! and remeber he is stuborn and said he dsnt miss me and he dsnt love me .. :/ i need help

alice Says:
July 21st, 2010 at 6:56 pm

I really want to get back together with my boyfriend, I really dont know what i did wrong. One day he sent me a text saying im dumped, but an hour later he texts again saying his friend ran off into the woods and did that text. The next day, he kept on accusing me of ignoring him, but i was just upset. he sent me another text saying that im dumped again… and some hours later he started lying through fb and msn to my friends so then they hated me, too. my friends seemed to ignore him, one problem solved. but then he starts being horrible to me on msn, then we make up and we are just friends. then a day later, he starts being mean to be again. i think it is because he thinks im blanking him, but im not, im just a really shy person. he now pretends he loves another girl and pastes love hearts and stuff on her fb page but i love him and i fell he loves me as well, how can i get him back???? thanks x

Bubbles Says:
July 27th, 2010 at 5:08 pm

Hi, so my boyfriend broke up with me and we were separated for about a month. During that month, I met a guy that I started to have feelings for. He told me that he has commitment issues, so I told him I would like to be friends. Then my ex wanted me back so I gave him one more chance, but then I broke up with him because it didn’t feel the same. When I talked to him about it and apologized, he said it was my choice and it was too late. So then when the other guy pretty much begged me to go out on one date so he could show me that he wants to be with me, I said yes.. Now my ex wants me back. I’m so confused I don’t know what to do with myself… Sorry that was kind of long, but if you have any advice, it’d be greatly appreciated…

Trisha Says:
August 1st, 2010 at 7:22 am

Im missing my boyfriend of 10 years so much, we been seperated for 2 months not and he started coming around over a week ago, we have 2 kids and its so hard because Im missing him. Everything I do I think of him. We were a good family we had our days of fighting and i would come home tired from working in a prison all day and be drained and moody. When he left 2 months ago he has been staying here and there, wont call for weeks then pop up out the blue. These past two weeks hes been coming around a little calling once in a while. He wont text me back at times or pushes me away telling me he want to build our relationship. Its making me crazy because we have had our relationship built for 10 years and have 2 kids together. I ask when will i see him and he will say today, then change it to tonight, then he will say i will call you later. He rather go out with his friends than spend time with me and his kids. Im depressed and hurt because he was all about his family when he was home and hes out of character. Im crying everyday and can’t function. I don’t know what to do anymore, I love him and wish we could just get back to gether but he never wants to talk about things because he says he gets stressed. How can I get him to just want to come home so bad he begs me? I don’t know what to do anymore.

Jade Says:
August 2nd, 2010 at 4:10 pm

Hey,

Jade Says:
August 2nd, 2010 at 7:10 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years to prove a point. It was valentines day(cold hearted and pissed off)
Stupid move on my part because it’s not what I really wanted. I guess when I’m mad I say stupid things that I regret, and boy do I regret this one…
After 3 weeks of the breakup things were back to normal it was like we were together without the “tag” Spent every free minute together.
I would nag him about what was going on in our relationship and what we were doing but he never wanted to talk about it. He would just say you broke up with me remember?
3 weeks ago he told me that I should move on and that for the past 4 months he had been trying to work on a relationship. working on what ? He not once mentioned to me lets see how things are, o r communicated to me about the things he didn’t like or the things that he needs me to fix…
Needless to say I am pissed , things were great. We got along great, enjoyed the same things, hated not being around eachother, still did our owen things without eachother…
Well now claims he wants to be friends and he loves my son and wants t be a partof his life but he is mean… everytime i call he says wha? or if i stop by he tells me to get out after 5 minutes…. this is not how any of my other friends treat me… I love him and I want to be with him … but if friendship is all i will get then I will take it… but not if he is going to be cruel everytime i talk to him….
He still comes over to give me “massages” late at night and excpects more…. I have told him that it can’t happen …. Why is he being so scruel and how do I stop it?

Marie Says:
August 6th, 2010 at 8:47 am

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months we were getting a long really well although this relationship is a long distance relationship. He is 35yrs old and I am 28. He said he wanted to marry me and have kids. A couple of times I got jealous and fought with him over petty issues. He also gets jealous. When I thought things were going well he stopped calling me and texting. I asked and he said he was busy. we fought about it. Then I asked if he was cheating on me he said no and he stopped calling me. I went crazy and called and texted but he did not reply or answer. Then I emailed and apologised and said I wanted to work things out. I had given him a set of keys to my flat earlier in our relationship. I waited to get a reply from my email. but didnt get any. My friend had gone down to see her bf who is his friend and I texted him and told him to give her my keys and that I had got the message and not to text or email me. She spoke to him and he said he did not want to be with me as I was insecure and childish. But he misses me and he did not give her my keys. I have not contacted him for a week. He has not cantacted me for two weeks I miss him and love him. He told he he would email me. Is there any hope? What should I do? Is it over do i have a chance at getting him back? I am heart broken I want him back I made silly mistakes. He is the perfect guy and I screwed up.

Christa Says:
August 6th, 2010 at 3:21 pm

Hey. So my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me last thursday because he felt that when he was with me, he would “forget” about his career and he needed to move on. Of course I was devastated, but I did not surrender in calling him, or texting him. In fact, he did all the texting but never calling. until yesterday (the following thursday), i decided to go out with a girl-friend and go dancing. when i got home i just had an urge to call him, so i did…and he picked up right away. i sent him picture messages of what i was wearing that night, and he starts to get “excited” to the point where we ended up talking “dirty” over the phone. after that was all done, i realized what i did wasn’t the right approach to getting him back. now i wish i can reverse it, but what can i do?

diana Says:
August 7th, 2010 at 9:07 pm

i brok up with my boyfriend we was on on linedating .he was very interisting in me .we live a distans so he drive 8 hour to come and see me .we was very happy .he was a kind of not talkative .he was at us millitry we stay talking on phone and he was looking for to visit him at his state and he told me he cant waite to see me againe and he so excited.we was tlking every night at phone.then few days before my visiting i feel he change some thing when i asked him he said there is nothing.i visited him he prepared.me adiner and bring me the movie i liked but i didnt feel his interesting as before.we aruge first day and then the two last day was not good he even didn’t do the small things he used to doing for me like open the car’s door for me.and before .he drove me to the airport i was trying to figure out why he changed.he shocked me by his dissicion he told me we can be friend .and u need some one understand u.i get angry that time and refuse his friend ship.and while he drove me to the airport he start crying.and at this moment.i get angry and i told him i was in love but u had no feeling to feel.he get angry but he didnt open his mouth.after i return home i called him try to understand and asked him for a chance but he refuse i did a lot of mistaks by calling and mess him.he even not ansewr my call any morei had now 9 month i didnt call or miss and he relocated by his work to NY soi don’t know what i do to get him back we have no contact and distans i don’t know why he changed he was want my so much at first and want to do any thing to me .one of his resons he is not talkative and want some one talktive .im still love him please tell me what i do

D Says:
August 12th, 2010 at 3:19 pm

Hello
My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me and he said he doesnt love me anymore. I love and miss him so much. I dont know how to get him back. we have broken up a few times before but he always comes back this time he said he will never come back to me. How do I convince him the I love him and want to be with him? Every time we talk we end up fighting because he doesnt want to talk about us he just wants to talk about our kids.

reza Says:
August 14th, 2010 at 11:31 am

I did sent him an email, not a lovesick one,not an arrogant one. But a “friends” one a long time back. But I’ve also correctly done everything else mentioned above, and yes, it does have a good affect on him. There is contact between us in an interval of months. But it’s certainly not enough as there’s someone to call him everyday. He has a gf, and that’s becoz of no.3 though. I mean he called me to say something and I responded briefly like I didn’t care and he found another girl. Though he can’t stop falling in love with me everytime he sees me. What are my chances?

cristinam Says:
August 15th, 2010 at 6:59 pm

Well i need some help i have been dating this guy for 8 month and he is ten years older then me we started dating and then he started calling me his girlfriend with out offisially asking me but i liked him so i let it go he told me that he is set on his ways and would not change for no one, so ok we moved on and he kinda moved in with me and i started to notice things that i dint like we haved argued here and there for little things so one day i just looked thru his phone and i came across pics of a girls boobs on his phone and it was one of his cowerkers i asked if he was cheating on me and he got upset saying i disrespected him by looking thru his phone that i had no rite and he used that as an excuse to leave and break it off. He got upset and said i broke his one rule and that it would not work., so he left 2 weeks later he comes back just to see how i’m doing he keeps doin that for 2 months so i asked if we getting back together he said it won’t work why is he still coming back then. how to make him reg

Cassie Says:
August 16th, 2010 at 7:53 am

Hi:) about 6 months ago I broke up wit my boyfriend because we weren’t hanging out all. He had sports and so did I. so we didn’t have time. but before we were together we were friends. & once we broke up, he told me he still wanted to be friends. but now we don’t really talk. & he moved on with different girls. and itts been hard moving on for me cuz I’m always thinking of him everyday. I love him and still care for him. we still go to the same school so its so hard just seeing him with girls. and I want him to be with me again. is it to late for me. its been about 6 months since we’ve been together. how do I get him back to me…. thank you

natasha Says:
August 17th, 2010 at 10:53 am

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend. Because He proposed another girl. But I love Him very much. Should I just Go and call him.and Say him???????

SH Says:
September 8th, 2010 at 4:58 pm

I think that some of these websites are insensitive and almost place the guilt on the person who was dumped. It’s a natural reaction to reach out and grasp at the relationship when you’re the one being dumped. It’s hard to exhibit any self control over your emotions. I’ve found it hard. My boyfriend wont speak to me, or he did and then not again. A year and a half and I thought we had something special. He felt I was selfish and had neglected his needs. I was going through a hard time at work etc. I love him still. Please, if you have contacted your ex, don’t feel guilty! It’s natural. It’s such a painful process, as I’ve learned. I’m trying to move on. This will make it easier in two ways: one, if he doesn’t come back I’ll be enjoying my life; two, if he does then he does. I can’t force it to happen, I know. Good luck to all of you!

nguvii Says:
September 9th, 2010 at 5:11 pm

hi i broke up with my boyfriend is been 1 month now . i have been together for 7 years. he was all my evrything that i need

Sarah Says:
September 9th, 2010 at 7:15 pm

My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me saying he wanted to be able to spend more time with his friends. He ended up dating this girl he just met a week later. I am head over heels in love with him still. I want him to be happy but I also want him to be with me. I deleted him on facebook and blocked him so he couldn’t see anything on my page. I did go off on him when I found out about him dating this girl. I also did text him while I was intoxicated one night. He continuously texted me even after I stopped. He asked me why I won’t add him on facebook too. I want him back more then anything right now. It’s going to be 3 months in October that we’ve been broken up. I need help. I don’t want him to get away.

Kathy Says:
September 10th, 2010 at 7:23 pm

Hi
Me and my boyfriend broke up a few months ago and since he has told me a few times that he still loves me but always by text. i so badly want to get back together but i dont know how to react around him as i see him everyday so i sort of ignore him which gives of the wrong impression. im worried hes giving up on me but i what him back but to scared to tell him!!!! what should i do ?????

petal Says:
September 12th, 2010 at 7:27 pm

Hi I really liked ur tips, but what if my ex is located aboard? We have broken one month ago and i have removed him from skype and facebook (though he can still read my post and see my pictures as the privacy settings are set for “friends of friends” and we have mutual friends). Once or twice he has contacted me through sms or skype (once I was online and he immediately started telling me how nice to see me online and how busy he is but would try to talk to me later if possible, and i did not responds other than saying ok). How do I make him see that I am quite happy and enjoying life.

Torresloverrr Says:
September 13th, 2010 at 5:09 am

My ex and i have broken up 7 times and last year it was the final breakup. i still need him and miss him more than ever before! We don’t even talk or text or look at each other! He glances at me sometimes and so do I, but that’s it. I CANNOT talk to him. I need him back. Please help.

Anni Says:
September 18th, 2010 at 2:41 pm

Hey! Well, it’s been 17 months till date since my guy and I broke up. I’ve been in love with him for almost 6 years now. We dated only for 5 months. We broke up 3 times in between. The final one continued till now. He knows how much I love him. Ever since our break up, we were like very unofficial. Like, we would get a little physical. But after that, there would be no sign of him for weeks. It’s like, we have the best moment together, then suddenly we become complete strangers. I’ve been trying so hard, but nothing seems to be working at all. He would come and get a bit physical with me, then tell me to move on. I mean, I don’t get what he wants. He doesn’t say yes, but not a no either. I don’t know what I should do. I’m so confused. I really love this guy, and the entire World knows about it. How can I possibly get him back now? I’m currently in LA, and he’s in Windsor. I’ve changed in many ways now, but I at times wonder if he even notices, because even if he does, he never says so….

jenny Says:
September 19th, 2010 at 4:37 am

hello, well my ex and i broke up recently. we talked about mid october of 2009, and thru feb 2010 he asked ,me to b his gf, i accepted. he said he loved me, at first i didnt knw what i felt for him, but it turned out tht i love him,he later like in may told me he was going to have a bby. aand i asked him then tht we shukd stop talking and both move on, but he then insisted with me and said no tha he loves me, so we gave ita try, we tried, then he comes up with that he starts treating me with disrespect, aand then i break up with him. but he still then looks for me, so then i give him another chance, and then he says he loves me and wants to marry me and tht he doesnt love his bbys mom, but thet then later months he txts me like nothing but then later the next day he start telling me tht he never loved me, tht he has had a gf all this time and all he wanted to do is break my heart. can u believe tht??? i bursted into teaars, and asked why hge did tht aaand he said he just wanted to break my heart and he won cuz he did. i dnt understand why he did this.. plz anyone why wuld a guy do this ??????????? im so hurt and i dnt think ill ever forget him.. after what hes done i dnt hate him and i knw i shud but i love him. PLEASE HELPPPPPPPPPPPP

Alejandra Says:
September 20th, 2010 at 2:14 am

Hi, i just went through a break up and im pretty sad, We broke up because we didnt see each other much, i really want him back but i dont want to seem desperate. Ive started to see him more often since his sister is my friend. So my question is what can i do to make him want me back? Are there any little things i can say or do that will just drive him crazy (in a good way :) ) ?

Gia Says:
September 23rd, 2010 at 11:39 am

Nearly a year ago, I met a man who has been supportive and always there for me with current personal issues in my life. We share many common interests and values. Although he is more shy than most men, there was an instant connection between us and we became great friends. He began opening up to me and in no time we began finishing eachother’s sentences, laughed at eachother’s jokes, talked on serious levels as well as have fun with one another. Unfortunately, altho we stil talk on a regular basis, he seems to have withdrawn to the way he was before we became better friends. If I think he’s busy I ask if I should leave but his answer is always no and that I need to stop worrying so much. So, he still likes having me around, yet, doesnt always talk as much and seems distant in his answers. This made me start doubting him and ask if there was someone else he has more interest in. Again, his answer is no. He’s never made me doubt him before now and has no reason to lie where as we are not actually in a committed relationship, even tho I would like to be more than “just friends” in the future. When asked if everything is okay, he says “yes, as long as I stop asking.” I’m afraid that this reaction from me has made me appear “clingy” and “needy” and wonder if I’ve lost any chance of becoming more than friends or at the very least, back to the way it was. More recently, I’m trying to be more independent, confident happy around him. I’ve also been giving him alittle more space and let him initiate contact with me when we are online. Altho he seems happier, his online responses continue to be delayed when chatting. I’m not sure how much time will help to win his attention back, if he’s interested in someone else or has my behavior caused me to remain in the “friends” status forever? Because more recently, I asked if he thought we would ever be as close and flirty as we were in the beginning? His response was “I don’t know”.

Please advise, as any insight would be much useful and appreciated. Thank you.

Morgan Says:
September 23rd, 2010 at 9:48 pm

Hi,

Yesterday my boyfriend broke up with me. I’m so crushed because we were so in love and he just left.

reason for break up– I have a problem with saying things i dont mean i was upset when i said “i dont feel the same, about you” this was after a disagreement we had monday morning at school. hes a 15 year old boy and i’m a 16 year old girl. and this was our first real fight. Hes been crushed since and i all i have done since then is text asking how he is and how was school because i didn’t go today out of heartbreak. i’ve talked to his mom and she said that he has all the sudden been sleeping with my blanket every night. He said hes too scared to get hurt again and things will never be the same..

I want him back so bad. but i dunno how. how can i make him want me back? because ill take him in a second or less..

amanda j Says:
September 28th, 2010 at 7:50 am

hi ,

can anyone help me with my break-up problem? i’ve been break-up with him for 1 and a half mths . the clues that given up there r not working out . he treat me like his enemy . i don’t noe why does he want to break with me . can anyone help me??? please … i’m begging u guyz……P.l.E.a.S.e……

aleece Says:
October 3rd, 2010 at 11:38 pm

Hi, me and my boyfriend were going out for quite awhile but we were having some problems and then i left him for another guy. he begged to get back with me but i kept denying him but now i want him back and hes not trying to give me another chance. i have already broke some of the rules, i kept stressing the fact on how badly i want him back and how much im in love with him. he keeps telling me that he isnt ready for a girlfriend rite now, but i always see him flirting with other girls at school.
Do you think its too late and he is never going to want to be back with me. he says i broke his heart when i left him for another boy and i dont think he has feelings for me anymore, what can i do to make his feelings for me get back to how they use to ?

Dimple Says:
October 4th, 2010 at 9:40 pm

Hi,

my boy friend is in Canada he shifted there last month when he was here he had a girlfriend before me and after some time he went back to her and than came back to me this happened 3 times. when this time he came back to me he was totally different. he cared me so much and when he shifted to Canada he was good in starting days than he suddenly changed and broke up with me. he said he love me but can not marry me and the reason is he is started talking to her again. I really love him and can not live without him. he blocked me on facebook and even on msn and yahoo as well. I do not know what to do. I want him back please help me. i will be very thankful.

Jessica Says:
October 6th, 2010 at 11:03 pm

Hi just broke up with my boyfriend bcuz he doesn’t trust me he’s always accusin me of cheathing n in the past i cheated one n i haven’t done that ever since! He calls me sumtimes n still accusing me of being with other guys i’ve been with him for 7years n now im all alone heart broken n depress what can i do to get him back? Plz help me i am so inlove with him that im tiers of crying n waithing for him. Plz help me :(

jackie a. Says:
October 10th, 2010 at 5:50 pm

hello, my ex and i broke up because he was cheating with his ex gf from the past and with other girls and i caught him. I sent him a text crying and telling him to get out my life and i never want to talk to you as long as you live because i was soo sad and hurt. But now it’s been about 9 days since we havent spoke and i want him back so badly because i still love him and know he’s a good man and i can’t move on i need to talk to him and make things the way they were and idk what to do . Before all of this happened him and i were best friends for years and all a sudden we took the next step to dating and everything just crashed down and i just don’t know what to do i been crying going crazy just please help me please before it’s to late

Ali Says:
October 11th, 2010 at 2:24 am

Hi,

My boyfriend and I were together for precisely a year and a month. He broke up with me on the third of September this year (2010), his reason being that we’ve ‘grown apart’ that he doesn’t love me like he used to, etc. Since then I’ve never felt so helpless, and depressed. We talk everyday still. He’s still my closest friend. But I’m asking for your help, I still love him with my whole heart, think about him all the time, and every night I pray that we will be together again. How do I make it so that he’ll want me back? But most of all, after I get him back how do I keep him? Please. I’ve never wanted anything as bad as I want him. I don’t text him or call him at all, he is actually the one who text’s me (what does that mean?), but I see him everyday at school and whatnot. I’m pretty good about keeping my emotions to myself and acting somewhat normal. I am asking for your help, I will be forever grateful.
Thank you
~Ali~

Izzy Says:
October 16th, 2010 at 4:22 am

Hi,
my boyfriend broke up with me probobly about 6 or 7 weeks ago. I dont really know why though… but i thinki did the exact oppistite that you said to do and sent him messages so i could just try and talk to him. My friend didn’t like my ex when we were dating. I think becuase shes racist or something:/ but anyways.. she pretended to be me on facebook and told him i hated him so now he wont even barley look at me or walk past me. I walk home every day amd he walks a little ahead of me and my friend but even when we catch up he avoids me. No words. Or anything. His friends still talk to me. Their actually MY friends too, now but its really annoying me. I want him to notice me and want me back again! How do i do this?:( PLEASE help! thanks,
izzy

Izzy Says:
October 16th, 2010 at 4:22 am

plus we were dating for 4 months going on 5

jassi Says:
October 16th, 2010 at 6:33 pm

hey, me n my ex were goin out for jan2010 5 months, n he cheated on me twice, the first time he was sorry and i forgave him, n then he did it again the second time, and so much drama happend, we broke up and he is still with that 2nd girlfriend. The next two months we never talked, i never called him or txted since i was so mad, and he didnt call either, buh then 2 months after the breakup he calls me and tells me hes soo srry for what he did, and he wants to see me, and he loves me. I was soo confused cus he still has this gf, so now he still calls me sayin he loves me, and when i ask “what about your gf” he tries to ignore the topic. I know he always lies, and he is just playing games. The problem is i cant get over him, even though he hurt me so much. I dont call him, but whenever he calles i always tend to pick up. I want him back but only to be mine, but at the same time i think he is seriose about the girl he is with, but then again he is ready to cheat on her with me too. im so confuses, i either want him back only to me, or i wana know how i can stop myself from cuttin all ties with him. Its just soo hard:( ..pls help…thanks

Heather Says:
October 19th, 2010 at 2:59 am

Hey,my boyfriend and I were together about two months. Well hes a senior and he had got a job. His reason for breakin up was because of his job. He said he cared about me too much to let me sit there and not spend as much time with him as before he got the job and that he didnt have time for a girlfriend let alone time for hisself… well after we broke up i found out that hes talkin to a girl he works with. i think he left me for her but i dont wanna believe that.. i think ive already messed up ever being with him again… i want him back soooooooooooo bad…!!! can you figure out whats goin thru his head and how i can get him backkk?????????????????

ima love broken.. Says:
October 20th, 2010 at 9:04 pm

hey… my boyfriend and i just broke up 4 days ago and i dont know why? He just kept saying i was a terrible girlfriend and wouldnt give me a real reason. I really didnt wanna break up. And in all honestly i wasnt a terrible girlfriend because i was always there and i put up with his crap and only occasionally called him on his bull. anyway.. so he wont tell me why all he said is he doesnt wanna talk and he has no clue how he ever liked me in the first place. he normally comes back but it takes awhile. And it feels like he might not come back this time and i want him back this time and much faster than before. Do i let him go? or wait and see if he comes back? HELP!!

i need help. Says:
October 27th, 2010 at 2:09 am

my boyfriend has just broke up with me 3 weeks ago! it was really confusing! his reason was that he wasn’t happy with me anymore. witch made me not understand? becuase i have given him so much freedom in life as much as i hated it and did a lot for him and he still claimed everything i did wasn’t good enough for him. anyways towards the end of our conversation when he was breaking up with me i was so upset and started to nag him not to leave me… then i asked him “why are you doing this”? “don’t you love me anymore”? and he replied “NO i don’t” but he didn’t tell me this from the beginning?.. than an hour later he messaged me and said “but i will always be close friends with you no matter what”… “promise”.. i never replied!!! than after 4 days of us being apart i was moving on with life and beginning to be happy again, he was completely off my mind than he called and when i spoke to him i cut all my conversations short… anyways the weekend comes i went out not knowing he was going to be out! i was having a good time with the girls i got drunk not the drunk as in not remembering anything lol… than he kept calling and messaging me asking where i am? telling me to come to his house… but the problem is that he knows im not strong with letting things go and knows that i still love him and id do anything for him to get back together again.. so i went to his house.. “how stupid of me? i know!” and than he got everything he wanted from me..i was like “okay whats going on”?… we started talking and he begun to tell me that he was sorry and that he still loved me.. anyways comes the next day he woke up in the morning and was talking to me like everything was normal again… so i thought okay everything’s normal again had plans on my mind on how i was gonna make our relationship better for us.. so 4 hours he calls from work and apologized for everything that happened!! i was burning up!! he cam and made 100times worst.. than i went completely out of my mind… now im hurt way more than when he first time when he broke up with me.. and im still feeling the same way right now.. and its funny because the first time it took 4 days to get over him now its taking me forever… i cant sleep im heart broken and stuck and confused..

i need help. Says:
October 27th, 2010 at 2:15 am

so pretty much he apologized for what he did to me and tried to ask what he said to me in bed!! now i know im not gonna get drunk for a long time

kayla Says:
November 8th, 2010 at 5:03 am

Hi i need help. i’ve dated my ex for about a year and it seems that after the breakup i did everything wrong, i txt msg some mean things, i called tons of times when i was out drinking and got right on his nerves im not from the same town as him but i do hangout over alot over there with all his friends and i dont kno if its a good idea to keep going around or to stay away. i did send a msg to him 3 weeks ago saying that i did care bout him nd he shouldn’t of embarrssed me infront of everyone out that night cuz i felt like crying but i did say its about time that i feel and agree with breakup and its time to move on. and that i will never communicate with him its better off if we didnt talk anymore / like calling or txting or msging first unless he did than id be cool about itt, but i sent him it over 3 weeks ago and it took him 3 weeks to right back even though he was online everyday he finally msg and he said iam sorry for embarrssing u i was drunk and dont member but yeah i think for the best its better if we dont talk anymore. .. but why 3 weeks finaly msg me and say that
i need some help !!

billie Says:
November 13th, 2010 at 7:55 pm

o man me and my boyfriend broke up ok ok maybe he was a player but still i loved him=(. i knew he was a player=’/,but thats not y we broke up,he broke up with me becuse i suposly was always close 2 this other boy and after that he told me not 2 even look at him.=(

Taylor Says:
November 17th, 2010 at 5:57 am

ok well i dumped my bf and l8tr tht same day he texted me and said i still love you and then i decided i wanted him back but i idnt reply to the message he said in another meassage he still loved me but wouldnt take me back for reasons he wont tell me so all i said was ok but i want him back now its all i can think about what do i do!?

Aza Says:
November 18th, 2010 at 1:59 am

my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me last month.and he now has another girl, but they don’t have anything serious.but he told me that he still has feelings for me and still gets jealous if other guys give me attention.what should i do to get him back?

genesis new boyfriend Says:
November 22nd, 2010 at 1:57 am

Well Sabrina I’m genesis’ new boyfriend and I think your a lying sack of shit!!!!!!! I know my geni so good to know your lying!!! We’ve been goin out for four months now…. How long did she go out wit Sergio…. Like two weeks…. So yea… He’s nothing compared to me! From what I’ve heard he’s ugly and short as an ant!!!! HAHAHAHAHA well yea so I don’t think she cares about him. I’ve texted him and seen wat he sends to geni and he says he still loves her… And tht he regrets leaving her and HE did you read tht right??? Thts right HHHHHEEEE wants her. So I think your story is MORE THAN RETARDED!!!!! So yea if you have any questions please contact your phsycologist…. Hahaha

i love him Says:
November 24th, 2010 at 10:32 pm

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me about 2months ago now i think. we had a very serious 4month relationship. He told me he didnt feel the same anymore and didnt love me anymore and couldnt be in a relationship where he didnt love me.
After the break up automatically the next night we texted each other and things were actually great i just didnt realise it at the time because i was so upset over the break up. That following week things were fine and we talked/texted but then that next weekend he said we should give each other some space and that he had moved on and that now i needed to (does this mean he has really moved on or was he just saying it?).
I didnt contact him for 2 weeks during my school half term then as soon as we went back to school we spoke briefly which was fine. I texted him a few times sometimes received a few replies sometimes i didnt. But this week i texted him and he asked why i wanted to be friends. I’m now very confused and upset because obviously I still want him back but i dont think he wants to be friends with me even though when we he broke up with me he was so nice and sweet and said we could still be good friends. today he said he felt guilty for making me cry when he dumped me and he also said its awkward and we have nothing to talk about if we did hang (which im sure wouldnt be true if he gave it a chance!). i texted him tonight but i havent got a reply and i think i have ruined me chances with him completely… what should i do?!

Jessica Says:
November 30th, 2010 at 4:41 pm

I broke up with my ex bf that I had been with for 5 months but I have know him since I was 14 years old. I’m 21 now and I love him but I broke up with him because he was laying to me & I trusted him with my car and he crash it :( I was really mad so I broke up with him. I call him on thanksgiving because I was drunk and I told him that I was just calling him to tell him that I was going to give him something that belong to him but I told him that I love him and that it hurt it me that he never call to say he was sorry he said that the day that he gave me my car back he want it to say sorry but I was so mad and broke up with him he didn’t. He said that he was with his family but that he knew that he made many mistakes and that he want it me to call him back the next day. I didn’t call him I just text him saying sorry about yesterday. He didn’t text me back that day he text me back the next day. I have talk to him and he said that he want it to talk to me and see me but I don’t know could a guy really change and stop playing games in a short period of time we only stop talking for 1 month I need Help!

what to do Says:
December 3rd, 2010 at 7:32 am

so my ex broke up with me three months ago we have been in contact the whole time. just last month he said he was thinking of getting back together., but wasnt sure bc we both needed to work on things. so we started hangout all the time like we were together for three weeks. so a few days ago i freaked out because i wanted to know were it was goin since some days it was perfect and others i barly hear from him. we broke up the first time because i was a bit clingy and we both had to focus on our careers and he said it was going in the same direction. So we decided to take a few days to c if we wanted to continue. that was sunday. still in contact text wise wednesday he came over and said he cares and loves me but still thinks we need to focus on are careers before we decide to workthings out and get back together. i talkd to him this am he was arguing with me to look for a job and im waisting time and missed his call i call back n no answer still no call from himi know he cares i love him terribly i just dont know if im being dumb on waiting for him i cant stand not being with him but idk if its time to move on because hes not forsure if were getting back together? or am i just not being patient and forcing things idk what to do

Channi Says:
December 10th, 2010 at 11:08 am

Hi
Me and my ex broke up for the 3rd tome in a month and a half’s time.Im really confused to what he wants,cause he says he loves me and doesnt want anyone else but he has a lot of issues consurning trust and i think commitment as well,although we planned to get married and all that.I read your tips and im going to try it,im just scared he forgets abou me and move on.But we sent each other messages that only hurt us both and he likes ignoring me as well-I cant stand that!He moved out about a week ago Sonday and on monday he asked me for another chance telling me he’ll change and i didnt deserve to be treated like that and he knows now more than ever that im his soulmate and that he hopes that its not too late to get me back.But here i am again,we broke up cause he is very insecure for some reason and he does things that you dont do when you tell someone you love them…
Can you please tell me what i can do to change things or to be sure?

vanessa Says:
December 18th, 2010 at 11:18 pm

tbh i had a bf for 2 and a halfs years and when we split up 9 months ago i thought i would never get over it cause i was crazy about him x i rang him so many times and met him just to try and get another chance x i acted all desperate but now im coming to terms with it x the way i see it is if he wanted me for the way i am he would accept me for all i am x but clearly its not meant to be xx sometimes you just have 2 accept its over and do your best to be the best possible version of yourself x i think everyone has tried the texts and calls to get ur ex back x if they want u they will come back 2 x

pixie Says:
December 28th, 2010 at 10:15 am

hey
i really do need any adivce i can get
my boyfriend and i had been together for a year and two
months, we’d had out ups and downs, like most relationships, and we had split up before but only for a few days at a time. 3 months into our relationship, my dad died, my bf was amazing through it all and helped me out soooo much. after my dads death, i was torn apart, i was 14 at the time and my family was giving me a really hard time. i made mistakes through this time because i wasnt myself, i misused his trust which he cant let go. just over a week ago, he split up with me because he doeent know how he feels anymore AND he had feelings for my ‘bestmate’ who lives 200 miles away and they’ve hardly ever met, they just talk on msn, but there together, and he says hes happy but i know i can make him so much happier! we still text, phone call, talk on msn and he comes round sometimes. i really need him back, i know he still loves me because he told me, although he said he was stupid to say it, i know it was the truth. i really need him back, ive already tried begging but that obvo disnt work. i cant be apart from him, will being a good mate make him miss me more? or make him realise that we’re better off as mates? i REALLY need some advice and ideas on what to do before i do something stupid that i will regret
thanks, pixie x

Jp Says:
January 5th, 2011 at 1:22 am

Hi pixie.

Your young and nodoubt have alot going for you.
Live life while your still young, go out, have fun with your girlfriends, meet guys and date a few.
Dont settle for just anyone, set realistic goals and work to achieve them.
If you want a guy who looks good and treats you right, go out there and find him.

As for you ex and your so called best friend, get rid of them both.
People like them will only drag you down, and why would you want him back after your best friends had him?… ew thats gross. Their both discusting.

So my advice to you is;

Stop all communication with them both, it’ll be hard for the first few days / weeks but he’ll chase you after a while, believe me it worked for me, (only I dont want him back) and if you must reply, tell him how fantastic your doing and about the great new friends your making…

At the same time, find someone better, it’ll really get to him if your out having fun with your new boy.
Be strong, you can do it, get busy and take up a new hobbie.

Good luck
JP

Desiree Says:
January 16th, 2011 at 8:51 pm

Me and my bf were together for 2 1/2 months. Then he broke up withe because my house was “too awkward”. So a day after we broke up he dated his ex gf.. Then I had his jacket and he wanted it back so I gave it back but I wrote some mean stuff on it. And 2 hrs later he forgave me. Which was really nice. He talked to me at school the next day. Then we texted later that day for a little while. But now he’s completely ignoring me!! I’ve poured my heart out to him so much and I reallly want him back. What do I do?

Emily Says:
January 23rd, 2011 at 7:16 pm

hiya.
i really want to try this out but ive done the begging, texting, ringing, stalkin thing? so is this gonna work still after ive done the complete opposite? he says he has feelings for me still and i jst have trust issues and he needs space, what shall i do? thanks. emily :)

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jia Says:
February 1st, 2011 at 8:13 am

Hi..ihave also done thae mistakes of texting not so much..bt still I have done it..In my case I was very close to his mother also,but now he is saying that I should not be that intimate with his family members..We also had sex.He initiated this.And now if i talk about this he said that for that he is ready to marry me after 3-4 years.But that will be totally a contract marriage,we both will not have any right to say anything about our personal matter.I am saying this to let you know how critical things have become between us.One more problem is that he is staying at a far place.Recently I went there with my parents for some official purpose.He received us.took me to the place where I had to go.And my family wants me to get married as soon as possible as I am 27 years old.I have said nothing to my family about our break-up.But I want to get back his love as soon as possible.

Melonie Says:
February 2nd, 2011 at 4:04 am

hi, my boyfriend of 7-8 months broke with me while I was out of town. He said that he left me a ton of messeges on my phone, but I never got them. I found out thru a mutual friend when I got home. This was about 6 months ago. At first we didn’t talk much, I was pissed and I knew that he wanted to go out with my friend. We broke up many to
Times and got back together everytime, but this was different. I succeeded myself from friends/fam for at least 2 weeks and still had trouble goi g out being scared that I would c him. I really did love him and didn’t realize how amazing he was until it was to late. I have apologized for being a hitch to him and he has accepted the apology, but hints still are weird. We sometimes talk but not as much as we used to, I really née him back. I need some advice, PLEASE!!!!!

vicki Says:
February 2nd, 2011 at 7:07 pm

My bf broke if off with me again and we have been together on and off for 6 years, mainly on. He just recently txt me to which I waited five days to respond. now I am laying low to see what happens. I think this time he needs to be sure and I need to give him time and myself to be positive we want to be together for good this time. What do you think?

Rachelle Says:
February 4th, 2011 at 2:49 am

I think you are absolutley right Vicki. Just wait and give it time. You might just want to let him know in a “take your time” tone that you know, you dong want your relationship off and on like that. Say ill give you time to think it over and get back with me on what you think. It should help!

Kimmy Says:
February 4th, 2011 at 5:42 am

I’ve recently started talking to myex bf again.

He came to ME, after I stopped all the text message terroism and calls, and while he HAD a girl.
At first the chase was good and all fun. I loved the attention. I prettied myself up, had the “show him you still can enjoy life without him and that you don’t need him to be happy” thing.

But recently ….he hasn’t been AS “chasey” as he was in the beginning :/ I have a few guesses why but I’m not for sure. I want him DESPERATE to want ME back and catch me before anyone else does but …idk how to go about doing that or if I should wait…:(
<3

Bb Says:
February 7th, 2011 at 11:45 pm

I broke up with my fiancee after i realise that he did not save my no in his phone again nd i found out that he going out wit someonelse whom he saved her no with sweet name and her picture all over his phone,even before d break up some weeks ago he told me he want to quit but i tot he was joking until i saw his reactions. Wen i saw the text msgs,pictures of the girl and all that i now see the reason while he want break u,so i left him that was on the 15th of jan 2011 and uptill now he ve not calld me i sent him text last week but no reply. Pls i want to knw if i did d right thing by leaving first nd i need ur advice ………. Thanks

christine rozen Says:
February 16th, 2011 at 2:47 am

Hi girls,

I have also went threw the break up thing …well dated for 5 years loved him…we were very close our families would have dinner togther on holidays and so on……hes mom became very ill with cancer. and passed away all within 2 months but, in those two months i stuck by her side and his…well 1 month later he inhirits 8000,000
and is acting different towards me …,we went from best friends to him hanging out with his friends..well guess what he met a girl shes a teacher he gave her his # now they have been dating 3 weeks! he just left me in the dust! well guess what i went out looking good i saw him out friday night all hes friends said wowo you look hot i just laughed it off. he said hi to me and i was talking to some guy i turned around my x left the club!!! now that was friday night , sat night he texed me did you drink too much? i texed him back why dont you call your girl vinny….now today is tuesday the day after valentines he sent me a tex i love you christine i miss you….i think hes realizing he misses me becuase the girl is not like me it has to be that!!! i told him i dont think its a good idea i dont lik the way he did that without tellg me how he was feeling about our realationship he just got a new girl!! now i m not sure what to do

Sammy Says:
February 21st, 2011 at 1:45 am

Hi,

I recently split up with my long term boyfriend of 3 n haf years. What had happend was that he said that he wanted to go on a break because he thought it was best for us because we had a huge argument so we had a break for 3 days then he rings me telling me that he had saw another girl during that time and that he wants me back and begged for me back so I took him back, then the next day we met up and he sayd that he loved me and wanted to stay with me. The next day he foned me to tell me he saw that other girl again as friends and he is confused about how he feels and he thinks that we should split up and be with other people because he doesnt know what he wants and didnt want to string me along because it wasnt fair. I thought it would be best for him to spend the weekend with me see if that helped make up his mind he did and he told me he wanted me but then tonight he foned me and told me that he had a great weekend with me but he is wanting to be with this other girl and that he was sorry so we foned and spoke for ages about it and split up not nasty but in a sensible grown up fassion :( .. but problem is though he says he still loves me and doesnt know what he wants and that the excitement for seeing me has died down and isnt the same :( so why hasnt it for me? i have done everything u have said so far which is good rite? so how can a make him realise that he is making a mistake and make him realise that he should still be with me :( I just want the pain to stop!! ive not ate rite in 5 days and I just feel physicaly sick all the time and am in pain constantly and keep crying i cant concentrate on my studdies nothing all i can think about is how do I get him back? :’( i just want him in my arms again i miss him soooooooooooo much i love him soooooooooo much more than words will ever explain :( please help me i need help i just dont know what to do :’( :’(

Jessica Says:
February 21st, 2011 at 3:57 am

Me and my ex was dating for like 3 months then he broke up with me and started dating another girl. He dated her for like a month then he went to jail for 2 months. While he was in jail he wrote me and he said he loved me and missed me alot and he even called me babe like he did when we dated. He is out of jail now and I spent the night with him one night and he acted like we was dating again and it felt so right, but the night after that i was hanging out with friends and my friend was texting him and talking shit to him and he told her that he was thinking about getting back with me but now he just don’t know what to do. Please help me figure out what to do about my situation I just don’t know what to do anymore.

megan Says:
February 26th, 2011 at 3:27 pm

Hi there, my boyfriend just broke off with me. We have been dating for about 5 months now. I didn’t see it coming since he told me he enjoyed spending time with me and showing me the affection etc. He told me over the phone that he had to let go one of his colleagues and that its just not going to work out. He said that he can’t give me what I needed and that he didn’t have feelings for me anymore, and also that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. He said that he’s been feeling like this for a while and thought he could turn things around, but looking back his actions never showed that he was having second thoughts about the relationship AT ALL. Can I get him back and he wants to be friends but hasn’t returned any of my texts…
What should I do and can I get him back and him having feelings for me again?
megan
megan

Rebecca Says:
February 26th, 2011 at 9:58 pm

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and we were fine and then I got really mean and we never really hung out with our friends. He said he loved and cared about me but he wanted to be single because he just wasn’t happy anymore. And I was okay with that. We’re friends so we didn’t have a bad break up so I was just wondering, how can I make him miss me and want me back?

This was my plan:
Be friendly, be there for him, be his “best friend”
Flirt, but not really.
Don’t get mad unless he says something specifically to me that will piss me off.
Don’t try and get back together.
Look HOT.
play hard to get haha…
As soon as HE wants to talk to ME about being together, I’ll talk.. I’m Not gonna try again.

Rachel Says:
March 4th, 2011 at 3:21 am

Hi,

My boyfriend and I were together for almost a year, and he just broke up with me saying that he was confused, hadn’t been feeling to same love for me over the last few weeks, and that he didn’t think he could see himself wanting to marry me. Although myself, and his friends thought it was ridiculous to worry about this because we are so young still.

He initially said he didn’t want to break up, but then when i said he had to figure out if he loved me or not, he broke up with me saying it wasn’t fair to me to stay together.

Neither of us had been in a relationship this long, or serious before. We were very happy for all of our relationship, rarely fought, and have many happy memories together. There has never been anyone else, he has never cheated, or wanted to cheat while we were together, and there is nobody new now.

We didn’t speak at all after the break up for a week. Then he went out of his way (because he never uses his facebook) to talk to me online a week after we broke up, but we didn’t talk about our relationship at all, he just told me about his week, asked me how I am, etc. it has been a few days since then, and i haven’t heard from him again, or made any contact with him myself.

I have no idea what is going on in his mind. I really need advice about what he is thinking, and what I should do, because I love him and want to work things out.

Amber Says:
March 17th, 2011 at 7:42 pm

Hello.
My ex and I had been dating for one year and seven months. A few weeks ago, I noticed him being distant so I confronted him about it. He said that he just didn’t feel the same for me anymore and that our relationship was draining his energy. He said he had felt like this for a few months. We decided to take a break to help the situation. It didn’t work. He broke up with me yesterday and said that he wanted to try and be friends. If our friendship works out, then we can start dating again. He invited me to a Spring Break get together and he told me he wanted me there and wanted me to have fun.
So I have decided to go and I will have fun because it’s with all of our friends but I think one of the reasons he broke up with me is because when we do hang with our friends, he ignores me so I become a little upset. He doesn’t care for PDA but he never cared to give me a hug or quick kiss in front of people before. So I think he may be testing me to see if I can be happy and have fun with our friends. I know that I can but if I am acting happy, will he think I don’t need him because I am happy with our friends? Will he think I am happier without him? I really am not happier without him. I feel like I need him to live. He gave me a promise ring at our year anniversary and I don’t want to stop wearing it even though he broke his promise.
He claims we argued all the time but the only things we really argued over were what movies we were going to see, stupid mistakes on video games, and really ridiculous stuff. We eventually got over it and went on for the day.

I am so confused right now because he said, ” I want to be your friend right now.” So, is there any hope whatsoever to make this relationship work? He has made me the happiest I have ever been and I just don’t want to lose him.

Also, before I left his house, he said that he still loved me and had really strong feelings for me and he thinks if we just take space the relationship will work out in the end but I dont’ want to wait forever for that to happen. This whole thing is confusing. I just wantt to be happy with him again.

Anna Says:
March 20th, 2011 at 8:45 pm

Whewww, quite a few people in the same situation as me…

Before my boyfriend, i was that type who never gave a crap about relationships, and was all for general banter and laughs but when i met my boyfriend it all changed. I became soppy towards him, i don’t mean i was high off the moonlight, but when he would ring me i felt so loved, and he would make me feel so great about myself.

My previous relationships did last a while, but i never really fell hard for them, and ive been by one of my friends whos gone through so many heartbreaks that whenever she got a new boyfriend they’d tell her the same old line, same story, ends in tears which just made me so against falling in love.

When i started speaking to my ex, he told me quite quickly that he ‘loved’ me. Obviously my first impression was BULL- CRAP. But after talking to him for 3 months, he rung me every single night, we’d have great conversations. It even got to the point that we’d be on the phone for four hours and end up falling asleep still on the phone! paha, bit sad. But i started falling really hard for this guy, so he asked me to be his girlfriend one night and since then we had been going out for 6 months. Im his first real girlfriend because he never was the relationship type, he’d have flings with girls and thats as far as it would go.

He had this one friend though who had been his friend since he can remember, but he always seemed to change his story about her, one minute it was his distant friend he occasionally talks to, then its his best friend hes really close with. We go to diffrent schools and we’re both in year 11, ( yeah abit young) so prom is coming up, and he told me he was going to take her but he didnt know if i was okay with it. I was never going to say, no way in hell! cos thats just out of line, so i agreed giving him my trust. But then he became funny, started talking to her loads and even flirting with my best friend and she flirted even worse back which just kicked off arguments for two weeks where we almost split up, but after calming down we got back on track and were great for ages again until last weekend i saw texts he sent to this girl, pretty dirty messages. Obviously it pissed me off because he admitted he would always have small feelings for this girl (which when he told me i accepted at the time because the friend i mentioned earlier who goes through heartbreak has that one friend she’l always have feelings for) so to find messages like that, sending to her just ticked me off. We had a fight and i left his house, and since then he just got real funny with me. Then one night i asked him if he wanted to be in a relationship and he said “I cant be bothered to have a relationship anymore, but i still love you and i might regret it”. So yeh, im devastated…

I dont know how this coulda happened, he just felt like everything to me, i dont have a great homelife so he was the highlights of my day, i lost my virginity to him not that long ago and i have real self esteem problems, so to break up with me not that long after really put me down :/

^ whew essay much, but yeah i really want him back, but i dont know what to do? is this over? or do i have a chance

Spring Says:
March 22nd, 2011 at 3:00 pm

My bf & i breakup 1 month plus. He still contacts me via call/sms/msn. We have even met for 3 times. I can felt that he still loves me. But he is stubborn to want back this love. He told me that he is selfish. He don’t want me to let go but at the same time can’t make any decision. I’m afraid that he will look for new girls so i told him that i want to let go on yesterday. I have also told him that i don’t feel comfortable to meet anymore. But don’t know why. My heart is telling me that i still want him back. I feel so so pain. Please help me. What shall i do? We breakup because of my angry temper and i can’t accept his attitude. Anyhow, i have already apologize and he believe that i’ve changed. Now i don’t know what to do. He loves me but at the same time he wants to hold me. So that he can look for others. So what should i do? Many thanks..

Jasmine Says:
March 25th, 2011 at 2:08 am

you say to make sure i have lots of fun around my ex to show that i dont need him to enjoy my life…my case is a little different. my ex lives out of state and when he is home im not ever around anywhere he would be so how would i handle that?

Starr Says:
March 26th, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Hi,

My boyfriend and I broke up after two months. We started fussing and fighting alot. There were alot of things about him that erked me once we became serious. I wanted him to change. But then he just broke up with me saying that he felt like he couldn’t be good enough for me. He wanted to remain friends. I didn’t. I sent him a text saying I missed him, and he left me a message saying to ‘never text him again, instead to just call and leave a message or to send him an email, since his texts were limited’. After that, I was over it, and never contacted him again. Now, when I think about the good qualities he had, I realize he was a good catch, and I miss him. I’m wondering if and when he will come around. Or should I just let it go and move on…

Chelsea Says:
April 2nd, 2011 at 5:48 pm

ok, so dated this boy for 2months and we stopped talking around the last week and i told him that if he couldnt talk to me then it was over…. and now i realized that was a big mistake.. ive asked him out a couple times after we broke up… but he said no… him and i fell hard for each other very hard… i want him back so bad its like i cant move on with life without him… the other day he text me and said hey but i didnt get to answer it he always gives me hugs still and dose those little things like he did when we dated… im so lost and counfused idk what to do. idk how to make it right ir how to even get him back…. 2 more months and i might loose him forevr :/ so please would someone please help please im beging <3

sandy Says:
April 6th, 2011 at 4:54 am

well me and the guy i was dating broke up. we never were bf and gf since he didnt ask me out yet but we were about to start goin out after a month.on our first date we werent lookin for anything serious just a fling but thenover time it got serious. he told me that he really liked me and was starting to fall for me and i was the best thing thats happened to him and everytime we were together it was perffect but one day he randomly broke it off and said he didnt wasn a gf and he wants alone tme to focus on other things and that hes lost all his feelings toward me. but i really want him back because what we had was real i just dont know what happened i just want it back and i dont wanna just give up im sure about this and ive tried askin if he wants to be friends and he didnt answer and he wont talk to me and deleted pictures of us. so its been two weeks since hes talked to me but hopefully me and him will me up throught friends at thunder over louisville in a few weeks what do i do about this situation and what do i do when i see him

lena Says:
April 10th, 2011 at 5:08 am

he broke up with me ,because i didnt have sex with my boyfriend what should i do i love him ?????

blah blah Says:
April 10th, 2011 at 9:08 am

Well, my bf told me that he loved me and i was beautiful andd that he wanted to lose his v’s with me! Then he asked me outt and we kissed and everythingg..then he dumped me saying he needed some time off girls and that he wasent over his ex girl friend, then he went out with some other chick 5 days later!
He talkes to me sometimes and my friend tells me he’s staring at me in class but im to scared to look.. what should i do to make him want me back!? :(

Bailey Says:
April 10th, 2011 at 10:18 pm

Hi im bailey my boyfriend and i just broke up! We went straight n to our relationship n didnt have time to get to kno each other! I kept my guard up and i did stupid things just to test him out n c if he was gonna be real wit me! Now we r separated n we actually be wit each other for 8 months! He calls everyday! He tells me he wants to take it slow but i dnt kno! I really want him back! I do every i can for him but sum how its just nt enough! He constantly bitches at wat i do or wat i say! What should i do?

selisha Says:
April 14th, 2011 at 6:55 pm

After reading many of these comments i just want you guys to know that MEN will be MEN. It doesnt matter how old they are, mos tof them act the same way. And its funny because the best thing you can do is to not talk to them. Especially after a break up, take the space and time that you both need. I was with my bf for 3 years, and he broke up with me once because when fought too much and that he needed to get his life together. So i did the same thing like the majority of these girls and i called and tried talking to him about it, but it only made things worse. Finally one day I just stopped, and he didnt call either. A month went by and he finally sent me a long message confessing his love for me and how he felt stupid and that he would never do that to me again. Of course i wanted him again in an instant but i played it cool and acted like i didnt need him. He did everything i wanted him to do and more. Guys want to chase..if your just there waiting for them its no fun. Its very sad that it seems like a game but it is what it is. Honestly i can say that i learned to be without a man and be happy. he should never affect your entire being. sure it can make you a little sad but you should never be able to not eat or sleep. The ball is in our court ladies and if you do leave them alone and they still don’t come back well you should be glad. Because he never appreciated the fact that he had a girl who was really there for them, flaws and all. One day they’ll realize what they had…

Jaysey Says:
April 16th, 2011 at 11:29 pm

hello my name is Jaysey, me and my boyfriend were madly in love with each other and we had sex but i think we had it too often..but we loved each other so much but one day he started to tell his friends he lost his spark and he told me he’s not happy with me anymore..and he broke up with me..i tried all i can call him text him beg him back..tell him how much i love him..but THAT didn’t work as well :( and i need help..its almost our 1 year together and i really want him back so much..he told his friends he’s still in love with me and doesn’t want to meet up with another girl but he moved on from me..what should i do? im trying to stay positive but it hurts..help me ASAP D: our one year is the up coming May :’( write back to me please!
much love,
Jaysey<3

Elena Says:
April 18th, 2011 at 12:14 pm

Hi

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up on a Saturday because of things I did in the past that hurt him we were dating for a year and 3 months and he ended it.. He keeped doubting me and keeped regretting us being together. On a friday my sisters went online and pretended they were me and started sheit with him and I told him I didnt know that if I wasnt asleep when it happend I wouldve said something. We then started fighting again and he told me he didnt love me that he was lieing that he didnt care and he called me all these names and that he shouldve cheated on me. I told him all these things and now were back together and he told me that its gonna take awhile for him to say I love u 2 me and mean it. Do I give him space or what im soo confused im glad were back together but I just want him to love me like he used to how do I get him to love me again?? I dont know what else to do or say..

InLoveWithHim Says:
April 19th, 2011 at 5:11 pm

Well i really hope you can help because at this point i will try just about anything. My ex and I were together for almost 7 years and he just broke up with me a couple of months ago because he said he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. He even mentioned to me that he’s not going to go and find someone else, and it has nothing to do with not loving me. We had the no contact for 2 weeks until I reached out to him to see what he thought about getting back together and his answer was negative. However even since then he keeps calling and texting for various reasons (asking a stupid question or just to see how I am) every few days. He asked me to get coffee a couple of weeks ago and I said yes and even though it was a bit awkward after a while we were ourselves, laughing and joking like usual. I asked him if we’re “friends” now and his answer was a very unassuring “yeah, i guess” and I told him I can’t be his friend. I asked if he could see himself as just my friend and he got all aggitated and said “well you’re asking me something that I don’t know and its making me unconformatible,…” so i let it go. He texted a couple of times after that about stupid questions and I even ran into him yesterday at a coffee shop by accident. He decided (I didn’t ask him to) to sit down with me for 20 minutes before going to work. We talked, laughed, joked around like we always did. He told me all about his life and how everything is going without me asking. Its such a weird situation because even when we were broken up he asked me to go car shopping with him and asked my opinion about what car i liked and how he doesn’t want to get a standard car because i can’t drive a standard car!!! When we see eachother only when we say hello and goodbye its awekward because we don’t kiss but the whole conversation is just like usual, laughing and joking… I’m going away for the summer to see my day (this was the plan even before we broke up and he knew about it, he even had asked me to bring him back some items that he wanted). It should be mentioned that he is 25 and I am 27. We got together when he was 18 and I was 20. He doesn’t have his life together yet, I’m going to school and working towards going to law school and he is just working at odd jobs, not a career. He has talked to some people about the break up (however, not his bestfriend who is going out with my bestfriend, to them he is still pretending that we’re good!) and they have talked to me and they keep telling me that he is doing this for me!!! I’m not sure what that means but I’m guessing its about him not having a career and doesn’t know what he can offer me and hasn’t found himself yet. However I never thought of him as anything less at all, I love him for the person that he is, not the money he makes and not the career that he has. How can I show him that I don’t care about that and that this is all in his head and that what he is doing is not for me because its killing me? Is it bad that i’m going away for the summer, should i stick around or is it good for him to be away from me as well so he can get some perspective?

sandra Says:
April 23rd, 2011 at 3:32 pm

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Lost Says:
April 23rd, 2011 at 10:31 pm

Hi.
A month ago I was lucky enough to reunite with an ex boyfriend from 25years ago.
The first two weeks back together were fantastic, we saw each other every day and became intimate again.
Since then he has started to distance himself a little and I became scared and became very insecure and needy.
Today he wants to have a talk face to face because he thinks we became more intense than he had expected.
I really don’t want to lose this guy again, I realise that I have pushed him away with my insecurities, but what do I do now?
Do I get in first and tell him I got scared hence my behaviour and ask him to hold off making any major decisions, or do I just let him say his piece and stay silent.
I am at a loss what to do, please help.

kj Says:
April 28th, 2011 at 8:02 pm

Me and my boyfriend were together for 1 year and 8 months.. on easter i found out he liked another girl. we broke up and the next day he was in her bedroom.. ive lost 5 pounds. idk what to do):
its getting harder and harder. shes always talking to him. he said he didnt like how we never got to see eachother even though we saw eachother every weekend! my sister never got to see her boyfriend at my age!
what do i do? :(

hellpppp meeee Says:
April 30th, 2011 at 6:27 am

k so me and my bf went out for a year and we broke up 3 days ago im so upset and i wont eat and i cry all the time. i lost my virginity to him and i love him so much. we both cheated on each other and got into stupid fights. i regret everything he is everything to me and i begged him to take me back but he sys he doesn’t feel the same but he still loves me and cares and will be like my best friend. now he is being so mean and calls me hurtful names. everyone tells me to just get over it and its not meant to be but i love him and don’t care what they say even though its true he’s an asshole. i miss him and want him back omgggggggggggggggggg what do i do plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz helppppppppppppp me, and also he is graduating next year from high school and i wanna go out again before he leaves and even for like a year or more idc i wanna be with him. wat to i do :( and plus he says he wants to be single but will obv be in a relationship sooner or later wtf how do u say stuff like that omg help

natalia Says:
May 2nd, 2011 at 4:50 pm

okay well my ex and i went out for about a year and two months….we broke up for the simplest thing ever and now we are back but..he says hes confuesd..has mixed feeling and sometimes doesnt know what he wants..and he gets mad easily he has me under my name and not as his love anymore..what do i do? do i move on?

Karry Says:
May 5th, 2011 at 11:44 pm

Well i was with my ex boyfriend for a year.And i have to say that he is my true first love.And there was a time that we would fight everyday for the dumbest reasons and i couldnt take it any more so i told him to give me space but he didnt he would go after me begging me to go back to him but it would only irritate me,he did that for atleast 2 months.And i would be mean to him and say things that i wish i could take back.then i noticed that he stopped chasing after me and i started to miss him alot.and then i stopped and noticed how stupid i was being..instead of me talking to him and trying to fix things we would just argue..and i would put my anger on him):..And i noticed how much i really still love him and how much i really want him back.So then i started going after him and i appologized): and i asked for us to start over..and he didnt want too because he said he didnt know what to do..and he told me to give him time..but i did what i know i shouldnt have i cried and i begged him..and i think i only irritated him.And then he said that we can be bestfriends for now and that mayb in the future something can happen between us too..but it hurts so much cuz i see him texin otha girls..and i just feel horrible that i lost him as a boyfriend..so what should i do??should i ignore him for a time?(and the bad thing is that hes in all my classes in school) like he still texes me sometimes but idk if i should text him back..i just want him to fall in love with me again and that this time we could fix things and do things the right way..please help me

Obie Says:
May 13th, 2011 at 7:56 pm

well i fell in love with boy he didnt want to have sex with or and thing he was also my first kiss and first love we live two hours apart and we dated for almost a month before he broke my heart we dated again this past month but this time when he broke up with me he did it for another girl we still talk to each other from time to time his sister and i are best friends or more like sisters now i still love him and i think he still loves me but i don’t know how to keep our love alive and help him want to be with without wanting to be with someone else i don’t know how to keep the patsion alive so please HELP ME I REALLY DO LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!

Natasha Says:
May 15th, 2011 at 9:29 pm

My boyfriend brokeup with me three weeks ago. We known each other for a year and four months and been together 8 months when he brokeup with me. He is my first love and the first person I has sex with. Ending of March that Wednesday we had sex and then that Monday he started to become distant, I do have to say we didn’t get to chill alot outside of our job since we work at the same place so I think that’s part of what made his deicision easy. He told my friend that his homegirl he knew for years had broke up with her boyfriend and came to him saying she was willing to try and have a relationship with him after finding out early in their friendship he developed feelings for her. He told my friend that he would cut her out his life due to the fact she never wanted to take their friendship to the next level in fear of messing up their frienship but she would sleep with him and that’s it. Well apparently she recently came back telling him she was willing but still said she just wanted to be friends but I found out after we broke up that she is physically their but he is waiting for her to be emotional and mentally their. I can see she is using him for sex and does not want a relationship. That’s why it confuses me that he would leave me to go to her and accept less. Well since we broken up three weeks I still see him at work, the first week he barely said anything to me but I would text him and call crying saying take me back and he would say he had to do this because he was changing and it wouldnt of been good for us. I asked about the girl and he would tell me she was not the reason. But he told my homegirl another story. Well I would text him everyday and thing by the second week he asked me to come over and have sex cus he missed me. I asked him where would that put us and he said he didn’t know later on he txt me saying nevermind he does love and miss me but he is not ready for a relationship again. Well I went back and forth and when I tried the NC I would cave and hit him up. One day he asked if I received some text messages saying that the girl liked him and wanted a relationship but he didn’t want one and how they were arguing about how relationships take 50/50 and he didnt want to be with her but that’s his friend and he does care about her. Well he told me that thinking I got some of the messages when he found out I didnt he said the messages would determine if we get back or not in the future. Well since then I tried the NC again and he text me at 11am and by one something he text saying if I was not going to respond then he would jus stop texting me. I had to tel him I was busy but I ended up telling him why would he say that when I hit him up he sometimes don’t respond or takes a long time. Since then I decided to do NC again and this time carry it out. Is it too late for me? HELP

Maddie Says:
May 17th, 2011 at 2:04 pm

Well, My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and I’m so lost in all of this. We were together ablout 11 months and I feel that It’s all my fault. He cheated in the past on new years and ever since then, I didn’t act the same anymore. What he wanted was the girl he fell in love with. Not some girl who yells at him all the time. He began to ignore my for his friends and things got worse. It came to the point to where he ended everything with me. He didn’t want to be friends at first but now he does but he says that he’s set on being single. I want him back so badly and I know I’ve learned my mistakes. I just don’t know how to show him that I feel the same as right before we started date. That nevouse feeling where your afraid of embarrasing yourself around that person. He says he feels the same and then takes it back. I’m just afraid that if I ignore him that way, he’ll easily find another girl. I know he tried to use projection, and say that ” You’re not happy anymore.” “You need someone better than me.” Those are just ways to project that HE is the unhappy one and I don’t know how to fix a situation like this. I know for a fact that I do want him. I had the week to myself to think about it. Please help me?:(

LOVELOST4EVER Says:
May 17th, 2011 at 7:59 pm

Last night I was forced into breaking up with my boyfriend! I say forced because he would have broken up with me. This guy is amazing. He is strong, ambitious, and extremely loyal. His greatest flaw is that he deals with problems in the most awkward ways. A few months ago while hanging out with one of my dearest friends who just so happens to be a male, my boyfriend called, I answered and my friend acknowledged him in background. His innocent remark rubbed my boyfriend the wrong way. It lead into a two week split. However, last night I learned that his feelings about that situation and my friend never went away. As we were having a casual conversation about relationships we spoke about our beliefs, the things we can deal with and the things that we can’t. From that I learned that he ultimately does not trust me. He claims that he trust me but that he doesn’t trust my friend. Now, since the actual incident I have completely changed how I perform my friendship. I stopped hanging out with him and I have even changed up how often we speak to one another. If ever he calls while I am with my boyfriend I answer, but keep the conversation light and straight to the point. My friend and I have gone from speaking to each other every day to hearing from each other every once and a blue moon. Anyway, last night he mentioned that he has never let it go! And that there is nothing that I can do to make him comfortable about relationship with this guy – WHO DOES NOT MATTER! So I said well since that is how you feel I will not keep you. I told him that I would rather avoid the development of even stronger love and feelings than I already have for him if this is something that he knows will always be a barrier to our future together. Quite honestly, I regret it! I love him so dearly and want so badly to explore all the possiblities of a future together. The thing is I know it won’t happen… he is a different kind of guy and he much rather leave the situation all together to him it is the only solution. What do you all think?

Maddie Says:
May 19th, 2011 at 12:08 am

Well, My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and I’m so lost in all of this. We were together ablout 11 months and I feel that It’s all my fault. He cheated in the past on new years and ever since then, I didn’t act the same anymore. What he wanted was the girl he fell in love with. Not some girl who yells at him all the time. He began to ignore my for his friends and things got worse. It came to the point to where he ended everything with me. He didn’t want to be friends at first but now he does but he says that he’s set on being single. I want him back so badly and I know I’ve learned my mistakes. I just don’t know how to show him that I feel the same as right before we started date. That nevouse feeling where your afraid of embarrasing yourself around that person. He says he feels the same and then takes it back. I’m just afraid that if I ignore him that way, he’ll easily find another girl. I know he tried to use projection, and say that ” You’re not happy anymore.” “You need someone better than me.” Those are just ways to project that HE is the unhappy one and I don’t know how to fix a situation like this. I know for a fact that I do want him. I had the week to myself to think about it. Please help me?:(
Sorry, I sent the wrong Email:/

Maddie Says:
May 19th, 2011 at 2:12 pm

And honestly. Yesterday, he tells me he’s annoyed with me and keeps telling me to hurry up and move on. He doesn’t see how hard it is for me and it seems so so easy for him. There is a girl that I was supisiouse of before we broke up and today, I saw her wearing his hoodie. I don’t know if it’s them just being friends, or if they have a thing. He would tell me that she was her “bro” and nothing was going on but I think it may be more than that. I just stated crying in the hall way when I saw her wearing it. I had a friend with with me to help comfert me but there wasn’t mutch he could do. I just don’t think he cares anymore and I want him to so badly. It hurts so mutch and I was feeling better about the situation and now it’s all gone to shit. He leads me on in the begging of the week and now he wants nothing to do with me. Please, please I need help:’( He was my first evrything and it’s the worst feeling that i’ve ever had. I can’t stand him hating me like this.</3

Stacy Says:
May 23rd, 2011 at 7:14 am

Me and my boyfriend were dating for about 2 years. We’ve been on and off but he has recently been like begging for me back. I realized I should just go with my heart, because even though he’d hurt me so bad before (with the other break up) I thought he was being sincere this time. I finally started putting myself out there again, I visited him (we live 2 hours away) for the past 3 weekends…
And then out of no where he TEXTS me saying “I finally realized were over.” “I don’t see a future with you.” “WE shouldn’t say I love you anymore cause were no dating.”
After THREE years of dating thats all I get.
And not to mention the fact that I ran into him on accident this past week and we just pretended like we didn’t see eachother.. We haven’t spoken since the last text.
Please let me know what I should do

Katie Says:
May 23rd, 2011 at 5:20 pm

Hi… me & my Bf broke up because he didnt love me like he did… soo i really want to know how can i make him get that feeling that he use to have for me.. do i still have chance to get him back… i really want him to stay with me we broke up aroun 3-4days ago… i really don’t know what to do… :(

LoveLikeWoe Says:
May 27th, 2011 at 12:46 am

Hello, my ex and I agreed to break up after 2 months because I was going after someone else and his excuse was that he still loved his best friend which he told me later that that was a stupid reason for him to want to break up. That happened at least 3 or 4 months ago and I really want him back. We text a little but we don’t talk that much because we got into a fight not too long ago. He currently has a girlfriend and they have been dating for around 3 months. I really want him back but I don’t know how to approach this. PLEASE HELP! :(

Amy Says:
May 29th, 2011 at 6:37 am

My ex won’t talk to me!!!!

elayne Says:
June 5th, 2011 at 6:56 pm

I broke up with my live in boyfriend of two years, three weeks ago. We met 30 years ago and dated for about a year back then. We drifted apart when I lived abroad for work. So you can imagine the fireworks between us when we met again two and a half years ago. He ended up moving in with me because his landlord illegally evicted him putting all his belongings in the street. We had been talking about living together in a place we chose together so although his moving in was not part of the plan I thought it would be ok. The problems started when he got into an argument with my mother who lives in the same house. In my opinion, they never made it right again. I’m very upset with my mother because you could see that she was trying to run my relationship the way she ran hers and none of hers ever lasted. It really hurts because in all the time I was with him, we never argued, we were having a blissful time. Don’t get me wrong, I sensed that he was volatile and maybe my mother sensed it too and decided to get him to show himself. I should be grateful to her, but I feel robbed. My mother who is in her eighties announced that she was going to make him leave and proceeded to torment us with screaming abuse at him, there was no peace especially on a Sunday. I am so embarrassed. After a while, he started staying out and was becoming really rude with it too. So I asked him to find his own place and we’d see how we got on from there. We agreed that he’ll have his own place by his birthday which was six weeks away. But when he spent his entire birthday weekend away I packed his things so when he came back on the Monday he would just take his things and leave. Because, it’s obvious he had somewhere else he could stay. Besides, he was distracting me from progressing in my career. He of course started screaming at me but I ignored him and firmly said he had to leave that day. I didn’t ask him how his birthday was or where he had been all weekend. I just wanted him gone! about three hours later, I got a phone call from his ex who he lived with before me. She was upset because she had returned to her house to find all his belongings in her front room and thats where she found my details to call me. it turns out that he had been staying at hers when he wasn’t with me. she then went on to say he’s on crack and beats her. I was and still am in a state of shock! He’s on crack and a woman beater?!!! OMG I would never have guessed. She told me some horrific stories about him adding that she’s surprised that he hadn’t hit me! I can’t help thinking – is she making it up to make sure I don’t see him anymore? Never the less, I sent them both a text not to contact me again as I wont respond. They have both called but I didn’t answer and neither of them have called back since. My problem is, I can’t stop thinking about what happened – I don’t want him back and would never go back to him but it’s hurting me that he hasn’t even tried to talk – apologizes or even thank me for being there when he needed help.
I feel like I have taken an emotional beating and want closure. Please advise me of the quickest way to get closure. I don’t know what it is, but it feels like I need something from him to move on. Any insight on what it is I’m doing battle with?

thank you for reading this

Cinthya Says:
June 6th, 2011 at 10:34 pm

So heres the situation. My boyfriend broke up with me and s.tarted dating this other girl who he said he would never date. during the time he was with her he told me that he wanted to go out with me behind her back and so we did. when she found out they broke up, we dated for 5 days until he decided he wanted to try again with her. So of course we dated again behind her back. When summer came we hung out on the first day. Ever since that day he just stopped talking to me. No explaination. I want to talk to him again but I dont knew what to do. So what do you guys think I should do

neha Says:
June 13th, 2011 at 3:14 pm

I got divorced in 2000 and then had a realtion with a guy after that in 2005,we started going around like bf gf in 2006 and are immensely in love with eachother,my parents got me married again in 2010 and i cudnt do anything to stop it and neither did he.finally i had another divorce coz the guy i got married to turned out to be a saddist.initially i was always in a bad mood and blamed my boyfriend for the marriage and stuff and in our society divorce is treated like a curse..anyhow he rendered support,we had lot of fone and internet sex and then suddenly one day when i asked him if he is ready to be with me all my life he left me…after a month he spoke to me again and said that he is over me and that he is gonna marry per his moms choice…i persuaded him to think about it and give it some time..he really loved me and i too love him alot…it turns out that after me explaining also he said that he doesnt love me anymore and has moved on…i am unable to get over it,i dont understand how can love just vanish off just like that coz of society,or coz of me wanting some time…he really did love me…his family and my family are both against our relation…i value my family and he values his,but i love him alot and i dunno what to do..he hasnt contacted me from the last time he said he doesnt love me,what can i do.He lives in australia and am in india…

rose Says:
June 22nd, 2011 at 1:55 pm

hey….i was seeing this guy for a while and i am crzy about him…..i tried forgetting him but it was not working…he is every thing i think about…and i want him back he still tells me he cares about me and he even told me he is dating this other girl…now we are just friends but i really want him back…

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!

merry Says:
June 23rd, 2011 at 6:03 am

i just broke up with my long distance bf.. and.. i know it that he still loves me.. n so do i.. but he doesnt want to listen to me..
i called him like 30 times.. n he didnt ans even once..
there was a sort of misunderstanding between us.. because of which.. he thought i was cheating him.. n he broke up with me..
i sent him many messages explaining.. our mutual friends tried making him understand.. but he never really listened..

what shall i do to get him back..
:’(

Sad Says:
June 25th, 2011 at 3:34 pm

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and I want him back and I did some of things I was not supposed to do. I sent some really bad e-mails and text messages. He said, I hurt him a lot. The reason we broke up because I had the nerve to send a message to ex to stop talking to him. That really bothered him because he told me they are only friends.And I have jealousy problems because I never could handle his relationship with ex girlfriend.

(Background info)….When we first started to date I didn’t have any problems with I was always happy and because I could be myself around him. And one day when we were going out on a date. He told me “man, I just woke up to deal with drama.” In my mind I said, we never had dram. So, I asked him what kind of drama.? And he said,”my ex was texting me that I never have time to text her first anymore and blah blah. I honestly At first I didn’t see it as a big deal bc I thought It was something temporary. As time started going on I would always see him texting her. I guess I started to get jealous. I would get really upset when he would be texting her around me. And we would argue about it. He would tell me they broke up and he would not go back with her. And he was with me now. And when I sent her a message to stop texting him she told me that she wasn’t going to stop because they are only friends. And she also told me that he never told her about me. And when he found out I sent her the message he was mad at me for doing that. And I asked him why she never knew about me he told me because when they broke she didnt want to know when he starting dating some other girl. So they compromise to never tell each other when they are dating someone new.

Right now I don’t want to do I want him back but, he said what I did sending her a message was really wrong.

JC Says:
July 3rd, 2011 at 3:17 pm

Hi there,

I am devastating of losing the right one in life and im desperately in need of some advices how to get him back as i know he loves me so much still,according to my friends.

We broke up for reasons.

He is the kind of over-possesive and over-sensitive he dont even allow me to mix around with guys and always accusing me of the things ive never done before.

For example,he asked why am i blushing whenever there’s a hot guy passing by when i was like : What The hell i dont even know im blushing and i dont even notice anyone passing me by!

i understand thats a good thing for your boyfriend to be a lil over protective and sensitive over you but in this situation i guess ive suffered a lot throughout the relationship and there’s a time when he was accusing me stuff about my past relationship i decided to teach him a lesson :Temporarily Break up. This is just to let him suffer from missing me too much and eventually realise nothing is more important than two persons loving each other and being together.I never wanted to leave him alone like what we’ve promised earlier but i did know he took it so serious and was devastated for a few days not contacting each until the time i realised my plan is kinda backfired-he never wanted the relationship back anymore and asked me to move on!

I am so afraid of losing him forever because i love him so much i never wanted to leave him forever all i did was just pushing him aside for a short period to let him cool down and think.But its all too late for me to regret and i hate myself for asking the break!

Few days later he told me he has fallen for another one and its too late to patch things up.But later i found out from our mutual friend he is just making up a story to set me free as ive complained to him ive suffered enough with or without him.

But now ive realised i was so wrong and i really wanted him back.he started to ignore my calls and messages no matter how desperate i was.After reading the guidelines i guess ive made a huge mistake for my first step and is wondering if there’s any chances for us to get back together in future?

I was like so dying even a day i never contact with him and is wondering if he feels the same after a week ignoring me.I am expecting a call or message from him but it never turns up like what it supposed to be.

I guess i ve ruined my chance.

I hope there’s someone who can solves my problem as i know he is my right one,until the end.

Thankyou.

Kelly Says:
August 2nd, 2011 at 6:49 am

My boyfriend and I just broke up. It’s a complicated situation. I am unhappily married and getting a divorce and he is in a long term relationship. When my husband found out it caused all kinds of drama. I broke up with him then changed my mind and decided I wanted to stay with him. He didn’t like the fact that I was unsure. I said it was too much stress and all the ‘drama’ was just too much and broke it off. I want him back. I asked him if we could still talk as friends and he said of course. Not the case… I supposedly broke his heart. As he says and now he’s breaking mine. I don’t know… but I am not letting this get me down I’m still living life to the fullest, but how do I get him back? He lives five hours away and the only way we see eachother is on facebook… I need some good tricks!

ao Says:
September 4th, 2011 at 4:47 pm

Hi,
My ex & I hv been in a relationship for 4ovr yrs & 1 yr ago he left me. How he broke up with me was…he sent me a text saying “i think we better move on with our lives & he said its not my fault but merely his..he is the one with problem & he wanted me to know that there is no 3rd party involved”.

The first 2 yrs plus of our relationship was superb until i found out that he swayed away by knowing others girls & i became over sensitive about it. 

I was so committed and I hv done so much for him..going thru when he was down but somehow he doesnt see it.

At the end of our 3rd yr relationship he really back off but to me it felt like he wanted to breakup but he came back to me within a month & he told me that he wanted a break.  He came back but yet he din really commit to me & we had problems until last year when he completely wanted out. After the breakup he wanted us to be friends..on & off he does call or text me for 3 months.

He became abit more distance to me  when i went so emotional & said alot till pushed him futher away. We did argued & yet he still response to my general text & we did meetup initiated by me about 3-4 times within the 1 yr of breakup. 

For yr info, he still occasionally response to my text. Meaning he has not completely cut me off & we met a few days ago. It was a very short meet & when we left he gave me a hug & kiss on my forehead.

After the meetup i did text him & he only response to certain text.

He has been saying that this 1 yr he has been very busy with his job & he still single but i do not know if he has someone special.

I still miss him alot & want to know can i still get my ex back after all the emotional act which i push him away.

Please help!

amber banng Says:
September 5th, 2011 at 3:05 pm

hellow there. i had a boyfriend whom i loved so much but the truth is that he never loved me.i decided to break up with him.luckly i found someone else who loved me so much n thats luchy bang. i promise the world that i’ll never stop loving him as long as he loves me.

chaya Says:
September 16th, 2011 at 11:09 am

hi,
i have tried the above with my boyfriend bt it really doesnt matter to him. he acts to me also in the same way. he behaves lik he is great with out me. he even asked me nt to call him n disturb him the last tym we spoke. wat do i do? i really want him bak.

Passion Says:
September 17th, 2011 at 2:54 am

Hi,

Not to long ago (maybe 4 months ago) me and my boyfriend of 4 months broke up. He broke up with me for another girl. We had dated before, 2 years before, for 11 months and earlier this year for about a week. He broke up with me the second and third time for the same reason and girl. Now, he is dating my bestfriend. I am VERY mad at her, and him. She went through everything with him with me, and she knew how much I loved him, and now she’s dating him. I don’t like him anymore, but I don’t want them together. Just the other day I over heard him saying “I can get any girl I want” and I just want him to come after me, so I can reject him. I know it sounds very bad, but I want him to have a taste of the pain I went through with rejection from him.

Please, Please help me,
Passion.

brooke Says:
September 22nd, 2011 at 2:48 pm

Help, me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 15 months now. We have been great together everyones says I mean not just as partners but as friends we get along so well. Then its been rough lately because hes gone off to University which is 4 hours away. We decided that we were going to make it work. We had a few down before he left thinking that it wont work but he told me that we will. Anyway he left 5 days ago with only a lame hug and kiss on the cheek. hes been away now for almost a week and didnt bother phoning me only when I got in contact with him did he bother. Two days later he didnt phone all day for two days i thought to leave him alone to settle in he wasnt answering my phone calls. I got a txt saying that we will make it work and that he loves and misses me then i got one later that night him saying that its not going to work basically dumping me through text. I dont undertand i think it was because i only just decided that i was also goin to uni. but he always sed that i shuld go. hes now saying that he doesnt kknow what he wants he ses he wants to be alone for awhile but without us goin with anyone else that we might get back together after uni and that he cant b thinking about what im doing. hes just not telling me properly its frustrating please help me figure this out im soo heartbroken and upset ive even lost my appetite and cant bear the smell of food
p.s we havnt spent one day apart since going out i still love him and i know he still loves me but its like hes changed.help me get him back its making me not want to go to uni. sorry this is so long

angela Says:
September 28th, 2011 at 4:59 pm

Hi i need your help!
Me and my boyfriend we have been together for 3 years, in our first year we are so happy i feel that he loves me too much and he always care about me, he is very excited to see me always and he want me to feel comfortable with him, a year after he become cold, he is always angry and he is very opposit before, he never say he love me now, and never care about me, never trust me when i was in his house, he feel that im estrangers with him,he never called honeyt to flirt with girls when we go out,he to stop with me because he dont love me anymore and he want space, i got so hurt and i harras him, i do call him 200 times everyhours and he cannot use his mobile for intance, he get very angry with me, oneday he really like to finish with me, he never open his door for me and let me to sleep outside, and he never take his phone, i cried a lot and i feel i become crazy why he do this to me? my friends say just let him go and dont call him, but in my heart i really want, i missed him and i want him to comeback with me :( please help help me what to do right now.
hugs

Kate Says:
September 28th, 2011 at 10:38 pm

I trashed my boyfriend’s personal possesions and have made his life for the next month really difficult. Currently, he is still calling and texting me because I have some of his things and he wants me to help him get some really important documents back. 1) Is he just keeping in contact to get his things. 2) Whether or not #1 is true, do I still have a chance to get him back?

I am such a fool for him!

Mia Says:
October 5th, 2011 at 9:19 am

My boyfriend (or so i thought, soul-mate) of 5 years broke up with me over the phone 4 days ago, saying he had fallen out of love with me but also that he felt he had drifted away from his family (Note that his family have NEVER been there for him and he was always going on about how awful they are to me. Also that my family have treated him like a son, even in August they paid for us to go to on a day out on his birthday, his family? Nothing, not even a card). To me, it doesn’t make sense, we were very close even up until the day he broke up with me and even that morning he tried to have sex with me….why????. We were best friends and i feel very betrayed, i was upset and heartbroken, now i miss him but also feel angry and like he needs to get a grip. My problem is that last night he replied to my message from the other night (which i regret) that said “if theres someone else i need to know, please”. He replied the next night with “No Mia theres no one else you don’t need to worry about that :/. hope your ok”. May sound silly but should i reply to this? I feel i should leave him to contemplate what he’s done and make him miss me but i also worry that if i don’t reply soon he may just think I’m over him, which I’m not.

Emily Says:
October 19th, 2011 at 4:56 pm

Hey!
My boyfriend broke up with me a while ago. It was a disaster. We’ve been dating for the past year and a half, and then everything just fell apart. And a lot of it was my fault, sadly. I made a lot of things to dramatic, and kept messing up a lot of things for him. Huge things.
He’s with someone else right now, and they’re already moved out into their own apartment and going to work together and everything.
I really just want him back… But he said he never wanted to hear or see from me again because I kept sending him those stupid I miss you messages and making him angry!!!!
My plan right now is just to wait for a while and give him some time to breathe and think… And then after maybe two months? I’ll send him a text saying that this is my phone number if you ever need me. That way I establish a way for him to contact me. Do you think all this will work?

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Alyssa Says:
October 31st, 2011 at 5:03 pm

So my boyfriend and I broke up and so I was hanging with all of my guy friends again because I missed them. He texted me one night asking me a question and later in the convo he told me that I am way to easy when I look good so I have to look crappy. A lot of guys want to date me but I don’t want them because I want my ex. My ex and I are talking and seeing each other but we are not putting a title on it because his friends don’t like me and my friends don’t like him. Its really sad but I’m happy we are talking again!!!! So looking good isnt always going to get your ex back in my book!…

ankita Says:
December 11th, 2011 at 8:16 am

hey…! i had a long distance relationship which is now over….we have two frends in common…one is his bro itself….we just had a fight few days back…..what should i do now..?? will these tactics work on him ???

Jessica Says:
December 27th, 2011 at 1:01 am

Ok, i’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and one week and basically everything is going great however he’s decided to break up with me in January because he wants to go off on his own and find work and start to get somehwere in life. How can I convince him to stay with me? I love him so much and i can’t stand to be apart from him.. Please help.. I’ve got a few days until he breaks up with me and I just want to convince him to stay with me but just don’t want to sound too clingy.. help please!

Lucy Says:
December 28th, 2011 at 1:36 pm

I was with my ex for almost 3 years, he cheated on me the year before but we got through it because I love him. Of course afterwards I began to get a bit paranoid about girls he was chatting too. I accepted he has friends and of course wouldn’t want him to loose his friends, but whenever I picked up on a problem with another girl, if it thought they were getting a little too friendly, it would end In an argument because he is very stubborn. Recently just before Christmas an argument broke out because he kept cancelling on me for other friends and family, I accepted it the first few times but when he continuously did It I asked him to stop. We argued and we broke up. I want him back in my life but he is adamant that hes moved on and does not care bout me anymore. I asked him over to discuss things but he just ignored me for weeks and completely ruined my Christmas. I told him how I felt About him and how I was sorry we argued (even though I wasent) but he doesn’t want to know me anymore. Around september time we broke up because of some problems, I wanted to move on but he sbegged and begged for me back. I gave in and took him back as he promised he would change. My feelings for him grew once again and now he’s throw it back in my face. He wont give me the chance I gave him an I’m left feeling like an idiot. How can I make him want to be with me again?

eliana Says:
December 31st, 2011 at 9:35 am

hi, my boyfriend sent my friend a note to tell me saying he wants to break up and the reason he thinks im cheating on him but im seriously not that guy was just a friend of mine and he told me im selfish and i just control him all the time but i dont and everytime i talk to my guy friends he starts saying ur cheating on me and that annoys me because im not and i need a solution for this problem i want him to really want me :( and he is jelous that some bigger boys like me i didnt ask for it their the ones who do not mee what do i do i need help really badly ive tried everything but nothing is working

Desirae Says:
January 30th, 2012 at 4:09 am

Hi my boyfriend and i just recently broke up and I sent him text messages about being hurt. I also hinted to him at school that i was hurt and lonely without him and how i would be alone on Valentines Day now! I felt so stupid doing that. I really love him and he and I weren’t together as long as his last two ex girlfriends and that always bothers me. We are trying to be friends, but whenever we make eye contact I just feel hurt again knowing that i love him but can’t be with him. Do you think there is still a chance for us? I just want him back in my life

 

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