I don’t think so, Have you ever heard the saying it’s never too late!

I think you should try to work on your mistakes and show him that you have changed (actions do speak louder then words) fix yourself up too don’t fall off now!

Honestly is the best policy and after the change is done within yourself I think you should just be honest with him and tell him/her that you are still in love and you want other shot to make things right! If he/she refuses then why waste your time with someone who doesn’t want to invest in you?

Hi Rose

I don’t know why you guys broke up but I know that it can really hurt. However whatever your heart tells you to do right now, don’t do it. You need to approach this with logic and not your heart. So, if you feel that you want to phone him or text him or go and see him – don’t. For a while at least. Give him some space to miss you.

Give yourself a makeover – get a new wardrobe or a just a sexy little dress that will make you feel wonderful. When you do go out in public, look your best. He must be able to see how gorgeous you are and how well you look. Try and hang around the same places he does looking your best – he will soon notice the difference in you and wonder what happened!

Hanging out with another guy might not be the best way to get him back – depending on what your relationship was like. Is he the jealous kind? Then being seen with another guy might just be the kick in the butt he needs. If he wasn’t jealous, its quite a different situation. If he is not the jealous type and he sees you with another guy he might assume that you have moved on and use that as permission to start dating other girls. You know him better than me so its your call.

But do yourself a favor and do things for yourself too – spoil yourself with a new hairdo or a facial etc. It will give you that extra little edge that you need that will hopefully lure him back.

Hi. Well my boyfriend had BROKE UP with me for another gurl. And I want to know how can i make him want me back. Because i really loved him and cared for him.But he told me we can be friends, but i don’t want to be friends i want to be like we use to be.Can you please help me?

Hi Channa

I know it hurts and all you want to do right now is to be with him to feel better. But the worst thing you can do now is to hound him trying to get an answer for what is happening.

This is the best advice I can give you – keep your distance, don’t phone him, don’t text him, don’t visit him – at all. Give him time to miss you and I can guarantee he will be around some time or the other. You just need to be strong and wait it out.

I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is the only thing that will work right now otherwise you are going to come across as needy and that will scare him off for ever.

Cassie

Hey, me and my boyfriend were together for 10 months, then 3 weeks ago something terrible happened; my boyf broke up with me because ‘he didn’t love me and wanted more freedom’. But ever since we split up, he’s been really confusing me! Everytime I see him he’s always looking at me, and when i’m with a guy friend he’ll constantly question me about them! However, my ex boyf has recently turned into a bit of a ‘manwhore’ and has got with various, different girls. This isn’t like him, he’s changed into a new person, but in a negative way! Alot of people have said they think he’s just going through a phase at the moment. There has been other confusing incidents such as yesterday for example; he was with me and my friends for a while, but then got angry with me for no reason at all and went home. Later on that night, he text me. And then this morning, he was being all nice and text me first. I love him so much, he was my everything and still is, I want him back, yet i’m so confused please help!

I broke up wit my boyfriend an I kno it was a mistake…we’ve been 2 getha 8 months an he jus recently moved to ga he’s n the army.I tried tlkin 2 him cuz I want to wrk it out but now he says he jus doesn’t want to b wit me I’ve tried leavin it alone but I can’t I call him an txt him but he doesn’t reply or answer is there away to get him back

I had been with my boyfriend for nearly a year.

Please, please help me. Me and my boyfriend have split up 6 days ago. He said hes not going to take me back. Basically he was chatting to this girl on email 6 months ago since then i have been questioning everything. I am quite an insecure person and lack self esteem and self confidence as i was in a violent relationship.

PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME IM LOST IM NOT EATING, I LOVE HIM SO MUCH

He said he cant go through it again as its too hard. we are living 200 miles apart. I had to leave our flat. when i ask if he still loves me he says stop it but last week he said he loved me and i was the one.

please help!!!

My boyfriend and I had been to 2gether for 3 years. and recently he just broke up with me but calls it taking a break. hes under alot of stress right now with his job and his money issue and I hope that its really not me but he is taking his frustration out on me. We also live an our away from each other so i would only see him on the weekends and i would want to go do stuff and he was always exhausted from his week of work. We would fight and disagree alot but were still young, but we also had alot of good times too. He says has not been happy the past couple months and neirther have i. he said he still loves me but he thinks if we get back together right now that its going to be the same old crap that we were dealing with be for. I still love him very much and i miss him terribly. I hope he feels the same way about me to. How do i get him to really want me back. I want nothing more than to be in his arms again..

Hello,
I am desperate for any advice that anyone can give me. My ex boyfriend and i had dated for a little over a year and I broke up with him about two weeks ago. To explain my story a little bit more, my boyfriend had decided to do a career change that would have him traveling to different states and countries most of the time. We decided to do long distance which I knew was hard but what made it harder was that he really didn’t do much to sustain our relationship. i felt like i was doing it all single-handedly. He would hardly call me at all. He sent text messages sometimes but i tried to tell him that texts were so informal and that I needed him to call more. He would go a week or two without calling.

I tried numerous time to talk to him and let him know how I felt, and I feel that i was being as amicable as i possibly could but he still wasn’t meeting me half way. he would just tell me, “oh, wait until I come back home. Things will be better.” I think that sucks though because he is only home a few months and then goes and travels. So you’re going to be good to me for a few months and then when you’re gone forget about me most of the time.

I sent him a text a couple of weeks ago after waiting a week to hear from him and got fed up and texted him with he had one week to get his shit out of my place and after that i would discard all of it. He never replied. I eventually sent him an email apologizing for how I had ended it and told him i didn’t want to be on bad terms but I still haven’t heard anything. I know he’s pissed that I sent that text to him and basically gave up on us, but how much more can I take? I felt like it was a big fuck you to me whenever I would tell him how i felt and then he would just disregard my feelings or make up a ton of excuses as to why he “couldn’t” call.

He comes back from the Phillipines next month and I am unsure of how to get him to start talking to me again. I don’t know if he’s waiting until he gets back so that he can really talk to me or if he’s done with our relationship after i told him to get his shit. I want to try to reconcile things and get him to be interested in me again and want to hang out with me and stuff. How would i go about doing this?

hey! um well i have been reading alot of these sites tryin to get help! he broke up with me 5 days ago
i always wud pick fights get mad about everything , he was an amazinggg boyfrien , always there for me called me it was only a month but i lost my virginity to him and i miss sex
i have beggggeddd bak for him, got my frens to call him …msg him , my sister , i have stooped to get him back when all i needed to do was givee him spacee ! i becamee spoilt and a bitch but it ws cuz i was so scared to loose him , he shows like he doesnt care and ttold me he never wants me back he is sooo fed up of my jealousy and accusing him , how i never appreciate him etc
its sooooo hard i havent eaten i cry everyday n today i called him bawling n beggin altho i know this is turning him off obv

but he use to do eveything for me
i miss him
helpppp

hi. i don’t even know where to begin. ive been with someone on and off for the last 5 years. we have a love/hate relationship. we started off when we were young, i was barely 20 and he was 21. we have been through absolute hell and back again and still manage to keep coming back to each other. we’ve both cheated on each other.
despite how bad this relationship sounds, we love eachother dearly. we have gotten so close and share so many wonderful memories, and have also been there for each other through thick and thin.
this year has been the worse year ever. we are not together anymore. he says its never going to work. i am truly heart broken. but we still see each other and i know its wrong.
i want to be with him, but he’s just done me wrong so many times, i don’t understand why i feel this way. i cannot let him go, although i know that that’s the right thing to do.
but i still love him, and just want him to change.
am i crazy?

Hello, Me and my boyfriend broke up last saturday , so its been a week . I miss him so much. I broke up with him because it was a couple a weeks before i broke up with him and he started to change and quite.. he was living with me because his parents were mean to him so i said live with me until he leaves, he’s in the navy and will be gone for two years and leaving this aug. But i broke up with him because first everytime i asked him what was wrong he always said nothing or im tired.. and i got the feeling he didnt want me anymore. come to find out he kinda didnt cuz he said i was acting immature but i know he loved me i just know it. also i found out he was smoking after he told me he stopped doing that. But now since we havent talked i feel like i can change now and stop bein immature and start getting him back . but i dont know how.. I text him today saying hey are we still friends? and i told him i missed talking to him in like a friendly way… and he said yes were still friends but im kinda busy right now can we talk tonight? and i said yes what time ? he said idk im out of town and i said okay well i guess ttyl then. and that was it.. so im hoping he will text me tonight.. but i just dont know what to say to him .. can someone help me asap! The 12 would have been are 4th month going out..

hi,
i broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and i don’t know what to do. it was really weird. his friend told me that he doesn’t wanna talk to me anymore. i don’t know why. We’ve been goin out for 7 months. and i saw my boyfriend leaving these pervertish comments on this half naked girls pix in her blog. my life is miserable. this is the worst break up ever. somehow i feel like it’s not an official break up. i tried calling him but he would just hang up on me or turn his phone off. i wanted to know what’s wrong. he even had me top on his friends and now i’m 2nd last and has the naked girl’s blog first. it’s killing me. we weren’t having problems except that he keeps on flirting with so many girls and that pisses me off. what should i do? please helppp

Um. Hay well I broke up with my EX boyfriend awhile ago becuase I liked someone eles and he was kind of prude. But I txted him today him and he said he doesn’t want to be friends or anything he wants me out of his life and to never talk to him ever again and I said sorry aalot and stuff but I want him to like me or jjust to be friends becuase I was his first love and I loved him I say all kinds of sweet love stuff to get him to like me it works sometimes but I didn’t this time SOS help me I need help I want him to like me again or friends or something!!???? I try to flirt with him but nothing back =(((((( can you help me pwety pwease we a RED cherry on top =O

my boyfriend broke up with me last summer, and went out with another gurl who he belives is prettier…i was very depressed during that time..i fb msged him many times…i cudnt call him because he lost his phone in a car accident..from last summer, i never looked at any other guys or thought of any other guys. He sent me a msg on fb saying ” you F***** i dont want you anymore..i have a prettty gurl now..and all that stuff..but he messaged me for my birthday and told me happy birthday and that i should forget him because hes not the right guy for me. Then around february…i added him on facebook after nine months of not talking. HE sent me a message saying that i should wait until i was 17 and that hed think about getting back with me. i asked for his number and i started to call him each and everyday. He told me he lied about having a gurl and he jus wanted to get away from me because i always accused him of things and yelled and fought with him for everything. My ex boyfriend acted like he mad multiple personality, one day he would be all sweet and love me, then he would say he has a girlfriend and that he loves her, then he would say i dont love her you were my true love, then, il come back to u for sure when she leaves me because i cant leave her she’ll rip apart into pieces. She finally left him a month ago, but now suddenly he fell madly and deeply in love with her and doesnt want to talk to me ever since she left him, he dosnt pick up my calls aymore, keeps telling me he hates me and doesnt want to talk to me and tells me not to call him ever agian and he doesnt want me in his life and often swears at me. Before his girl broke up with me..he sometimes told me to move on and when i once told him il move on, he got bit emotionally and talked as if he still wanted me around, but ever since his gurl left him…hes beeen all about her and wont talk to me at all…its been one year now…we broke up last summer..we start talking after 9 months…its summer agian..and he wont talk to me AGIAN. Im feeling the same pain twice..but this time 100 times harder, please help me, im very depressed, please help me

ok so im madly in love with my ex we broke up about a week ago, and i screwed up.i freaked out on him a little bit and i begged for him back..which pushed him away and our friends wouldnt stop calling him which pushed him away even more.he says he doesnt love me right now because the way i acted and were friends but i wont have another chance with him.i dont believe this because how much we loved eachother.we broke up because he got scared and ran.he wants to be single now.i want him back and i dont think its too late espescailly because he called me yesterday it was random and kinda stupid conversation so it makes me think hes missing me.and he called when he found out something happened in my family.so i know he still cares.so what do i do to get him back? and fast. i dont want to wait months.

hi, my ex and i knew each other in university!
but he went to germany for higher education. we met each other for 6 month! i broke up with him at first becuz of long distance relationship! but he called me after that! after he went he broke up becuz of same reason!!! and told me that i was just a friend to him after that call that i broke up with him! i have been confused, becuz he told me:” i love you!” and he kissed me. and he lives in germany now!

Hi,
My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years and everything seemed fine. About a month ago he just broke up with me, he said he felt we’d become just friends, that we’d settled and that he wanted to be single. He was very upset & said he needed to think about it some more but after he said it was definatly over. He said he wants to stay friends but thats it. I still had alot of his stuff at home so I took it back & we had a chat about everything. It made me feel better but there are some things that bug me. We spoke over the phone before the meeting & he said he’s always felt we had no chemistry, which I know isn’t true & he sort of admitted when we spoke face to face. He texted me a few times telling me that he felt I was the pea on his fork of life but i didn’t stay on & another night he texted me when he was drunk saying that if I ever had any trouble with another guy to ring him & he’d sort him out… When we met & spoke, it was awkward in places but we had a laugh together, he said he still really likes me but that we were to put all this behind us & get on with our lives. I admitted that i felt like i didn’t know him anymore, that i was afraid to text him etc. He texted me the day after askin how I was & whether I was still afraid to text him. We chatted for a bit & then left it at that. We still have contact over the phone & internet, he usually texts me or rings me… I don’t really understand what he wants… help.

hi well my exand i boke up a long time ago and he went in another country for studing,and i went out with a guy who loves me from the bottom of his heart.he came to meet my parents and tell him about our plans for the futue.but recently my ex has come back and we are doing a social activity together with some friends and we are still attracted to each other,we have discussed about this matter but we could not find any solutions.he said he feels good with me though he ha his girlfriend and i feel the same way too.but now i dnt know what i feel for my manwho adores me,ive never felt the same as i feel for my ex,,i dont know what to do plz help me out

Hi Monica

OK, you are not going to like what I have to say – but you are going to have to stop acting so needy and start acting as if you don’t give a damn.

You need to act as if you don’t have a care in the world about him not showing you any attention. You need to just about completely ignore him – in bed, turn on your side and sleep the other way, as far away from him as you can.

Go out with your (female)friends if you can arrange a babysitter for your daughter. Dress sexy and don’t tell him about your day or what you have planned. More importantly – don’t ask him what he has planned for the day or what he has done with his day – even if he comes home late.

You need to act aloof – as if you don’t give a sheit about what he does or what he thinks. Ignore him, don’t talk to him. Take your time in the bathroom and come out looking gorgeous. Don’t make small talk with him. Don’t say goodbye when he leaves or hallo when he comes back – unless he says it first.

I can promise you he will be panting to know what is up with you and why you are ignoring him. Once he starts showing some interest again, you can talk to him but stay aloof as though you don’t really care where this relationship is going. He will be eating out of your hand in a week or two!

Cassie

Hi..my story is too complicated..I need your advise! I met my xbf through a friend of mine in uni..we got along together and we had wonderful unforgetable year together,,until he had to travel to his hometown where his family live to visit and to go take the british passport and he could come back to me find better opportunity of work and that could help us get married and not feeling rejected by my family knowing that he can’t support me a living..I understood his situation and I trusted he will be back till that day came were he rejected to give him the passport he was holding his hope on and he got disappointed and disappointed me with him..he broke up with me feeling uselesss,,depressed, and having to manage what he must do in his life..and that letter I receive from him the reason what made him broke with me: “I adore every bit of ur personality every bit I mean it and I know in my life till I die I will never c any1 can love me like u,but there are reasons I can’t b with u.1, I am a man and need to b the provider I can’t give u the life that u have which is a big problem n will cause many many problems between us n ur family cuz I believe if I want to take u from ur family house the least I can do is give u the same life u had in ur home not less.2 I don’t want to work in ur country for salary all my life no matter were I reach ill still b paid salary but here were i am I have better chances of making it n am working hard I am not thinking about any1 but myself cuz No1 can help me but me…I am being selfish but I have too.my life is hard..everything I told u b4 was real I dint lie in one word but my life got so tough I needed to act this way I don’t want to give u any hope & disappoint u, nothing will come out of me..I don’t want to lie to u so i forced myself I had to end this,I had to say things I don’t really want to say and am still doing this I guess somethings r just not destined to be.I didnt mean for all this to happen cuz it was not part of my plan looks like life had its own plans for me..” and he asked me to be best friends..I believe he is too precious to me more than I ever thinked,,,I can’t have him as a friend..how could I make him a friend if he’s my entire life..I’ve been connected to him now for 3 years not able to get along with other guys and finding difficuilities in accepting any other rather than him..very hard can’t even see any other in my eyes rather than him..I want to be with him..he is in other country now for 2 years and a half and i can’t go to his country were he lives and everything is going out of my control..I wanna be wheere he is now…wish I could be with him that’s the last wish i would as for before I die..he means alot to be..how can I make him love me again with the long distance situation,,,he is forgeting me actualyy acting he does goes I’m sure he won’t ever forget me all his life whatsoever he tried..but still i’m loosing him i want to be his 4ever i reaally want him to be mine…how could i make it work…knowing im in a country and he is in another country which seperate us away from each other…I want a solution can’t stay depressed all my life..if I could 4get him i would have haad forgotten him 2 and a half years before,,but day after day i look inside of me feelling loving his love in day growing day after day..i’m not acting that emotional i just speak out my mind and heart..i reaally can’t be without him he is everything to me…and i can’t 4get him not even i tried to know another cos that’s impossible i can’t i’m tooo attached to him I swear i tried to forget but his still in me I failed to do so…i’m asking you kindly find me solution I want him back and mine 4ever…please email me ur advise i will really appreciate it..

Hi, my ex broke up with me but it wasnt the first time. Each time he would leave me was for some dumb reason, and he knew each time i would be the one coming back to him trying to fix things. I’m tired of him taking me for granted. He broke up with me again and I’m trying so hard not to text him or call him, but every part of me is dying to hear from him. How can I stay away from wanting to talk to him when he is all i think about? I want him to get the message that I’m worth fighting for and that if he keeps on with the same he’s going to loose me for ever.

Hi .. im 15. i got pregnant when i was 14 and my boyfriend jesses parents kept me away from him whn i was 4 months along. i cryed everyday everynight. thn he turned 18 he came and we were together agian, but whn we couldnt see each other their was other girls. =[ ,, and i had the baby and she was big heathy girl named Alaina, and a month later everything started going bad, i didnt want him to hang out with any of his friends i wanted him to help with the baby. all he wanted to do was go hang out with his buddys all day everyday. i got feed up with it, and got a little controlling. thn i stoped that cause it oviously didnt wrk. he ended up moving out but we were still together, he thn cheated on me, i stayed with him (was that bad?) .. and he broke up with me 1week ago, i cant stop thinking about him!! & i just found out today tht he cheated on me with a few girls 4weeks ago =[ … i love him
but what do i do?

OK , its me again to finish what I started and to apologise for the previous spelling errors due to haste.

So, here goes:

I will personally come and shake you if you dont cut your emotional ties with this loser. You do not want him because he is the loser who lost a beautiful loving woman.

You will from today – cut him off physically, emotionally and in every way possible. When you do that, you automatically send a message to the Universe that you dont want any more crap coming your way. Slam that door real hard and imagine yourself walking away from it looking sexy, confident, smart and with your head held high. This is the Real you and You need to go and chase your own dreams baby….I cant wait to get started on mine.

Im a medical doctor who also happens to have a degree in Psychology from the University of London. I know what Im talking about.

Well, I have made alot of mistakes but doesnt mean really nutthin to me we broke up like three months ago and every time i look and him i get all blushy and get nervous but i dont talk to him and i dont call him at all enymore but the reason we broke up is cause he thought that i was going out with his ccousin that his cousin told him that we were going out but it wasnt true so then the next day he called me in the night and said do you want it to be over and i was like no please and he closed on me and i wanna be his friend now or what ever but im trying to get his atention so i can get a little bit of time with him to talk at lease and im really said,and i need advise for eny advise contact me in msn email,ros3m3ry@hotmail.com ,please help

I love my ex boyfriend he is 3 years younger than me he has been from girl to girl and people tell me since I left he’s been going down hill with his looks im in the ninth he’s in da seventh every song dat comes on da radio makes me think of him I’ve been wit many boys since then but I can’t find any one like dat wat should I do I love him

Hey, okay so me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago. We wern’t dating for verry long but he was my bestfriend before. I used to chill with all of his friends ALL THE TIME (thats how we met, i was dating one of his friends lol) But me and him just got so close so quickly. He was the one boy i used to look forward to talking to at night, the one person i could tell anything to, & if i ever needed anything i knew he was always there. He just really made me happy. So to cut the story short..i don’t wana rite a book, we ended up dating & things were perfect. Time passed and stuff started to change. He started being an asshole, totally disrespecting me and for some reason i never really said anything back to him, and i still dont know why, i think it was because i was kinda in shock like wtf? i never thought he would treat me that way. Well things continued to get worse, and i found out he was planning on cheating on me with some other girl. He called and told my friend (his friend too) that he was having this other girl over on friday and not to tell me because he really likes her and he thinks things between them might work out, but if not then id be his fall back..? That sucked to hear. i ended up seeing him the night that i heard that and i confronted him about it..he didnt deny any of it he just asked who told me. He wouldnt even look at me and talk. I was just like do you even care? He stood up and looked me in the eye and goes “no, i rwally dont care..I honestly dont care what you have to say or how you feel.” so that about did it for me, i told him i was done and we were done and i left. Needless to say the next day he had a new girlfriend..the “other girl”. He put all these pictures on his myspace of them kissing and what not. And then that night he has the nerve to call my fone and tell me he loves me.? I told him he had already made how he felt verry clear and i hung up. then the next day after that, he texted my fone a loong message saying he was sorry and he didnt noe why we didnt work out but he thot we should be friends because he didnt want us to not talk, and he didnt wana fuck things up between us more than he already had..I rote him back and told him i was sorry if he felt like us talking rite then would make him feel better, but until he understood how he made me feel i didnt wana talk to him. Then everyone starts coming to me and telling me how much crap hes talking about me. It was rediculus. I was so mad but at the same time i was so upset because i care about him so much and it sucked. Okay so from that point ive seen him at parties, we brought in the new year together, but we never talk. Its like putting in effort to not talk to him or make eye contact or look at him. New years eve we both got really drunk, and i told him we needed to talk. So we did, but again it was me doing all the talking and he just agreed we wud be friends. Ive seen him since then but still no conversation. =/ I know this is really long i just need to know what i should do. I want him to want me back but i think ive messed it all up. I cant make somebody care. I know hes happy with his new girlfriend, and yea she is pretty..but i want our friendship back. I love that boyy with all my heart (not in love just love..alot) and i miss him.=/ i dont know what to do.

My boyfriend and I were dating for 5 months until he broke things off because it was his first serious relationship and things went a little fast and he got overwhelmed. We had also been bickering briefly for a solid week suring a stressful time for us both. More so the fast pace was his doing, in my opinion. At first he always wanted to hang out, and I was very hesitant. Now, it is the total opposite and we broke up two weeks ago. He is going back to school soon and I’m not sure what to do to get him back. I feel like he will never change his mind and give things another chance. Im not sure what to do.

Hi I’m shania my boyfriend and I were dating for 5 months and on the 20th he broke up with me and now he likes my friend and now they are chillen all the time and I’ve sent him so many msgs and we tlk alott and I’ve like begged him to get back together with me but he said he doesn’t want me he wants my friend and I rele need him and I’ve done everythifng tht u said not to do like how do I make him want me back again I love him so much just please tell me what I have to do to Get him back!!!!

Shania

Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year now & he as so controlling, he wouldnt let me go out, let me accept lads on facebook, he really was too controlling for me, which caused alot of arguments, we’ve split up before for about a week, but i got back with him. I asked him if i could go out & he went mad because it was around by were my ex lived & he said its over & has egnored me ever since, ive rang, texted, emailed & i know they say just dont do anything to make him no you still want him, but its so hard when he was my life, i dont no what to do & he is really pushing me away, how do i make him realise he needs to realise soon or he’s going to loose me? xx

Hi,
My ex and we are living separate (Greece and Czech Republic). We have broken-up at 1.1.10. I agreed to stay be friends Now he taxt me on facebook very offten, but as a friends. I want him to want me again. How?
Thanks a lot

My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago & I really like him. My friend hook us up. We are always textin & for some reason he will not tel me why he broke upwithme he says because he would never see me but he live s rite up the street from me & we always hang out. He such a player he was just datin a girl & while he was datin her. Me & him were textin & he said be rite back goin to get a shower unless you want to join me &he’s always sendin mi stuff like that then he’s always telling mi about he’s girlfriend. Then he knows I like him & he’s tellin me to get over him & he doesn’t like me back then he says he misses me & then he says I don’t like you then he’s tellin me. To tell my friend that he’s my boyfriend & he will kick my friend ass if he doesn’t leave me alone and I’m tired of cryin & bein heart broken & all I can do Is think bout him at school my friend grabbed my notebook & it had his name on all the pages all over the pages and Miss him and want himback I’m so confused help me.

Hi
I wonder if you can help me
i broke up with my BF 7 weeks ago and he says its cos he got bored and wanted a life this is doing my head in as he hasnt really given me a good reason for the break up we were good together never fought or argued and i,m just in a mess over all thi si,ve done the usual things of texting and calling and when i do he just ignores me then he called me a day or two ago and said that i shoudl just move on and that he wont be back though he wants to be friends at the beginning of the break up he said lets be freinds and see what happens but now he,s changed his mind and just wants to be friends i want him back in my life and would appriciate some advice as too how to do this ive agrred not to contact him for any reason for the next 2 or 3 weeks but is this long enough or should i leave it longer i just dont want him to forget about me thats all

adding to my above comment so…while the longest brake up we had that i told u about 6 months i was talking to another guy n he was talking 2 another girl 2. i got to like the other guy alot alot but than he stopped talking 2 me :/. n wen my ex n i ended up getting back 2gether he tried talking 2 me again but than i avoid since i was back with my ex. but now we broke up again n now that i try talking to that other guy he doesnt seem intrested. im confused… sometimes i feel that no matter what happens my ex n i will always end up 2gether. but i just really wish i can enjoy my relationship n stop the whole braking up thing!!

i did try all this n he did come back to me but later he breaks up again n every time he comes its with a new story n always saying he will not do this again but keeps doing it again n again n i just dont wanna make any mistake or regret by goin away from him n later come to knw that he really wanted me back this time what should i do noww????

Hi, I really need As Much help as i can get! I have been going out with my boyfriend for a few months . i really do love him but last night he told that he still has feelings for me and always will but he think it would be best if we took some time away from eachother cos he has so much on and is stressed out at the moment. I found it so hear wrenching everything had been going so well! I really do love him . But he still told me how he loved me and how i should think about it. If he did love me then why would he do this? He says he has no time but could h just be making up excuses not to see me? im Soo Worried and extremely upset he emant so much to me! Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. Please im stuck i dont know what to do i want to text him lter on to talk about it or something but i dont know what to say. How can i get him back Its All i Want .. Plesase help!!!

Hello. My name is Lyn.
My boyfriend broke up with me . He is an awesome man,he’a almost perfect. Suddenly he tells me that he doesnt feel what I feel in the relationship. That he doesnt want to continue if he doesnt feel like anything. He said it sucks cause im perfect for him; great girlfriend, great family, educated, all what he wants in a women. But he cant be with me just because im great.

He said he wants to continue our friendship, we can hang out, and no booty call because somebody will always get hurt ect.

After we broke up, I called him at first, but then I stopped. Well he calls me, I dont pick up. He texts me, really worried saying: Whats wrong with me? Why am I mad? Did he do something to hurt me? I guess I dont really want to hang out with him cause I dont answer his calls or reply his text messages. He always wonders what did I do in the weekend, with who I went out, what did I do.

Ive been trying to be strong here, but its hard.
I told him, why cant u admit it, that u miss me.
He’s like.. (pause). He’s like its not that, its just that your acting weird not like yourself Lyn.

Question: Should I just keep contact with him and go out and maybe he will feel again? or just keep being distant ? (I’m afraid of being distant cause he might go away no)

Hi –
A guy I have been seeing for the past year broke up with me because he said we were getting too serious and he was scared of getting into a relationship that he had no control over. He said he cares a lot about me and wants to be friends (we were good friends before we got together). We tried being friends for a couple of weeks (we have the same group of friends), but it was just too hard for me and a constant reminder that he dumped me. About 2 weeks ago, at his neighbors BBQ (who is also my good friend) I got too drunk to drive home and he said I could stay at his house. Being an idiot, I accpeted, but as soon as we got in bed I felt uncomfortable and left (yes, I drove home drunk). The next day, I told him that being friends was not working for me and he flipped out and sent me a long text message saying that “it doesnt have to be like this”, and explaining why he broke up with me (basically he felt too much pressure). He is now out of the country for the next 3 weeks and I dont know what to do. I do want him in my life, but not if it makes me feel this way. help!

hey, my boyfriend broke up with me tuesday, 16th of march. he told me he didnt feel the same like he was losing feelings but he hadnt lost all of them, i need him back in my life because while being with him for the 3 months we were together i delevoped not just a loving relationship but a bestfriendship we would spend every day on end together, im scared a girl might be in the picture a little as well. Im not paying as much attention to him anymore im just pretending i have moved on so maybe he thinks he is losing me? but im still making sure he knows i miss him a little, we still play fight and stuff but im unsure i just wanna know how to get him back we are going to the same party and im going to dress up so well so when he sees me he will be like :O i have already after the day of breaking up told him i love him and i want to be with him which i think was a bad idea because all it did was make me cry because he told me he didnt feel the same but he still cares about me.. i just wanna know how to get him back

My ex and I were together for 6 months. Apparently he decided to end our relationship without telling me. We had not talked for over a wk,being hurt,I said somethings I later regretted. Still,not a word and then I find out he has blocked my number. He refuses to have any contacy with me at all. I have apologized.but still nothing. Sadly enough,I still love him dearly. What do I do now????

hey my name is lexxi i have been dateing this guy jt about 20 times we would brake up then go back out but on march 3,2010 of this year he left me for another girl named meghan and now i cant get him back ive tryed everything but nuthing works i try to be funny and be like meghan but that didnt work so now his best friend has a girlfriend and now jt likes someone im all alone now i dont know what to do???

Girls — I have been the saddest I have ever been in my entire life thinking things will never be the same and thinking he really does want to move on from me. You lose a bestfriend, a lover, and you miss his family. Reading all of these comments girls have posted made me realize something….

We ALL go through this. We all will feel rejection, heartbreak, and find days when we can’t stop thinking about them. Everything in life happens for a reason. We have to go through hardship to appreciate things when they are right. Every relationship allows you to grow and learn more about yourself. I’m not going to talk to my ex boyfriend at all and wait till he first tries to contact me – who knows when that will be. Everything truly happens for a reason and if what you and your ex boyfriend had is really meant to be then he will come back to you..but you HAVE to give it time and be strong and make them really realize how it is without you in their life anymore. Let things happen naturally. You have to be real with yourself and tell yourself that things aren’t going to change RIGHT THIS SECOND or tonight. It will take a period of time before things can change. Everyone goes through this. Respect yourself and don’t talk to a guy that has made you feel this much pain. I know your first instinct tells you to try and rekindle what you had by telling him how much you love him, miss him, etc. But in reality it doesn’t work like that. Fight the urge to talk to him and let things work our on their own. There is a reason why he asked you to be his girlfriend – there was something special about you compared to all the other girls he knew at one point. He will soon come to realize what a mistake he made if you truly do things for yourself and not to make him jealous or want you back. Every day is a new day and everyday will become easier. This is when life challenges us and we become better people because of it. Truly believe in yourself and get the most out of life

I’m 50 and he’s a 58 year old widower. It was a first in a long time for both of us. I was trying to introduce him to a friend and he said NO I want to get to know you!

I was hard to get to know – a bit standoffish. He was so nice and kind. We talked and we had casual encounters. But he lacked follow up on keeping dates while at the same time moving too fast with emotional and other commitments like admitting he’s falling deeply for me, slipping with the L word way too soon, wanting me to meet his daughter when she’d be visiting from out of state. Asking if he could call me his girlfriend – all way too soon – within weeks.

We had incredible light intimacy for our ages we rocked but I could never let it go farther b/c he didn’t call these were casual encounters and I addressed the lack up follow up nicely let him off while letting him know this behavior was stalling the intimacy from getting to the best level that we both we wanted. I was cool that he didn’t call re: the daughter and reminded him we’re just getting to know each other – no need for all that.

After 3 months I even avoided him for 3 solid weeks and still he didn’t call. Then we had another casual encounter again wind up at his house again just delightful sofa time. (PS. I can tell it all still works…LOL)

Another promise of a date and again no call – I never call him. I see him again always randomly and he tells me he’s met someone he’s very interested in. (he met her a week aerlier and told me one week ago) I was so cool and confident and smirked that I found it hard to belive there could be ANYONE more interesting than me…LOL That I wasn’t threatened and felt we needed to slow down anyway. Besides that I was glad he’s decided to branch out after all how else could he know how wonderful I am!! He has several pairs of my earrings and wanted to get them back to me – I told him not to worry as I knew they were safe.

He said he respected me and wanted to tell me – I suggested he keep his dates with her as I felt I wasn’t properly being earned and he wouldn’t want her to feel that way he said he already messed that up but is working on it…

He kept touching me while we spoke and I had to cut him off – fortunately my cell wrang and friends were inviting me out. I told him how very much I appricited his honestly and went to kiss him good bye on the cheek and he actually went for my lips. I touched my clevage and lips and said ahh…ahhh…were just friends now. – and added with a smirk – for now anyway… he said i was a lovely lady and he didn’t know if he ever wnated to settle down again…as if that fit into the conversation.

I was seen by out by his BFF having an awesome time and looking ravishing another guy even picked up my entire tab…I’ve thought I should avoid him a few weeks 4-6 but i’ve read your advise.

Make no mistake I am as off the chain as the rest of the gals writing, my skin is hot, my heart races and I’m very broken up. This one could’ve been the one and I’ve not wasted time with asses I’ve not even dated in 10 years at all!! This so wonderful and I want it all what do I do?? Do I go out where he may be???

I know I sound especially cool but I’m an executive in marketing and I know how to close deals and read people. But I’m still shaking inside and it’s hard to even breath or focus. I have to remember NEVER let them see you sweat… and I don’t believe there’s another woman I think he’s painted his own over committed internal drama that he needed to back out of…but what if I’m wrong.

Hi,
My boyfriend and I arent broken up yet but we are on a break. He wants to think about everything like whether or not he wants to be with me. He told me that hes leaning towards being with me again but he told my friend that hes still no sure what he wants to do. I never call or text or talk to him first, I always wait for him to talk to me first. We talk about once or twice a day. The reasons why hes thinking about this, is because hes havin alot of fun with his friends and he feels that i dont let him hang out with his friend but i do, its just i want time with him too. Recently ive realized that Ive been more annoyin and bitchy as him and I kind a saw that, that was pushing him away from me. I didnt mean too. I just didnt know what ot into me. We use to be soo happy nd we always had fun together. This has really broken my heart. And i have no idea what i would do if he does choose to be single. Hes my true love and i really see him and I being together for awhile, even tho he says that he doesnt see anymore but i know he does or if he doesnt than we can fix that, right? When were together he acts like nothing happened and he still says he loves me and he holds my hand nd kisses me. Its like im so cinfused and i jus want him to see what he has with me, i just know how to make him see that. Please help!!

Ok so my situation is a bit complicated. I had been dating my ex boyfriend for 5 and a half years now and we’ve been through break ups and make ups to last a lifetime. We had a really bad break up last year around halloween. After december 12th, i hadn’t spoken to him for four months. No contact what so ever. The last thing we said to each other was ” I don’t want to love you anymore.” So i decided to make things right and end them on a better note right before my birthday. I called him around the first week of march and he answered and agreed to meet with me. After that we became friends and then we got back into a relationship. We had been trying since but on Monday we had a really bad argument and it reminded him of how badly things got before. So he decided its best we’re not together anymore. But he wants us to remain friends. He said I could call him and text him but physical distance is best for not because when he sees me he wants me all to himself. He said that he loves me and wants to be with me but the relationship has become nothing but problems and he’s tired of dealing with it.

What should I do? I really love him and care for him and I want him back.

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up going on 4 weeks now.I been taking it really hard because I love him dearly.he means so much to me and just recently I went off on him saying some things that I really shouldnt have all because I thought he was purposely ignoring my calls. now he wont talk to me at all and I really dont know what to do. I know I was wrong but breaking up really hurt me and at the same time it made me kinda mad..but at the end the day though I miss him and i just want things to go back to the way they were.I want to try to meet up with him before my bday and see if we could just talk but he wont answer any of my text or calls.I hope that i didnt mess up any chance we mightve had to get back together. What should i do?

Hey
I’ve been having this thing with this boy for 6 months now. I met him in November and he was so lovely and all the way through december he was nothing but utterly charming, however then in January he said things were going to quick and that we should slow things down a bit. Then that was basically it he never text or called, nothing! So I went out with this other guy on a date and then at a dance I met my ex and he was jealous that i had gone on a date ones with this other guy and wanted me back and wanted me to be his grlfriend then the next day he wasnt wanting to rush things again but it was all good, however then the next weekend he was horrible and really nasty to me. He only texts when he thinks someone else is interested. He keeps texting saying he likes me loads and that he just doesnt want to get hurt.

However i got sick of waiting around at the end of may and told him to screw himself and got really drunk and slept with his best mate but he went into a room and slept with some other girl first. I did still really love him but he was just taking the piss.

I have text him telling him i love him when ive been drunk. And he still sends me texts saying he really likes me but he just doesnt know.

I miss him so much but now he’s really mad at me!I want him to want me back. what do i do?

thanks! this stuff is really helpful advice

so me and my ex boyfriend have known each other since we were 6. we liked each other on and off, but were never old enough to actually date. after a year of ‘talking’, he asked me out. it was the greatest relationship of my life. we did everything together, we even went to mexico together. yesterday, we had the perfect day.
we sat on my driveway and talked, kissed, an drank pepsi. but right before he left, he broke up with me, saying ‘its complicated’ after the best day ever and he says he still lo es me! if he did, why would he break up with me?. even before everything seemed fine. he says he’s ‘not a long term relationship kind of guy’ but its been a month and 16 days. he doesn have a phone, and i only see him 4 times a week.
i really want him back. he’s told me he never wants to lose me and he’s planned out our life together already.
i love him so much, and i hope he feels the same way for me too.

Hi everyone..me and my ex have known each other for about 3 years – been together on an off..the first time we broke up it was because he still had feelings for his ex, then it was cos I was going away for a year… we tried the friend thing but lets face it, it was never a real friendship with an ex. One person always has stronger feelings and in this case it was me, so we ended up in bed together everytime we saw eachother…the best of both worlds for him but I was always left feeling used. I left for a year last year and we always stayed in touch its like he always kept a hook on me. and when I came home we talked and decided to give it another go. Well, it didn’t work!! (surprise surprise!) he hasn’t changed and will never change and its only now I have finally seen the light and am finally letting go of this guy.
Time heals all wounds, please remember that. One day you will all see the light too and realise you deserve so much more than some dude who doesn’t make you happy. Life is short enough so please try not to waste one more minute being uphappy over some losebag who doesn’t see the amazing person you are.

Start TODAY!!! Look your best, take care of yourself, have fun, date other guys, get a hobbie, eat well, sleep well and one day you finally be able to forget this guy and get your mojo back baby!

I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago because I sensed he was growing distant and he was’nt taking me out on dates or returning my phone calls. About a week after we broke up he started calling me everyday and telling me he wanted to talk. I ignored him for a about a week but eventually I gave in and returned his call. We met up and he asked if we could still be friends, and I agreed to it. We hung out casually a few times and eventually we ended up getting drunk and having sex. He didn’t call for a few days after we ended up having sex and I began to worry and get clingy and send him rude text messages saying things like “you never cared about me” and “you treat me like shit.” Eventually he responded saying that he’s a piece of shit, and he’s never going to change, and he’s gonna die alone.We haven’t talked in a week and I miss him terribly. I don’t think that I could just be his friend becuase I have so many emotions atached to him. I’m going to try my hardest not to contact him because I feel like my pursuing him is whats pushing him away. Do you think theres any hope that he’ll ever contact me?… and if he does is there any chance that we would ever get back together?

yeah okay so.. i broke up with my boyfriend because we were having trust issues. (i was having trust issues with him)anyways, we were together for a year and broke up 3 days ago. i had him right where i wanted him the other night he was almost begging for me back but then it all turned to custard when he saw me in town dancing.. and i had a few guys around me but i was only dancing by myself and with my girl mates, but he couldnt wait to find something that i had done wrong so that he could turn everything around on me so i would be chasing him.
so now instead of begging me to take him back hes treating me like crap and actually believes that im the one in the wrong even though its his infidelities that got us here to begin with. hes completely dismissed those and focused on my dancing with guys situation-and i wasnt dancing with guys.

how do i turn this around? because i was so set on ignoring him for ages because im usually very good at being strong and im not the chasing type or txting him heaps and calling him heaps type.
BUT, this weekend he has a 21st to go to and unfortunately one of the girls that is going i feel like he has a thing for.. or he will be tempted to do something with her if he thinks i have done something wrong. which he does. so im going to go crazy if im not there. i was invited but its his mates 21st so i cnt go unless im actually with him. um what do i do? and yes i know that i shouldnt like a guy that constantly lied to me and all that and blah blah but i want him to want me. atleast just for this weekend. then il go back to getting over him or whatever. i know its pathetic but i wont be able to handle not being around him when he goes to that 21st. and in general.. i want him to want me back. because hes the one that stuffed up. and he knew tht a couple days ago.. but its all turned around on me now!

I really want to get back together with my boyfriend, I really dont know what i did wrong. One day he sent me a text saying im dumped, but an hour later he texts again saying his friend ran off into the woods and did that text. The next day, he kept on accusing me of ignoring him, but i was just upset. he sent me another text saying that im dumped again… and some hours later he started lying through fb and msn to my friends so then they hated me, too. my friends seemed to ignore him, one problem solved. but then he starts being horrible to me on msn, then we make up and we are just friends. then a day later, he starts being mean to be again. i think it is because he thinks im blanking him, but im not, im just a really shy person. he now pretends he loves another girl and pastes love hearts and stuff on her fb page but i love him and i fell he loves me as well, how can i get him back???? thanks x

Im missing my boyfriend of 10 years so much, we been seperated for 2 months not and he started coming around over a week ago, we have 2 kids and its so hard because Im missing him. Everything I do I think of him. We were a good family we had our days of fighting and i would come home tired from working in a prison all day and be drained and moody. When he left 2 months ago he has been staying here and there, wont call for weeks then pop up out the blue. These past two weeks hes been coming around a little calling once in a while. He wont text me back at times or pushes me away telling me he want to build our relationship. Its making me crazy because we have had our relationship built for 10 years and have 2 kids together. I ask when will i see him and he will say today, then change it to tonight, then he will say i will call you later. He rather go out with his friends than spend time with me and his kids. Im depressed and hurt because he was all about his family when he was home and hes out of character. Im crying everyday and can’t function. I don’t know what to do anymore, I love him and wish we could just get back to gether but he never wants to talk about things because he says he gets stressed. How can I get him to just want to come home so bad he begs me? I don’t know what to do anymore.

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years to prove a point. It was valentines day(cold hearted and pissed off)
Stupid move on my part because it’s not what I really wanted. I guess when I’m mad I say stupid things that I regret, and boy do I regret this one…
After 3 weeks of the breakup things were back to normal it was like we were together without the “tag” Spent every free minute together.
I would nag him about what was going on in our relationship and what we were doing but he never wanted to talk about it. He would just say you broke up with me remember?
3 weeks ago he told me that I should move on and that for the past 4 months he had been trying to work on a relationship. working on what ? He not once mentioned to me lets see how things are, o r communicated to me about the things he didn’t like or the things that he needs me to fix…
Needless to say I am pissed , things were great. We got along great, enjoyed the same things, hated not being around eachother, still did our owen things without eachother…
Well now claims he wants to be friends and he loves my son and wants t be a partof his life but he is mean… everytime i call he says wha? or if i stop by he tells me to get out after 5 minutes…. this is not how any of my other friends treat me… I love him and I want to be with him … but if friendship is all i will get then I will take it… but not if he is going to be cruel everytime i talk to him….
He still comes over to give me “massages” late at night and excpects more…. I have told him that it can’t happen …. Why is he being so scruel and how do I stop it?

Hey. So my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me last thursday because he felt that when he was with me, he would “forget” about his career and he needed to move on. Of course I was devastated, but I did not surrender in calling him, or texting him. In fact, he did all the texting but never calling. until yesterday (the following thursday), i decided to go out with a girl-friend and go dancing. when i got home i just had an urge to call him, so i did…and he picked up right away. i sent him picture messages of what i was wearing that night, and he starts to get “excited” to the point where we ended up talking “dirty” over the phone. after that was all done, i realized what i did wasn’t the right approach to getting him back. now i wish i can reverse it, but what can i do?

Hello
My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me and he said he doesnt love me anymore. I love and miss him so much. I dont know how to get him back. we have broken up a few times before but he always comes back this time he said he will never come back to me. How do I convince him the I love him and want to be with him? Every time we talk we end up fighting because he doesnt want to talk about us he just wants to talk about our kids.

Well i need some help i have been dating this guy for 8 month and he is ten years older then me we started dating and then he started calling me his girlfriend with out offisially asking me but i liked him so i let it go he told me that he is set on his ways and would not change for no one, so ok we moved on and he kinda moved in with me and i started to notice things that i dint like we haved argued here and there for little things so one day i just looked thru his phone and i came across pics of a girls boobs on his phone and it was one of his cowerkers i asked if he was cheating on me and he got upset saying i disrespected him by looking thru his phone that i had no rite and he used that as an excuse to leave and break it off. He got upset and said i broke his one rule and that it would not work., so he left 2 weeks later he comes back just to see how i’m doing he keeps doin that for 2 months so i asked if we getting back together he said it won’t work why is he still coming back then. how to make him reg

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend. Because He proposed another girl. But I love Him very much. Should I just Go and call him.and Say him???????